wondering if there is anyone else here who is approaching, in, or just getting out of their "saturn return" (for those of you who haven't heard this, it is an astrological thing that happens in your late 20's/early 30's where you freak out and your life falls apart and then you either prevail and kick major ass or succumb to your insecurities and suffer... that's my general understanding, at least). whether or not you believe in astrology, ask anyone who is between 26 and 32 and they will most likely tell you that some major self-realizations/cosmic spankings go down during this time.
this is the age where people are supposed to get their sheet together and become adults, so making the decision to transition during this time, in my opinion, has some different (and also similar) aspects than being, say, in high school, or, say, being over 40. wondering if anyone else is on this train and how your relationship to/experience of transitioning is? 

I'm 23 and working on getting my s%^# together.  Here's hoping it doesn't take me quite that long to mature.

I'm absolutely terrified of aging, lol I'm 25 turning 26 in about a month, and honestly am freaked out about it. To me I never want to have my ->-bleeped-<- together as far as settling down etc. I know what I want to do in life and am doing it, but it seems around 24/25 people expect you to stop living your life and following your passions in order to "settle down" and be "realistic." I absolutely hate that and refuse to ever stop living my life as I see fit. So there!

I also have a lot of issues related to age and transitioning, feels like there aren't a lot of guys out there in the 24-26 range, or at least don't make themselves known. I never thought I'd feel old at 25, but it does make me feel old.

i'm 27 and i wholeheartedly agree. i can make my own decisions which sets me apart from transguys who are still in high school. at the same time i still have to build a career so i can't sport a "don't give a f***" attitude. and honestly i still sometimes feel too you and insecure for the big decisions!

i actually know a lot of transguys around my age, they're just not on youtube or this site.

I'm only 20, so butting in here, but I definitely feel like when I hit 25ish transitioning will start becoming a real priority, if it doesn't start before then. I'm too busy faffing around with unimportant things to look at the big picture right now

Quote from: bcv on April 27, 2011, 12:23:56 PM
ask anyone who is between 26 and 32 and they will most likely tell you that some major self-realizations/cosmic spankings go down during this time.
this is the age where people are supposed to get their sheet together and become adults

Well, ->-bleeped-<-, it feels like I've been going through that now...since the beginning of 2010. I've done some serious growing up since then, and as much as I'm ready for it to be over I know it's probably nowhere near done and I still have a lot to do and a lot of growing up to do. Including transition, which, along with figuring out my life, I'm personally feeling pressured to get going at this stage of my life.

I'll be 23 this July.

I hope I don't have to repeat this whole mess in only another few years...damn.

Immature in some ways, too mature in others apparently.

I'm 26, but I wouldn't say I'm a fair representation of any particular group of people, trans or otherwise. My interests and motives in life seem quite different from most. Age means very little to me and I don't harbour anxieties related to certain age brackets.

I'm 27, but I'm also in my second year of university, so I'm going to school with a bunch of people who are 20. My life resembles someone in their early 20's, except for the fact that I'm completely independent from my parents. My school friends go home to their parents for the summer, while for me, home is wherever I'm currently living. Sometimes I feel incredibly old compared to them, because I've gone through a lot and they're just starting their lives. Sometimes I feel really young.

I did get my palm read once and the reader said there would be a major health event in my early 30's.

25 here, and luckily i have a long way to go til 26  i don't know if this has anything to do with being trans but I've noticed in the last year or so that other people my age, either my graduating class or co-workers are either married and/or starting families, a lot that are a couple years or more younger too (not that i want kids because DEAR JESUS I DON'T). one is even divorced and re-married and she's only 24 i think. both that and career wise I'm behind. i don't really feel like I'm immature in any ways, as far as i know i act like an adult i just spent too much time sitting around not knowing what i want, who or what i am, or how to go after what i want to have a better life and just kind of settled, made excuses, put things off (sometimes i still am). luckily I've woken up some in the last few months, done a lot to get closer to independence and transitioning so hopefully by late 20's/ early 30's i can be fully transitioned. i guess the moments when i started wondering why i don't feel female last spring counted as a quarter life crisis?

I'm 24, and finished one college degree, had another in progress, live in a blue collar area full of small towns to the N, S, E, & W, and sadly don't have the money to pick up and move to somewhere with easier transportation and increased likelihood of jobs.  So yup, I'm in that Saturn ordeal you speak of!  I have done dozens of resumes pertaining to my skills/degree and no luck.  Looks like I'm going to have to hit up sweaty labor work!  Money seems to be the route of my (and so many others...) problems especially today.  It's getting so expensive to live and you need money for just about everything.  I keep thinking, "well, everything is so low, only way to go is up!"  So I remember that, pray for a miracle, and hope for some work! =)

I'm 26 and while I've been dealing with my dysphoria for many years it's only recently I've come to the realisation that taking steps and transitioning is the only way I will ever be comfortable with myself.

Also quit my (quite good) job at a bank to become a bus driver which my parents think was a completely insane thing to do, but I've always had an interest in heavy vehicles and I can remember telling my grandma when I was 7 that I wanted to be a truckie when I grew up! Enjoying it immensly and have just been made a permanent employee.

So maybe there is something to this saturn thing you speak of, everything certainly seems to be coming together for me

Yup, that's me at 26, although I know it as a quarter-life crisis since I don't do astrology. I'm starting to get serious about getting my life in order and fixing the mistakes I made the first time I was trying to be a grown-up. I feel like transitioning is part of that, but I also feel sometimes like the urge to transition is just part of that crisis. I guess I'll find out one way or another...

I'm 23, so not quite in the age range you mentioned (though sometimes I swear I'm 80 something), but I'm with Noah G on this -- if what I've been through since turning 21 (worst year of my life, so far) is going to be repeated in 3 years, I just say no thank you. Like coyote, though, the whole age thing doesn't bother me. I've always acted older, looked younger, and depending on the people surrounding me felt a whole lot older or a whole lot younger. I had to do a lot of growing up when I was 21 though, so maybe that contributes to the feeling?

Coming up on 29 in July, and I can honestly say I wish for all the world I could go back to... 19? 20? 21? The OP is right; it's like life hits you like a ton of bricks around 25-27, and says "Get your s*** together or get the hell out of here."

I've been on T for 3 years or so, no top surgery, no other surgery, and it's driving me INSANE! I've been full-time since September '06, so I'm sure anyone else who binds knows how painful and irritating it can be... especially when it goes on for 5 years or more. However, I've been so shoved into "real life" and trying to figure out how I'm going to sustain a living for the next however many years that I can't even begin to figure out where the money for top surgery, et al, will come from. I have a fiancee, 2 evictions, and tens of thousands in debt. Yeah... late 20s suck.

What's the mid adolescent version of a midlife/quarterlife crisis? Just quarterlife crisis again? I suffered with that a long time before admiting to myself that I'm transsexual.

Finally coming out of my Saturn return period, thank goodness.    I haven't started transition yet, hopefully soon. 

BTW, I think there's another Saturn return period around the late fifties/early sixties.