Jay -- I went once with you, for the January 2009 meeting. We went with S.S, and we couldn't find the building the group moved to and found out it was in the building with the swashtikas in the masonry...
I went again this past January or February. I think the girl you mentioned was there; there was a young girl about 12 or 14, MtF, with her mom. It's been a couple of years since you went so it might have been her.
I don't think I found they came across as very pushy about it but at the time, I had literally come out a week before and was feeling charged with post-come-out glory. So I felt like I needed to go on T ASAP and wanted my named changed desperately. So who knows, if I was questioning it like I am now, I may have had a different experience.