living fulltime, i'm finding this to be a challenge. i have lots of people who know me on different basis'. i have acquantances, family, family friends. that is mostly it. pretty much my friends would only be you guys on here. i've decided i'm going to correct family members if they get my name wrong or misgender me. the next thing is, family friends. people like neighbors, or any friends of some family member, i would also think is fair game to tell. last, just my plain old acquantances. some kids i went to school with is just about it. there's one guy i went to school with. he works at the gas station near me. he worked at the dollar general across the street first, but then moved over to the gas station. he's on a first name basis with me. he's said hi (male name) to me before. back in february, i was predominantly female, and i saw that shocked look on his face. obviously, he still said hi (male name.) i was in there with my brother today. that guy still works there as much as i wish he would quit. i had to tell my brother to just get my stuff for me, and then i went out to his car. i just couldn't handle telling this person or facing him especially with my brother around. my brother calls me my female name and everything, so i just felt wrong in the male name being reminded. i really wish i didn't have to stress out over some stupid things like this, but i still have fear about it. i try to remain in stealth as much as possible, and keep others at bay as much as possible. so, does anyone have any tips on what to do in these situations? anything in particular you have done that seemed to work for you? i was thinking maybe i should tell him something like, "you must have me mistaken." he may think i have disassociative identity disorder or something else rather than being transsexual. in these parts, transsexual is a taboo thing to most everyone.
