Nick, if you end up with some extra cash on hand, I would definitely recommend getting a soft packer.  I had a similar normal/comfortable feeling using a sock, but packing with a regular packer helped a lot more with how I felt about things down there.  Of course, everyone's different, but it's worth a shot.  You could also try a condom/hairgel homemade one.

Quote from: joeybrogue on May 06, 2011, 02:44:42 PM
Kinda wish I could wear one.  Gives you that little boost in confidence for macho sake. =P

Joey, have you thought of altering an existing packer? Maybe trim some off the balls or something? I guess it depends on your harness, but it's worth thinking about.

ETA: maybe you just haven't found the right harness or the best way to wear your packer?

I kinda have this fear but packing makes me feel more comfortable. What I am doing is I found a great way to pack (boxer breifs with iron on velcro to keep the pouch closed) I pack at my house and walk around outside to the mailbox or the end of the street where there are not many ppl.

I also remind myself that if someone makes a comment I can tell them that they are pervy for looking at my crotch and if said dick manages to escape and they see to look them dead in the eye and tell them I was in an accident and I would rather not talk about it, pick up my packer and calmly walk away.

Quote from: Mr.Rainey on May 09, 2011, 04:38:27 AM
I also remind myself that if someone makes a comment I can tell them that they are pervy for looking at my crotch and if said dick manages to escape and they see to look them dead in the eye and tell them I was in an accident and I would rather not talk about it, pick up my packer and calmly walk away.

Thanks for that.  I don't know how well it would work (seeing as how my packer is bright pink); I think if it were a legit prosthetic, then it would probably be a better sell, but that's a good explanation to have ready just in case.

I don't really have a fear of packing anymore.  I keep my packer very close to my body, so I have a minimal bulge.  And like a few others said, if I do catch someone looking, then I can call them out on being a perv.   

Arch,

That's a good idea... Although I fear I'll mutilate the poor thing to death... but since it's only collecting dust, maybe it would be a worthwhile idea!

Thanks! 

How would you make a sock work? And how do you know is it is too much or too little? How do you make it look realistic?

Quote from: HonestReflections on June 03, 2011, 09:08:10 PM
How would you make a sock work? And how do you know is it is too much or too little? How do you make it look realistic?

You're gonna have to mess around a little, see what looks natural on your frame. I don't suggest staring at a bunch of crotches in person lol, but maybe check out catalogs and stuff like that online to get an idea of what you're shooting for.

But how do you pack with a sock?

just kinda ball it up and stick it in your briefs

Will it stay there? I wear boxers.. I still have my female underwear if I had to wear them..

No....you'll need something close to your skin, like briefs.

Just check out the intro stuff here, it'll probably answer your questions

http://www.ftmguide.org/packing.html

You could safety pin it into place with boxers

I definitely have a lot to learn still. i feel like an idiot when I apck and bind... am I the only one?

Quote from: HonestReflections on June 04, 2011, 09:10:20 PM
I definitely have a lot to learn still. i feel like an idiot when I apck and bind... am I the only one?

Honestly when I first started binding I was pre-T and was still having a lot of anxiety around thinking that it was noticable that I had breasts and was worried that people would be like "why doesn't that girl have tits" but now as I pass more and more (about 95%-98% of the time) I feel more and more comfortable. 

Quote from: joeybrogue on May 06, 2011, 02:44:42 PM
YES! I stupidly bought the 5", thinking it would be more scale-friendly since I'm 5'10, but the damn thing seemed to adjust every time I sat down and stood up.  I was so paranoid one day at a doctor's appointment, I scurried out of the office, yanked it OUT in the parking lot and hid it under the seat of the car.  Never wore that one since. 

I have since purchased the 3.5" and it still feels like it sticks out too much.  I think I'm just anatomically weird.  Even with different underwear/ETC.  So, I just go without.  I don't think too many people are staring at my crotch to begin with... lol. 

I wish they could come out with one that would represent a guys junk SMUSHED as if it was in underwear-- I think the plumpness of the packers doesn't play too well for some of us.  I'm certain a fully flaccid guy might lack the bulk... unsure, but ...hey.  I can hope! lol

Kinda wish I could wear one.  Gives you that little boost in confidence for macho sake. =P

fwiw, a guy's "natural" size (flaccid) is between 2"-4". (In cold water, like when one is swimming in a river, flaccid can be as small as 1"...little nubbers  ) Full erection is about 6"-7" (and *very* obvious...especially in math class when you're called to explain a problem on the board...don't ask how I know). Also, flaccid is a bit thinner around, I don't know the measurements, but it seems about half as thick (circumference) as an erect member.

I once told someone that T makes you grow a dick.  It is true, though not what they assume.

I packed before coming out and nobody noticed.  I have stopped packing since lower surgery with the exception of the day I wore a suit, and nobody has noticed.

I packed for me.  I prefer loose boxers and they are not conducive to packing unless I use a harness, so I don't bother any more.


One thing I used to do with the 3.5 packer was to point the shaft up and along the leg band of my tighty whities.  Made the bulge less obvious.


Jay

That helped out a lot. I know that binding makes me feel better because I look more like a guy. But i feel foolish too. IDK how to explain it. Not worried about passing because my roomate watches my back. But IDK how to explain it.

Quote from: joeybrogue on May 06, 2011, 02:44:42 PM

I wish they could come out with one that would represent a guys junk SMUSHED as if it was in underwear-- I think the plumpness of the packers doesn't play too well for some of us.  I'm certain a fully flaccid guy might lack the bulk... unsure, but ...hey.  I can hope! lol

It's balls that give you bulk. If you don't have big balls and you have an average size dick you're not going to have an overly huge, highly noticeable package. I think a lot of the packers are not very realistic in proportion. And they have flat balls which I can't even fathom why they do that (I mean really, is a more 3D mold that much harder to produce?). I think they make the dicks bigger to compensate for the flat balls or something. But really, I would say there's a large number of FTM guys that are between 5' - 5'5" tall and generally I would think that more times than not, guys that size would not have huge dicks. So why they're making 4" - 6" flaccid packers is beyond me.

Quote from: alohamisha on May 05, 2011, 11:23:33 AM
I stopped packing a long time ago, none seems to notice, not even when I go to get
pants altered. They just take me for a male.

though I'm not quite sure any tailor would ask about his customers' genitals..

Quote from: RyGuy on June 19, 2011, 08:59:18 PM
though I'm not quite sure any tailor would ask about his customers' genitals..

They will ask if you dress left or right. This means which way your cock hangs.