I need advice on changing my name at school.

So, I'm somewhat out at school. People either already assume I'm male, know I'm transgender and accept it, know I'm transgender and talk ->-bleeped-<- about me, or they think I'm a tomboy or a lesbian or something.

Lately, it's been bothering me that my teachers and a lot of other kids at my school are calling me by my female name and it bothers me because it hits at my gender dypshoria. I'd say I pass pretty well, seeing as I confused the hell out of the substitute in Geometry today. haha And then a guy from the grade above me walked into my class, started talking to the guy next to me and looked at me, and was all, "Hey, dude. What's up? Holy ->-bleeped-<- you're so skinny!" and we ended up comparing muscles. xD

Anyway. My gender dypshoria has gotten to the point where I don't give two craps what people think about me anymore. My girl name always makes my dysphoria worse because I'll begin having terrible, dysphoria thoughts and...those aren't good for me.

To get to the point, I was going to wait till next school year to do this, seeing as I only have four days left, and those are exam days. But how do I go about this? Should I go in to the office a few days early and ask the principal or someone to send emails to my teachers about it? Or should I just go into each of my classes and tell them myself?

I really don't know if I have it in me to go through the next two school years with my female name.

Are you in high school or college? I can offer advice about universities, but I'm not sure I could be very helpful otherwise.

But email is awesome. I would email all of your teachers/professors about your preferred name and pronouns. If there are other venues or documents you want amended, if you aren't at a university, I'm not really sure which faculty to contact. Maybe just call the administrative office and ask who you should talk to? Or perhaps a guidance counselor could help lead you through the process?

Quote from: Mika on June 08, 2011, 07:41:12 PM
Are you in high school or college? I can offer advice about universities, but I'm not sure I could be very helpful otherwise.

But email is awesome. I would email all of your teachers/professors about your preferred name and pronouns. If there are other venues or documents you want amended, if you aren't at a university, I'm not really sure which faculty to contact. Maybe just call the administrative office and ask who you should talk to? Or perhaps a guidance counselor could help lead you through the process?

Oops, sorry, I'm in high school.

But thank you for the advice. c:

I'd second speaking to an administrator or a guidance counselor, whoever you feel more comfortable speaking with. Either one should be able to help you out, or at the very least help you get on the right track. Better yet you might be able to speak to them now while exams are still going on to see about getting things set up for next year.

Is there a teacher that you particularly trust or anything? They might be able to help you out as well. A guidance counselor, and especially an administrator, would be a more direct route, but if you'd feel better approaching a teacher instead, well, whatever gets the job done, right?