Quote from: Debra on June 15, 2011, 08:21:14 AM
boys are yummy =)

Well described.

After reading some very good, but long posts, this one was refreshing!

Pansexual

I want to lick your brain

I am attracted to both men and women - but in different ways. I imagine men loving me, and am aroused by imagining the interaction. Oh there are a few men that make me drool. I am facinated by women, which used to be vaugely embarrasing. Now I realize my facination includes looking at their clothes and wishing I could look that good in that outfit. For both men and women the "vibe" is more important than the "look." I am not dating at the moment because figuring myself out seems more basic than finding a mate. I looked for the wrong people in the past, because I did not know myself.

Good question!

  I am still attracted to women even though I put down asexual.  This 7 months of the stuff that I am on has dampened the sex drive to nil and curbed my lust towards them in a more clean direction.  I am still not attracted to men.  I am looking at women in the face more now and not the boobs.  If at their boobs now, It's the "No way José, you're going to develop like those"!  I am getting jealous. 
  Joelene

6 and a half months and I'm still gay

Hi there. I used to chase women all the time and some chased me. I have since become attracted to men mostly now and Ive found out that the girls that liked me were Lesbians or Bi. I only want a relationship with a man now because men make me feel really good and feminine. When I look at a girl and desire her something clicks in my brain and I start thinking Im a guy which is not good as Im a girl.

I liked girl before and pretty still like them now.  Though being with a girl now feels so right in a way it never did before.  I think it's to do with the difference between straight relationship dynamics and lesbian relationship dynamics.

I am not sure what my sexual orientation is.   I am not attracted to men at all.  However, I have realised that my 'attraction' to women is really an attraction to her clothes, her hair, her face and her being etc.   I would love to have an emotional relationship with another girl, be close friends and wait and see if love and physical intimacy arose from that.
  I am worried that I am going to spend the rest of my life alone as living with a man will never happen, and I strongly believe that non-gay women want a man for a romantic partner.  Lesbians can also be particular in that they often want a genetic woman for a lover.  I want to be a genetic woman's wife.

Lesbians are generally pretty accepting to trans girls (at least in my generation) so I'm not sure if you have to worry so much about that.  Certainly better than your chances with men.

definetley bisexual.
although looking at women has started to become a comparison thing, although when I see a really attractive girl I still get an exhilirating feeling.
with men, its more of a physical thing since, I dont feel beautiful inside. I do find myself wanting to be desired hoping that will make me feel beautiful, but I know my physical and mental are not on par.

i wasn't much of a boy when i was still male and pretty much enjoyed feminine activities back then, though i would still look at girls especially when a pretty one walked past me. so you could say i'm pretty much straight as a male.


after transitioning and starting on hrt, i posed a question to my therapist abt the possibility of still being attracted to women after hrt since i was a straight male before that, and she said it depends for different pple. when the hormones finally had an effect on me not too long after, i realised i was seeing women in a different light and found myself looking at and attracted to men gradually. it was unsettling at the beginning (because i found it odd being not attracted to women anymore) but as i explored my feelings along the way i found it fun checking out cute guys in the lecture hall and enjoying the attention i get from some of my male classmates.

so i supposed that makes me a straight woman now that i'm attracted to men. and in a way, it really depends on the individual like what my therapist says about hrt rewiring your brain during your transition.

Quote from: Carbon on June 15, 2011, 10:56:39 AM
There are men who identify as asexual, though they seem to me less common than women who do the same. You would probably have to specifically seek them out though.

Men who are not interested in sex tend to not be very open about it though because other people will make a big deal about it. That's true for women too but more so for men.

Thank you for making me feel real special like.
I used to always classify as asexual.  I was however, fairly outward about it [mostly because people would ask if I was gay, and I loved to give them a real, REAL shocker].  Then my girlfriend happened. Been over 2 years together.  She flaunts the fact that I was asexual until I met her.  We have our... activities... But odd as it is, as the woman, she likes it more than me... so much more.  I do not like sex at all, still, though I have been with her and actually committed the act by now [as people say, once you do it, you will change your mind.]

I dunno, every time I do it, I feel violated more than anything.

Though I have no interest in sex, I still do have interest in females, but I think that is more tied to the fact that I envy them, and to me girls are like smooth glossy stones, while men are like large boulders.  I prefer my pretty rocks.  I am fine with other forms of pleasing, but I think that is primarily out of fear that, as someone who prefers not to have sex, my partner will feel I am inadequate.  Or maybe it is simply that if I can diffuse her before we have sex, than we simply will not need to have sex.


I suppose I am a hetasexbian.

Yeah, well that's less than 40 votes out of a membership of over 7200, so don't take it as too representative .

PS I like your avatar! I envy your waves...

Speaking as an mtf I shall never be interested in men.  In fact I would like to quote the Rev. Ian Paisley 'Never, Never, Never!'.   Nietzsche wrote that a man gets his ideas of what women are from his mother.  I got my ideas regarding men from my father, that is why I have zero attraction for males.  Besidea I am a mummy's girl.  lol

Before transition girls, after transition guys......mmmmm, but they must smell nice and dress well.

Well, admittedly, I was at one point probably more bi than anything else. I didn't mind men, though I think I preferred women. However, as I began to develop myself, and choose what I wanted to be, I explored the possibility of men more than I had before. I was only sixteen, so I imagine my sexuality was still quite malleable - and is presently, to a point. I became very split between the two.

However, now at eighteen and six months on HRT, I fully consider myself straight. My interest in women is insignificant... I could not have an intense relationship with another woman, for both the romantic and sexual reasons. I just can't do that.

Additionally, though, I'm really a little asexual as sex is not very fun at all at my present pre-op stage. I just can't stand having that thing still around - I pretend like it doesn't exist, and I don't like it one bit that it has to come to play.

So, I'm asexual with a chance of heterosexuality, pending my SRS. My boyfriend doesn't mind; he's more straight than bi anyway. I'm sure being pre-op is not helping things for him either. However, being the person he is, he's too sweet to say he minds...

I answered "straight" as I doubt I will remain abstinent post-SRS. 

I would have to say I'm bi, but it's an odd kind of bi. I can find girls attractive, but guys, I just can't really see it. When I try imagining me with a guy though (mostly as a woman) it feels right, and I just get all excited and my heart beats faster. I don't usually see that with girls though, it feels right if I imagine being with them, but it just doesn't have the same feeling as being with a man.
Note: I have never been a relationship, so my sexuality hasn't been, say proven.

Huh!! Learn something new every day,

I just voted Bi-Sexual.  Having now just learned what Pansexual was, I will have to change my vote to Pansexual because, well, that is what I am ... I love people of all kinds both sexually and emotionally.     


Kalie

Could it be the fact that, pre-transition, many of us grew up with guys, friends with guys, and learned guy things?  I know I did, and I therefore am putrified by most men.  Guys tend to talk to other guys about women and its gross.  Why would I ever want to be with such creatures? They are so awkard....

Quote from: Sera on June 19, 2011, 09:36:06 AM
Could it be the fact that, pre-transition, many of us grew up with guys, friends with guys, and learned guy things?  I know I did, and I therefore am putrified by most men.  Guys tend to talk to other guys about women and its gross.  Why would I ever want to be with such creatures? They are so awkard....

Theory doesn't hold much water as there are A LOT of straight, bisexual, and pansexual trans women.  The number of lesbian trans women are far outweighed by the other three categories when combined.