Thanks for the definition of express yourself.
So instead of hidding who/what you are, you want people to see that? That part of you.

Want to be solid and authentic.

Are you saying thats how you become solid and authentic, by showing that part of you.

No, by mediating between in and out as honestly as possible, in all facets, no parts to show or hide - one solid mass.

Expressing yourself is as easy as being honest with yourself.
Everything else is just a facade that we hide behind.
Look around at people. Who looks solid? Why? Honesty. True and naturally derived honesty with yourself.
You shouldn't even be taking this as advice......
But your Facade should at least be translucent.
The less you depend on it the better you will become. At expressing yourself and even more.

for clothes i wear whatever i feel like that day. if it's not in my own wardrobe, i'll find it in my sister's or youngest brother's wardrobe. but i still only have female formal wear

expressing myself is difficult. it would mean i had to be myself, and it's hard to be that around my parents. but if it's people who have never known me as a "girl" it's easier, they'll just take me for what i present myself as unless they're men looking for sex. only thing is i'm often afraid of being too much of myself, not all sides are easily acceptable to other people, so i tend to seek out fora where i'm less likely to be shunned if i happen to be honest about the wrong thing

The need to express myself is what got me thinking seriously about what my gender really is.

Expression remains important.  But I have a brake on how fast and how far I change my appearance.  I thought it was fear at first -- too chicken to wear skirts in public -- but I'm starting to realize it may be a natural boundary for me, the difference between interdressing in a gender-appropriate way, and crossdressing which I'm not really into.  (Though with the right top, I *do* look okay in a long flowy skirt.)  It's very much parallel to my realization that I'm nonbinary rather than a fearful would-be MtF.

As important as expression is, the most important change I want for my body isn't to look more androgynous, it's to lose a bunch of weight.

I can get called sir or ma'am on any given day because of my long hair but my physical appearance isn't really androgynous. I dress plainly.

I present as me, full beard long hair some times with lipstick and/or eye shadow alway wearing female clothes dont go anywhere without breast forms in place I get comments regulary look" there's the LadyMan", "are you a boy or girl?" o I present full time as M2?/ M2"What the F"

MtoK    *male to kinkly* It sounds to me like you are, in your area, winning the battle for Androgyn's and Transgenders to boot.

I think people will look back someday and talk about the Androgyn with a beard that refused to be intimidated by binary thinking.
Of course non-binary will be common and people won't think twice about it anymore, but they will remember Kinkly, who was the first.
There should be a good 'round the bar song that people will occasionally sing, then raise their mugs and glasses in a salute to you.

Genderqueer here 8D haa.

I don't think I intentionally try to look andro. I've got a feminine/androgynous face, so that makes it pretty easy. o.o All my shirts are designed to hide my curves, but I also love "cute" clothes.

I don't really try hard to look one way or the other. I wear what I'm comfortable in. -shrug- hah.