I hate my brothers and dad!!! Whenever I try to talk or get two words out of my mouth they tell me to shut up. I can't have any opinions in this house! "I can talk when I'm an adult" my dad says. WTF?! My brothers are all younger than me and THEY can say a full sentence without interuption!

My dad treats my mom this way too and calls her a b**** anmong other things. So, is it because I'm a 'girl' that I'm treated this way? Cause they'd know I'm NOT A GIRL if they would let me talk!!!!!! Why should I have to tell them ANYTHING so that I can go through transitioning?! They don't 'need' to know anything about me because I'm so 'inferior' to them.

I hate my sexist and racist dad. I HATE HIM!!!!!! I don't need him, I could move in with one of my friends! I can't wait until I can move oyt. After I do, I'm NEVER coming back to this hell-hole I'm forced to call home. Why does my mom put up with the b******?

Geez, I can't take it anymore. I feel better getting that all out now. If I'd say that out loud he'd slap the hell outta me.

It is sad that there are opinions like your dad's. Not speaking isn't all a bad thing. I chose not to speak (for the most part) until in my 20's. I can't say that I regret it really as it meant a lot less pain and stress until I felt safe enough to join in the world.

That sounds...downright abusive... I wonder if there's something that can legally be done... o_o; Maybe I'm a little quick to jump on the  'lawsue!" train, but I really don't like how that situation sounds. ._.;

@Sabriel- I don't think anything could be done legally, and that'd probably make my situation worse. I find him abusive though.

@LordKAT- I want to speak though or my stress builds up until I snap at some innocent bystander. I'm a very opinionated person, and I normally keep queit since I know the consequences to a big mouth XD I should be able to have some rights in my house. I behave in school, never done drugs or alcohol, and I'm abstinent. So why am I treated as if I haven't done any of that without him telling me not to do those things. It just doesn't seem right.

My advice on this, because I went through the very exact same thing, is that if your parents aren't going to help your future financially, you just need to move out or stay out of the house as much as you can. If you have one of those parents that want you home all the time so they can abuse you more, see if there's any clubs you can join at school, or use the "I have to go to Sarah's/Billy's house for a school probject" excuse. Beyond that, you simply have to wait until you're 18 to have an opinion, and once you hit 18, you have the right to have a huge mouth. As soon as you turn 18, let so much crap flow from your mouth that it drives your family insane, and as soon as anyone gets physical, call the police in an instant and get them thrown in jail. Always make sure you have a place to go to before that happens though!

If your parents get thrown in jail, the police may say you can stay at their house for free, since you are a direct family member who already had permission to live there. Abusive families deserve any punishments the law will let you bestow upon them, and if I were you, I'd talk to a school counselor as it is. Many abusive families halt their behavior the second that a school official calls them. Families act abusive or hateful because they feel that it will always stay private. The second they get judged wrongly by an outside official, they usually wise up.

Rhino beat me to it, but I was going to suggest the after school activity approach too.  You haven't said how old you are, but I am guessing you are under 18 .  After that you can say what you like.

If the school being aware of your situation doesn't help and things get heavy, the the Police should be called. No if's or but's whatsoever.    I was in the Police here, and an assault is an assault regardless of whether it is among family members or not, any of them try to prevent an arrest and they get put in the van too.

Hope Rhino's suggestions can be helpful.
Karen 

just say whatever you want when you want to say it, if your dad gets physical, it's a worse crime before than after you turn 18. but make sure you've told a good friend and your school counselor about your family situation first, so someone might think of calling the police in the case that you get locked up by your dad

living in a place like that isn't good for your mental health, so there's no reason you should have to put up with it until you're over 18. this has nothing to do with sexism, even mental abuse is abuse, and child abuse is illegal. i've only recently found out that growing up with a mom that it's impossible to talk to about anything has actually caused me a much deeper trauma than even sexual abuse could do. so i advise you to not let a bad situation go on when you know it hurts you

I agree with Taka.  You're a human being, you have feelings, and you don't deserve that kind of treatment from ANYONE, let alone a family member!   

Whatever you decide to do, remember you've got friends here.

Quote from: silverarrow on June 18, 2011, 03:54:57 PM
I hate my brothers and dad!!! Whenever I try to talk or get two words out of my mouth they tell me to shut up. I can't have any opinions in this house! "I can talk when I'm an adult" my dad says. WTF?! My brothers are all younger than me and THEY can say a full sentence without interuption!

My dad treats my mom this way too and calls her a b**** anmong other things. So, is it because I'm a 'girl' that I'm treated this way? Cause they'd know I'm NOT A GIRL if they would let me talk!!!!!! Why should I have to tell them ANYTHING so that I can go through transitioning?! They don't 'need' to know anything about me because I'm so 'inferior' to them.

I hate my sexist and racist dad. I HATE HIM!!!!!! I don't need him, I could move in with one of my friends! I can't wait until I can move oyt. After I do, I'm NEVER coming back to this hell-hole I'm forced to call home. Why does my mom put up with the b******?

Geez, I can't take it anymore. I feel better getting that all out now. If I'd say that out loud he'd slap the hell outta me.

You do not deserve the mistreatmen man. I suggest you take you anger and use it to "drive you"  to finish a trade in high school. I know they have several trades, electriciian, auto mechanic, etc.

Then as you are getting close to finish HS, you can start looking for a job. Make friends with your school teachers, share with them your situation, they can be of much help to finding a job.

Dream, make big plans. I was out by age 13, had to do many jobs while going to school, but evenytually I succeded. Could you tell us where are you, perhaps some in the forum nearby could assist you.

Courage,

Kate D