Well this is just going to be a quick summary of my lunch cover at work today, so nothing life or death. 

I had a lunch shift with a guy at work today, he's pretty awesome, into metal and a lot of the same kind of stuff as I am, and I really love talking to him about stuff. I'm out to every single person in my life pretty much, but for some reason I just never got around to telling him or my boss. Not because I'm hiding it, but just damn, because it's awkward!

But today he made a few gender related jokes (nothing bad, he's not a prick ) that were truly wince-worthy. The first was we were talking about languages, and we got onto French and he said a sentence to me and said monsier, and then was like 'Oh, I shouldn't say that, it's rude. You're madam.'

Then we were talking about ecchi manga, and he was saying how I wouldn't like it because I was a woman. There was one more, and anyway it just culminated in my waiting until the store was empty and up-chucking with 'I have something really awkward to tell you!'

He was silent and was like, 'Yeah?' And I was like, 'Well, I'm actually on hormones...' this is the part where I wait for them to go, 'What?' then answer in more depth after having broken the ice. But instead of that he instantly sat up a little straighter in his chair and went, 'Oh, sorry!' and looked really embarassed, and I suddenly realised he felt bad for the comments he'd made earlier!

Wow. Not only did he understand with one small sentence everything I was trying to convey, his instant reaction was to realise that he had (more than 40 minutes earlier) said some things that might have offended/hurt me.

I was a little floored, and I just thought I had to share. We always hear the bad stories about people not understanding and the big long awkward conversations, but have you ever come out to someone and had them just instantly understand?