So frustrated, now mid 50's, I've always been a girl since chillhood, always dressed normal as a girl/woman all my life, always just wanted/needed to be a normal happy pretty girl/woman. I tried so many times with some HRT & to live full time/normal but my beard & body hair always just killed my emotions. I so want to come out full time to all as a normal nice woman but just too much hair, beard, body hair, etc. Every time I try full time the hair just kills me, stops me cold.  I'm quite passable & nice for a short period of time & feel great for a while until all this ugly hair/beard comes back. What can I do? How can I finally move forward with one life?

Electrostatics the word or laser if you have black hair. Simply remove your hair permanently and your good to go!

I'm mid 50's had laser no facial or boob hair. Have my back waxed feel good. I'm on spiro which cuts down T so you get less hairy anyway, plus the effects of E and P.

Hang in Sis. if you need specifics pm me.

Cindy

Thanks, so frustrated & trapped. Know it takes time to change but so much ugly hair everywhere in the wrong places. I hate it.

Quote from: Francis Ann Burgett on July 21, 2011, 04:24:39 AM
So frustrated, now mid 50's, I've always been a girl since chillhood, always dressed normal as a girl/woman all my life, always just wanted/needed to be a normal happy pretty girl/woman. I tried so many times with some HRT & to live full time/normal but my beard & body hair always just killed my emotions. I so want to come out full time to all as a normal nice woman but just too much hair, beard, body hair, etc. Every time I try full time the hair just kills me, stops me cold.  I'm quite passable & nice for a short period of time & feel great for a while until all this ugly hair/beard comes back. What can I do? How can I finally move forward with one life?

Just keep having lots of laser on a regular basis! maybe every two or three months at a time!

Hi Hun

No idea where you are on the trip.

Try doing feminine things. Do nail polish, hands and feet a manicure and a pedicure, get your eyebrows shaped. The beauticians don't care, they are all for it. I get my eyes done every fortnight and have a booking. I'm often there in male clothing for personal reasons. I'm still referred to as Cindy and no bats an eye lid ( a bad pun ).

I had about 8 laser sessions to get rid of the beard. I need to go back every now and again especially for the upper lip. There was no hesitation and no problems having laser. In fact they are very loving woman who have been very positive in helping me.

Keep going it does  get easier.

Cindy

If your hair is dark, laser will work better than if it is fair.  I have no dark facial hair now, but do have all the grey and white ones.  At least a shave keeps them hidden fairly easily.

I had mine done at a place that was able to use a higher powered medical laser, and it took 6 sessions at 6 week intervals to get it all.  The hair has a 6 week growth cycle, so the treatment needs to be done at the same interval, otherwise some of them can be stumulated into growing again.

I didn't notice much change after the first two sessions, but a lot after that.  It is less painful if you shave closely, as there is less hair to absorb the light and convert it to heat.  Aloe Vera gel and icepacks can help relieve the discomfort and redness afterwards.

The girls I saw were great, and very supportive. They had dealt with the occaissional trans woman before so no problems at all. Lots of girl talk during the session too.
Karen.

Thanks girl friends, just so frustrated I could cry. I look & feel so normal as Francis, truly love being a woman, always have, then this ugly hair always grows out over & over again. Guess just part of life.

Calm down.

Enjoy being you rather than being revolted by not being you.
It takes time.

Take the time and enjoy the road trip. Even if it is a hard one.

Cindy

I had a girlfriend a couple of years ago who had a fair bit of facial hair. Although she was self-conscious about it, it didn't bother me at all.  In fact I didn't even see it unless she happened to point it out. So don't beat yourself up over it. 
I was the same about my thinning scalp hair until I saw my Gender Therapist for my regular session last Friday.  He pointed out that with my hairpiece nobody could see it, and even without it I couldn't unless I looked in a mirror. I figure he is right so I should just get on with living.
Best avoid mirrors as much as posssible by doing more interesting things.

Karen.

There is also the fact it is extremely rude to point out if you can notice a girls little bit of facial hair so Karen is perfectly correct

I'm feeling better, ordered Tria laser system to try on facial hair. Plan meet with therapist next week, start back on HRT full speed. Also feel great about orchiectomy to just remove 2 things & leave the skin to help with a normal depth vagina when I have GRS. Nice day of shopping, love thrift stores, you can really find some nice clothes shoes etc. if you shop slow. Made new friends with women there that operate the store. Went pretty close as Francis, wig makeup, but real plain dull clothes. It was fun.

two things will help you, 1. dont try not to act like a male
2. dont try to act like female

just be you, because no one else can

oh yeah i fiorgot, you have to pay your dues just like anyone else. Those of us further along in our transition have been through it. I will get a LOT better. Im italiana, and my facial hair was terrible. I have done 7 treatments and now all i have are a couople greys. Its HARD but you can get through it. If I can do it, literally anyone can

I know your pain;  I'm fighting the great hair battle myself.  I'll give myself what I call a "makeup shave" (once with the grain, once against it, then side to side anywhere that still needs a touchup) and I still have a five o'clock shadow.  I'm saving up for laser, but it's been a slow road.  I've tried the Tria and had basically no results.  It may work great for other girls, but it did nothing for me.  If I could just get it to migrate to my head instead....

Oddly enough, I don't mind the body hair.  Shaving it in the shower feels oddly therapeutic...almost like meditation.

Hang in there, trust that life will bring you what you need eventually. 

I know how you feel :-(

I want to be full time so bad, but my courage has sank.

Ive been rejected by people I love
My expectations of people whom I thought would be allies havent been met.
People who were my friends who said they would accept me, now talk down to me as if they are somehow more superior.
My 5' oclock shadow will not stay off my face.  Had my first laser treatment 3 weeks ago, so Im hoping in time...
I have pock marks that make foundation look like a butt turd,  I am having the derma roller done this friday though
My shoulders and biceps and triceps and forearms look like I could hurt someone. Im working on it though.

Thats my list of things that stand out to ME. 
This weekend I decided to hide in the house.
My courage from last week must of been in the water that the spiro makes you pee out :-(

Had a little fun shopping at Walmart this morning, I looked pretty nice, bought some nice things, the girl clerk could tell I was kinda male, I did not dress up much or shave much. I told her first thing I was enjoying being a woman, she was very nice, she said I looked OK, I was real nice to her & we talked for quite a while, there were very few people in the store. I really enjoy being myself to all but such a long way to go.

Way early in life I would go to gay type bars, dressed nice. Owners always wanted me to join the show on stage but it was not my cup of tea. I did not date anyone even though all men hit on me, maybe i should have?. I just enjoyed dressing & being myself feminine among a lot of people. That type bar is a good place to use to try out & see if you pass any real life test.   

All girl friends please have a nice Sunday.

Thanks for comments on damn hair, it's tough no doubt.

why are you tripping so hard? if thats you in your avatar pic, then your more of a perfectionist than i am

Quote from: jillian on July 24, 2011, 06:07:57 AM
I know how you feel :-(

I want to be full time so bad, but my courage has sank.

Ive been rejected by people I love
My expectations of people whom I thought would be allies havent been met.
People who were my friends who said they would accept me, now talk down to me as if they are somehow more superior.
My 5' oclock shadow will not stay off my face.  Had my first laser treatment 3 weeks ago, so Im hoping in time...
I have pock marks that make foundation look like a butt turd,  I am having the derma roller done this friday though
My shoulders and biceps and triceps and forearms look like I could hurt someone. Im working on it though.

Thats my list of things that stand out to ME. 
This weekend I decided to hide in the house.
My courage from last week must of been in the water that the spiro makes you pee out :-(

my heart goes out to you. I can relate, the same happen ed to me many years ago.

Super Kitty, You look great, nice & thin & pretty. I'm so glad for you. I only wish I were thin, I'm not fat but I sure look male. I'm trying but there may not be hope for me to be as pretty as you.

That is not my picture in avatar, I may post one soon, but just not pretty enough to post almost.