I'm talking "post-transition" reality and use more the 1 year RLE full time living as a woman.
I know, maybe we will transition for ever... I have an idea.
Also I put this post here as for FtM it seems far less of an issue.
Females with short hair, no makeup, wearing pants ONLY ever, not showing breasts, and even having a baritone voice are hardly a point of discussion these days. They be considered butch gay, and the world is full of them. They are tolerated AND generally accepted also.
Looking at MtF we have a very much more negative picture. Individual by individual I am certainly tolerated and until more recently confused this with acceptance. A mistake of some proportion as I'm now learning.
Funnily enough it is in most cases always THE OTHERS that prevent a person to accept you.
The landlord that literally wants you banned from their premises where they live.
The customers - OMG - what will THEY think!
The boyfriend or husband that can not bring his buddies to where you would meet.
If you had no problem in male-guise to a find a place to stay for a short while when moving house --- now forget it! What will the people THINK!?
Even when trying for alternative accommodation, the jig is up. The place is not available to YOU --- 'cause they are scared of you. Gotta be some freak or something.
We know about jobs, enough has been said about that.
Most everybody is tolerant, oh yes --- but to offer a helping hand when it is needed? No way, GOT TO THINK OF THE OTHERS WHAT THEY THINK OF ME, - harbouring a ->-bleeped-<-.
This may lead so far to be homeless at some stage --- and in my case?
I been trained in all sorts of skills, nobody cares now, also being too old (easy way out).
Now how to train as a bag-lady, so I will not just die out in the street?
As long as you have money, you have "friends" or better folks that tolerate you. Even with those, once the initial: "Oh, what took you so long...?!" novelty wears of, they vanish under the radar with "promises" how they "care" about you --- but never any is delivered.
Any GG that be in ANY of the above situations and being a friendly warm person will have no issue to find a helping hand. I know some that even live in the back cottages free of rent, etc, etc.
I think training for sleeping in the streets might be a VERY useful thing to have in my current upcoming home-transition.
Lastly the worst. As my option was transition or make an end to my misery, that option will still be present.
Most people in my circle would just feel, if not say: "You see, always told you so!"
And at the same time be quite please to be rid of your TS imposition and plain embarrassment.
Guess what? Consider de-transition and throw in the towel?
No use, you done the deed. The same will come about: "Ah, how nice so you finally found your senses... eh what you did JUST CAN'T be done, you see!"
Afterwards you are handed out the same treatment as you got before --- 'cause you done the deed.
For most, if not all, "normal" people to transition is: THE MOST SELFISH ACT IMAGINABLE, because nobody asked you to.
It is your own "fancy" and if you want to practice self-actualsation (highest in Maslow's hierarchy of needs) you better be provided for food, cloth and shelter. Otherwise just jump in the lake and don't bother to surface again.
We can't know the future --- more better I don't.
Bless,
Axelle
