Her response
I love you no matter what! Keep in mind God's plan for you. I will never reject you or turn you away or think less of you. I am and always will be proud of you. To be honest I had my suspicions but, you may not want to hear this, you will always be my daughter and named [birth name]. If you change it legally then I could possibly call you Aiden. I could help you buy another binder. I wondered what that was. Please don't hate yourself. I will always love you and I could never think less of you! I need to process this but I am always on your side. Love, Mom..

Not what I wanted to hear...She pulled the religion card, which I knew she would, but how can she say she's on my side if she's refusing the whole point of it...
Any advice welcome..
thanks
-aiden

I thought that was pretty good, actually. If that's as big as the religion card gets, you're OK. Give her some time to process it. Hugs, Tracey

It's a lot better than what some people get, and better than what I was fearing, but it's exactly what I was expecting.  I'm hoping that's as big as her religion card gets, but I know it could go bigger, depending on if she comes around or if I have to transition without her.

A lot better than my mom's reaction.  At least she is saying she could maybe call you Aiden and buy you a new binder.  My mom pulled the religion card too and told me that she would NEVER call me Andy, and would not go to any doctor's visit's with me, any surgeries, anything and would not support my transition financially.  Consider yourself very lucky.

That's about what I expect to get from my mom, complete with religion card. It's not an ideal situation, but one that I can (I hope) live with. Now, my dad is another matter; I don't expect that to go well at ALL. I'll probably come out to him via letter just for my own safety.

I'd say, try to give her some time.  It may be that after she gets to know your true self better, she may come to terms and be better able to have a good relationship with you as you are now.  If not, at least you can tell yourself you made the effort. Just be thankful she didn't completely disown you, as has happened to some trans acquaintances of mine.

My thoughts go with you. 

Quote from: KrisRenee on July 25, 2011, 05:54:13 PM
Keep in mind God's plan for you.

If this is what she said, you could backfire it to her saying your transition IS GOD's plan for you. After all how can she know what goes want for you (not that I believe in that nonsense, free will) because she isnt in your body.

Quote from: Zee on July 26, 2011, 04:01:47 PM
If this is what she said, you could backfire it to her saying your transition IS GOD's plan for you. After all how can she know what goes want for you (not that I believe in that nonsense, free will) because she isnt in your body.

I so did that.  She said something to me today about how I was basically saying god made a mistake, I told her that I felt he chose me to go through this because he knew I could handle it

Quote from: Zee on July 26, 2011, 04:01:47 PM
If this is what she said, you could backfire it to her saying your transition IS GOD's plan for you. After all how can she know what goes want for you (not that I believe in that nonsense, free will) because she isnt in your body.

Believe me there is no way to turn a religious fanatic's "logic" back on them, they will always have a justification as to why you are wrong and they are right. 

It sounds like you and I are in the exact same boat. I came out to my mother a few weeks ago. She basically said she didn't agree with it, but she loved me anyway (the same thing she said when I told her I liked women). She left anything regarding financial support up to my dad (they're separated). But she did a little more than pull the religious card, and consulted with members of her bible study group. I don't know what they said, but she said they're supporting her, and they agree with her. Though I can't say I'm comfortable with her telling people without asking me if it was okay first.
I'm already in the process of legally changing my name. Already have the forms paid for and completed, just need a copy of my SSC (which I seem to have lost while abroad...). She said she would always think of me as her "little girl" and nothing would change that, and that she doesn't think she'll get used to calling me Orion, but she's at least tried calling me "Ri" (my given name was Moriah) as a compromise.
I try and politely correct her when she uses the wrong gender pronouns or nicknames, but she just gets frustrated with me...

Hope it gets better for both of us.