Okay, so I've pretty much have come out to everyone I feel needs to know except my brother. Him and I used to be really close, and I'm seriously scared that if I tell him, that he'll laugh and shun me; even though his own sexual orientation is "questionable". What do I do? I'm trying to repair our relationship (ripped apart by my stepmom, his mom), and I have no idea how to even broach the subject with him.

when I came out to both of my brothers, I pretty much just dropped it on both of them. I figured with them Id get the best reaction by being straightforward. When you tell him, explain that youre telling him because you love him and want him as a part of your life, that you want to include him in whats going on with you. Then just lay it out there.  good luck, family can be so worrisome.

Quote from: Adrian on July 29, 2011, 12:12:49 PM
Okay, so I've pretty much have come out to everyone I feel needs to know except my brother. Him and I used to be really close, and I'm seriously scared that if I tell him, that he'll laugh and shun me; even though his own sexual orientation is "questionable". What do I do? I'm trying to repair our relationship (ripped apart by my stepmom, his mom), and I have no idea how to even broach the subject with him.

Sexual orientation =/= gender identity.  So someone could be the biggest flaming homosexual and still be against trans people. 

Quote from: Andy8715 on July 29, 2011, 02:04:46 PM
Sexual orientation =/= gender identity

Lots of people don't see the difference.

But there is a difference.  That's what I'm saying.  They are not the same at all. 

i took a walk with my brother in late summer we where really rather close at the time and i told him it was really easy i tried to keep it light as my brother was 12 or 11 at the time. i suggest just telling him straight up thats how guys talk and prefer to be talked to. also people with questionable sexuality tend to lash out more because theyre confused and/or frustrated.

I sent both of my brothers letters telling them what i was doing, saying that if they didnt want anything more to do with me i would understand but that i hoped it wouldnt come to that. Luckily they both stood by me even if they didnt understand

Ya, I am kinda in the same boat .... I need to tell my brothers .. been holding back ...

Just came out to him and he is really supportive. We talked for almost three hours! He said he's not surprised and that he just wants me to be careful. Yea, I don't know, it was easy, and now I feel really light, I guess. I kind of beat around the bush and tried to make him guess but then I just plain out told him and then he asked a lot of questions and said that I should add an H to my name, which I kinda like. It was really awkward at first but then it was easy.

And yes he leans a bit more towards men, actually we've got about the same taste, we talked about that too. And yes, I know some homosexuals are against trans, but he just said that he's open minded and that it all makes sense now. And he then joked that since he already calls me "midget" that for kicks later when I can pass better that he'll call me his sister just to mess with me cuz that's what littleBig brothers do. i.e., he's younger but 6'4" (I'm 4'11"), hence I've always called him my little/Big brother.

So, it all went well. It seems like siblings are more understanding and welcoming than parents.

Quote from: Adrian on July 29, 2011, 03:50:03 PM
Just came out to him and he is really supportive. We talked for almost three hours! He said he's not surprised and that he just wants me to be careful. Yea, I don't know, it was easy, and now I feel really light, I guess. I kind of beat around the bush and tried to make him guess but then I just plain out told him and then he asked a lot of questions and said that I should add an H to my name, which I kinda like. It was really awkward at first but then it was easy.

And yes he leans a bit more towards men, actually we've got about the same taste, we talked about that too. And yes, I know some homosexuals are against trans, but he just said that he's open minded and that it all makes sense now. And he then joked that since he already calls me "midget" that for kicks later when I can pass better that he'll call me his sister just to mess with me cuz that's what littleBig brothers do. i.e., he's younger but 6'4" (I'm 4'11"), hence I've always called him my little/Big brother.

So, it all went well. It seems like siblings are more understanding and welcoming than parents.

im happy for you,

Thanks Natkat, I know that not everyone's sibs aren't as understanding and I really thought he might put me down, but I'm glad it wasn't like that.

I'm really glad to hear it went well.
I'm trying to get up the nerve to talk to mine, so it's nice to hear about positive results.
Also, thanks for making me feel better about our height difference (I'm 5ft7, and he's 6ft1...and lords it over me). 

I'm glad it went well

I have a feeling I won't be as lucky with my brother(s) lol but I guess I'll find out eventually

Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on July 29, 2011, 02:07:47 PM
Lots of people don't see the difference.

At the very least people that are okay with gays n lesbians are more likely to be okay with trans people.

Quote from: Lee on July 29, 2011, 05:52:40 PM
I'm really glad to hear it went well.
I'm trying to get up the nerve to talk to mine, so it's nice to hear about positive results.
Also, thanks for making me feel better about our height difference (I'm 5ft7, and he's 6ft1...and lords it over me). 

Thanks, Lee, and you're welcome. My bro's about a foot and a half taller than me, and I'm happy with that. I'm okay with being short, I wouldn't mind being a little taller, but I doubt T will give me a growth spurt. lol.

Coming out to my brother was the hardest thing I ever did. Comeing out to my mom didnt even compare.
But my brother and I have always been super close.
When I came out and told him I was going to transition and my name was Cynthia, he accepted it and remembered that everytime we played house with the neighbor girls I insisted on being the mom and I was too be called Cynthia.

My brother has been one of my best supporters. Although he still slips up and calls me by my old name on occasion. Then he kicks himself for about an hour falling over himself to apologize to me. Kinda cute actually.

I'm glad things went well for you. When I came out to my sister the first time, she thought it was a joke. That hurt a lot. The second time though I explained more about everything and she was okay with it. But not super supportive like I'd hoped.

I came out to my sister by phone, we live in different countries. She was fine and when she calls, emails me she remembers my name and gender. She does ask occasionally if she can talk to her brother about something. Which is cool by me as well.

Glad it when well for you guys

Cindy