I was wondering, for those of you who are in a long-term relationship, where you met.

  Awhile back I tried a few of the TG dating sites but found mostly men and all of them ->-bleeped-<-s; I resolved myself to being
alone until after SRS, until I felt right with myself. Now that it's done I'd like to start dating again but I have to admit I
really have no idea where to look. Any suggestions? 

I met my wife at a roller rink, way back in 1964.

perfume counter at the local dept store....he turned out to be a dud!

I met my SO on Match.  Granted it was as a man.  But, we are opening the doors to our relationship, to make sure both of our needs are met.  So, I too will kind of be in this with you.  I am currently looking for places to meet open minded non-->-bleeped-<-s...  It is a very daunting prospect; especially after being monogamous for so long.

Met my best friend in '82 going to grad school at night.  (That is 1882.)   

I prefer to meet people where I visit.  Great places are school, grocery stores, libraries, Costco, Home Depot, and other places you enjoy.  I never enjoyed going to a bar to pick up someone. 

I have a number of friends that enjoy walking their dog with me.  It is a great way to talk.

It is easy to make friends.  Let romantic thing happen if it happens.  Of course I have not had sex with anyone this current century but we still have 88 years left in this century!  I'm an optimist!

I just met someone a few weeks ago at a trans support group meeting. I'm also a part of a lesbian social group that has a few possibilities if things don't work out with my current girl.

I met my partner on the internet. She lives so far away from me, but I don't mind. Everyday I feel her close in my heart.

I met Sevan and hir exwife (wife back then) in a public park.
Hir exwife and I hit it off in seconds. Sevan didn't like me, at all. Then one day the two came too visit me and the exwife made Sevan share a bottle of Crown Royal with me that Sevan didn't want to share. The ex then started playing video games as Sev' and I got sloshed. We bonded over that bottle of Crown Royal and have been fast friends ever since.
The ex turned out to be a bad person and I had no issues taking Sevan from her.
2 years latter Sevan and I got married.

I meet my wife at Girl Scout summer camp --- I was the camp director and she was one of my volunteers.

My wife and I met in highschool, but we were'nt a couple until a few years afterward.

Jessica, I also joined a TG dating website a while back as a pre op TS woman seeking a straight man. There were SO MANY local area men after me I was suprised. There were so many I had to cancel for a while, it was a job just reading all their emails. Some looked like very sincere men just wanting/needing a woman. 

I was playing guitar on stage for a play, mood music, I had to wear large boots, since I was sitting they gave me the biggest pair that didn't fit anyone else. They kept slipping off .

A girl came up me after the play and said she loved the boots. Twenty nine years next Sunday. She is now totally disabled and cannot live with me. . I love her as more now as the day we met.

Cindy

Partner, hey...
the many (mostly very temporary) ones I met are gone by now.

There is none of late. Old girl's situation?

Yet being still pre-op, in any case put a plug into that notion.
I'd have HUGE apprehensions to deal with that, much as I may dream. OK, never say never.

As for what internet dating goes... really Francis?!
Sounds like ONE job to filter through what you experienced.
I wouldn't know were to start.

Years back after my divorce I tried a dating agency (pre internet) and what a lot of BS info that brought about.
Pulling the plug on that one was not easy since money was involved. Every nut and her auntie was a sex-bomb.
Quite awful, never forgot that yet. The mortified women, the learning how to best get rid of them once you new it was no good, the awfulness of having hurt someone's feelings, one sad roadshow that was. Mercy ->-bleeped-<-s, that lot. Do I sound damaged? I guess...

So, maybe it be worth a different thread "How to screen internet dating offers?"

Axelle
PS: I'd so ironic if I'd get all the above handed right back, including mercy-->-bleeped-<-s the lot.
To horrid to contemplate. So much for blind dating... OUCH!!!!

This is one of the things that concerns me about transition.

Once I am postoperative I fear it will be difficult to find a straight man that accepts me for me.

As I'm 27 and would love to eventually start a family I fear that transition will prevent me from doing this.

Even if I could pass, the inevitable 'so where'd you go to school', 'what was your first date like' questions will come up. I don't want to lie, I think that's a bad way to start a long term relationship, but telling the truth will scare off e vast majority of guys.

I want to transition but I don't want to miss out on having a family.

Quote from: caitlin_adams on July 31, 2011, 04:26:50 AM
I want to transition but I don't want to miss out on having a family.

that right there is probly the biggest thing that scares me about transition

I don't quite get it.

You want to start a family, and then transition, maybe get a divorce... etc. etc.

That's some pretty far-out thinking for me.

Note: Your GID will only get worse with age. If you know even more so.

Axelle

Quote from: Axélle on July 31, 2011, 08:24:40 AM
I don't quite get it.

You want to start a family, and then transition, maybe get a divorce... etc. etc.

I think what Cait was saying was that she was afraid transition would leave too many uneasy first date answers for her to be able to start a family AFTER transition, rather then start a family and THEN transition.  I would agree with both of you (though Cait isn't as direct in saying it), the longer you wait the more of a life you establish in the wrong gender, the harder it is to integrate once you start living as the correct gender.

I've had too much of a life as a male to pretend it didn't exist, all I can do rather then run from it is to turn and face it.

Regan, I do wish you're right.

I mean, even holding back SRS in order to start a family, the way I read it, sounds just way off-the-wall to me. If SRS be on your agenda, that is.
We all do have our ideas and sharing those may make us think things over, - either which way.

I did start a family like that and it left such a lot of pain in it's wake after 12 years and a divorce.
I just didn't know then what I know today. But if you do know... OMG. All I can say.

But thanks for attempting to clarify it,
Axelle

Despite what the TOS says, I met mine right here.  She was a member here and we just hit it off.  She lives on the other side of the pond and I am in Oregon.

I am hoping soon I shall join her there.

Janet --- wow! Lucky girl :-)

Now--- lesson 101 and how not to get jealous, eh.

What side of the pond I'd be sitting I wonder.
In the middle of that bath tub, more by the head end.

Axelle