What a long name for a topic...however I had no idea how else to describe what I will be talking about.

So for my birthday last month, my sister decided that it'd be cool to throw me a VIP party at one of the hottest clubs in L.A. with my friends, her friends, and a bunch of other people. So that's what we did. We went clubbing.

For the most part, since I have started transitioning and living my life as a guy, the only time I have been dancing at a club is when one of my siblings drag me and when I go, I almost always get random girls hitting on me and grinding up against me. Which of course, I don't mind but it makes me feel awkward all of a sudden when I realize "Oh snaps! I have nothing down there...and they're extremely close to it". And I'm thinking..."Wait, does this give me away? Do they know? HAVE I BLOWN MY FREAKIN' COVER?!"

So as you might have guessed by now, a lot of girls danced with me that night (and thank goodness my girlfriend didn't mind at all). I was having such a great time until I realized "...I'm in my pajamas...at a club...with a bunch of girls grinding up on me...and I'm sure some are expecting a little hard on". But the thing is I don't pack. I would if I could afford it, but for the most part I don't do it because I can't afford one at the moment. Luckily that didn't seem to blow my cover at all (they might have all been too drunk to notice). But it definitely got me thinking and somewhat worrying about this.

So any thoughts or any experiences dancing at a club and having people grind up on you?

Funny side story:I have only had one incident at a club where a woman had stopped dancing with me when she realized I didn't have a biological penis. It was at a Big Beautiful Women club (yes those exists, I'm personally not into BBWs, but my sister is one and she dragged me to it). I was having a good time, dancing on the floor with my sister when all of a sudden a big black woman came up and pushed my sister aside and began to grind her big butt up against me. To make matters somewhat more hilarious I was sandwhiched in-between her and a big breasted Mexican woman. So small 5'2" Asian guy being sandwhiched by two husky and big women. It was pretty intense because the black woman actually knocked me over with her butt alone. When I was pushed up by a group of guys who told me to "Go Get some!" the woman attempted to grind up against me again...then she stopped and looked at me in disgust and walked away. I'm pretty sure it's because she realized I didn't have an actual penis.

LMAO! The hardships of being a trans man. I would invest in a packer or try to make one. I don't pack either so I can't give suggestions, but im sure others will.

That story just made my day. XDDDDDDDDDD That sounds fun actually.

That's the last thing she would think, trust me. Tbh I don't get why you guys think anyone notices if you don't have a packer, I don't. (Except for when grinding I guess rofl) But if it makes you more comfortable....

Dude,
if you had mine (I'm still pre-op) and after HRT I'm as "flat" as you are. So not much help there :-)

What else can I say? Save up for a packer before doing some more grinding... wish I had yours though. So it goes, heehee.

7 weeks into "no pecker" territory,

Axelle

Quote from: ~RoadToTrista~ on August 03, 2011, 01:31:50 AM
That story just made my day. XDDDDDDDDDD That sounds fun actually.

That's the last thing she would think, trust me. Tbh I don't get why you guys think anyone notices if you don't have a packer, I don't. (Except for when grinding I guess rofl) But if it makes you more comfortable....

Glad it was able to make someone's day. Haha! For me it was just the grinding situation. That and since it was a PJ party...well, clothing was a lot thinner in PJs. So it hit me out of no where to realize that the girls might think there's something wrong with me haha!

LOL. I'm betting that they thought you were gay since you didn't seem to show any 'reaction' to their grinding

Probably, no girls for me! 

As long that my little friend reacts when my girlfriend is around, I think I'm good though.

Quote from: Keaira on August 03, 2011, 04:22:31 AM
LOL. I'm betting that they thought you were gay since you didn't seem to show any 'reaction' to their grinding

That's what I was thinking, haha.

I got picked up and carried by a BBW at a club. It was kinda fun and she was cute.

*yes this is irreveltent and I hope it amused you.

Ugh try having a middle aged woman bootyshake in front of you, and three big black girls surrounding you on a small ass dance floor while trying to get your attention.... This is what I get for not coming correct as in being the female that I am.

You could always copy the dude on tghe cover of Lou Reed's Transformer album and put a cabana down your jeans!!

You mean a banana?

its no hard to fake a penis i mean all it is a ugly piece of dangling flesh so just get a cloth roll it up stick it in your pants and your all set.

I had this happen to me once, except it was with a guy at a gay club.  The way he danced with me with dirtier then the most grisly porno film and I've seen many of those. 

At one point he literately bent forward, hands on the floor and rubbed his ass (hole) on my groin.  I Was packing on that day (and everyday) but it was before I could get a realistic packer.  So what I had in my pants was entirely to big for my body.  Fortunately he didn't notice.  I suspect he just thought I was Really enjoying his dance.  Which I was ... but not quite that much.

Since then I've been hugged and mauled a lot by people but they never seem to notice to much.  I just look malleable, I don't know ...

Bad puns aside, it's not that hard to fake a penis like LilKitty says   

No experiences here yet.

Though I did go to a club to watch a drag show last week -- I was invited by my boss (who I'm not out to about being trans yet) who was bartending but I showed up too late for the show. She had one of the drag queens do a small show for me so I could get a taste of what they're like and she was telling me that I was going to be up on stage with them (she was trying to get more than just the one to do a number) and was going to get a lap dance, haha. I laughed it off and could only think that, if that proved true, I was glad I was packing.

It never happened. But, when my own little show did happen, the drag queen trailed her hand across my chest (and then against the back of my head on the way back), and since I was binding and therefore flat I just felt very much like any other guy, whether I was actually being treated as one or not. Didn't help she was admittedly very pretty.

Quote from: Keaira on August 03, 2011, 04:22:31 AM
LOL. I'm betting that they thought you were gay since you didn't seem to show any 'reaction' to their grinding

LOL its funny
the girls I show less interest in is often what most guys find extremly attractive. for a reason that also make it very easy for me just to be around them, and them for me.
its pretty funny because the other guys gets pretty jelous even if I dont do anything they still thinks its unfair how easly I can just hang around them XD
remember back at school one of the populare girl where always sitting on my lap but she refused to do on the other guys, and one of my classmate (who where ex with her) got pissed and suported a rule about not allowing people to sit on each others lap. LOL 
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well its not like I go out alot because I do prefern to go over to my friends privat and such,
but I remember last time I where out with some friends, on this populare gay bar I never been to, and I got pretty drunk and
one of my friends friends ex boyfriend started to hit on me and wanted to dance with me, and I where like "OH good, what if he notice I actually got a chest or anything like that"
he never noticed even thought he were kinda close.
still it wasnt that nice because I where drunk, and got very ill, so the night got kinda akward.

I'm pretty comfortable with not packing. It was just in situations like those where you are somewhat forced to get closer to people in more intimate ways...it's like "Whoaaaaa!! Don't want anyone to find anything out that they don't need to!". I'm fine with not packing on a daily basis. In fact, I think I might be more worried/stressed if I pack everyday - having a fear that it might just fall out of my pants or down the pant legs in a public place.

But if I ever feel the need, I'll probably just shove a sock down there.

NatKat - I actually know how that feels. That happens to me all of the time too. I wouldn't be trying at all and somehow women just gravitate to me. My bros and friends are always like "what the hell...how the hell did you...wait...confused." when they see women constantly flirting with me or giving me attention. It hit me by surprise too since I see myself as a short guy who most women tower over him. Who would want a short guy? But whatever man, lets just consider ourselves lucky.

Quote from: [CRYPT] Chris on August 03, 2011, 03:06:15 PM
I'm pretty comfortable with not packing. It was just in situations like those where you are somewhat forced to get closer to people in more intimate ways...it's like "Whoaaaaa!! Don't want anyone to find anything out that they don't need to!". I'm fine with not packing on a daily basis. In fact, I think I might be more worried/stressed if I pack everyday - having a fear that it might just fall out of my pants or down the pant legs in a public place.

But if I ever feel the need, I'll probably just shove a sock down there.

NatKat - I actually know how that feels. That happens to me all of the time too. I wouldn't be trying at all and somehow women just gravitate to me. My bros and friends are always like "what the hell...how the hell did you...wait...confused." when they see women constantly flirting with me or giving me attention. It hit me by surprise too since I see myself as a short guy who most women tower over him. Who would want a short guy? But whatever man, lets just consider ourselves lucky.

packing can be a mess, in a way you feel you dont want people to notice there nothing and feel strange, but neither do you want people to feel like
is there something there like you having a boner. the girl who sat on me once got angry because she thought I had a boner and I where like
"no its actually not posible for me "
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Its almost a shame, but I think it something about the asmospear, like your more yourself and relaxed if you dont really got any second throughs ,
I think people tend to find that way more charming than a person who either are trying to much , or who are too scared to try at all .

Find her finer, sneak up behind her
Wrapped like a mummy till you finally unwind her
Find her, blind her, see who designed her
Act like a dummy till you finally grind her


'Twas ever thus...

Quote from: tekla on August 03, 2011, 06:41:26 PM
Find her finer, sneak up behind her
Wrapped like a mummy till you finally unwind her
Find her, blind her, see who designed her
Act like a dummy till you finally grind her


'Twas ever thus...

Haha! Bust out that disco ball!