Quote from: Renate on August 07, 2011, 06:42:16 AMI view transition as mostly just dropping all the pretenses of being male.

Exactly true.  And after a while you'll just be there and you won't even notice it anymore.  Just one day you'll be doing something, or saying something, or walking up the stairs fiddling with your earrings, and suddenly you'll see yourself as other see you, and the realization will hit you- damn, I'm such a girl! And all the old will simply be gone like a bad dream, and then you will know you have naturally become who you were always meant to be.

Very profund observations. It is all in our minds. I am seeking what you both have found.

Kate D

QuoteOther than that I didn't see there was a learning curve, just stopping pretending, stop the roles, the expectations and goals that didn't fit me. Just do what comes natural.

Sure there are plenty of skills that many women learn that I'll never be as good or skilled at, but that's okay. I'm making the best of life that I can. And the me that I am is pretty good already.

I so agree Valerie.

I'm not escaping one box that didn't fit at all to go into another box that fits a little better.
I am out of a box and don't plan on going into another. I am me and that is what this is all about.

Quote from: Renate on August 07, 2011, 06:42:16 AM
I don't subscribe to the "Well, you have to learn all the things that you missed in decades of not being female" theory.
There are things that one has to learn, clothes, makeup, hair, etc.
The amount one has to learn is dependent on what kind of women you are.
Some GG's don't know anything about any of these.

I view transition as mostly just dropping all the pretenses of being male.

YMMV.

I really like this outlook on transitioning.

QuoteI don't subscribe to the "Well, you have to learn all the things that you missed in decades of not being female" theory.
There are things that one has to learn, clothes, makeup, hair, etc.
The amount one has to learn is dependent on what kind of women you are.

That all depends.
Even from my earliest recollections I have been attracted to women's clothing, makeup and beautiful long hair.
I not only liked them but wanted them to be my own.
For me it is part of who I am.
It's what I have been denied as a male.