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Started by cindianna_jones, August 18, 2011, 02:55:36 PM

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cindianna_jones

I'm still a geek when it comes to "furnishing" or decorating my house. It's my house but it still looks like a "Bachelor Pad" when you enter the living room. I like Arts & Crafts style furniture and art.

My bedroom is mostly furniture I have made myself with that lousy computer desk in the corner.  That's going out the window someday. The old machine is used so little but still has stuff on it that I realize I need time to time. That is also where all the routers and printer are located.

So what have I done to feminize my room?  I replaced all the pulls on my furniture with ceramic flowered pulls. I have a plush animal collection that sits everywhere.  Sadly, the astronomy pics still clutter art space... that's got to be replaced. And I have two flower arrangements.

What have you done?  Do you have any suggestions for me? 
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Jameve

Well I haven't done anything to my room, mostly out of laziness, but it's not actually a "gendered" room since it's an animal theme.
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Nurse With Wound

Clothes all over my bed and floor. But then again, it's always been like that.
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Hikari

Lady Gaga posters, True Blood posters, a Marilyn Manson poster, a hair potter calender, and a fairy calender. Aside from that it is just dressers and clothes. I am not sure if that is a feminine or not, but it is the combination of me and my wifes tastes.

I have only had one bedroom that was not with her in my adult life, and I had my friends all write quotes on my wall or draw something if they had the talent, and that wasn't really gender specific but I really did enjoy the personalized touch it gave my room.

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pebbles

Looks similar to how it always did... Messy disorganized filled with tools wires and old salavged and recycled technology. Mostly my books are biology or science books.

Differences? Well their are more skin products on the side, partly through need or through nagging by my electrologist, And in the messy heaps of clothes you can see a few bras, dresses and skirts in amoungst my same old clothes. And everyday makeup on my dressing table.
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Forever21Chic

 
    Replaced the boring white curtains with black curtains, replaced my old male-ish bed sheets,pillow etc with dark purple ones. I have a tons of really cute girly stickers on most of my stuff now (mirror, TV, computer, light switch etc) and i have a few hello kitty items laying around.  :D Also i have a picture hanging on my wall of a young boy and girl and the girl is leaning over to kiss the boy on the cheek, it's been in my family for years and i think it's so adoreable. I had to steal it from my grandmother.  :eusa_shhh: 
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JungianZoe

Stuffed animals... lots and lots of stuffed animals. ;D  Everything else is a disaster though and I'll sort it out as soon as I find a job.
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Forever21Chic

Quote from: Zoƫ Natasha on August 18, 2011, 04:42:35 PM
Stuffed animals... lots and lots of stuffed animals. ;D  Everything else is a disaster though and I'll sort it out as soon as I find a job.


  Lol zoe, the only stuffed animal i have is this stuffed pikachu that i won at the fair last year. I remember when i was a kid me & my sister had alot of stuffed animals like pound puppy's, care bears etc. Our mean step dad burnt them just to be a dick.  >:(
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Sunnynight

I have bras lying on the floor. Does that count?
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Princess of Hearts

Quote from: Cindi Jones on August 18, 2011, 02:55:36 PM
I'm still a geek when it comes to "furnishing" or decorating my house. It's my house but it still looks like a "Bachelor Pad" when you enter the living room. I like Arts & Crafts style furniture and art.

My bedroom is mostly furniture I have made myself with that lousy computer desk in the corner.  That's going out the window someday. The old machine is used so little but still has stuff on it that I realize I need time to time. That is also where all the routers and printer are located.

So what have I done to feminize my room?  I replaced all the pulls on my furniture with ceramic flowered pulls. I have a plush animal collection that sits everywhere.  Sadly, the astronomy pics still clutter art space... that's got to be replaced. And I have two flower arrangements.

What have you done?  Do you have any suggestions for me?


Cindi, you don't need to throw out those astronomy pictures.  You obviously like them.   It is always a great temptation to go down the stereotypical route when transitioning.    I was going to get pink sheets and pink pillowcases for my bed and more feminine looking curtains, and of course that nice blue patterned carpet had to go even though I liked it, because as we all know blue is a boy's colour.  *  Well 6 months on my bed linen is still the same, the curtains and still the same and my carpet is still the same.   When my sister asked me half-jokingly if I was going to put up posters of boy bands on my bedroom wall.  I realised that I didn't want my bedroom all pink, lace and pastel colours/  So. I did what genuinely made me happy, rather than conform to stereotypes.   


I am a girl that likes blue.

P.S.  many of us in the transgender community are never entirely sure if we are doing something because we genuinely want to, or we merely conforming to concepts, stereotypes and pre-conceived ideas, or trying to live up to the expectations of others.   If you have the energy to do something then you really want to do it.   I'll give you an example, my mother kept on asking me to come shopping with her to choose those feminine sheets and curtains, and I kept making excuses and putting it off.   I didn't realise at the time that I was doing this.   Later though I realised that I didn't have to be asked twice about coming with her to choose a new chest of drawers - for all my new clothes and underwear - or to pick out a jewellery box and my sister and I scoured high and low looking for a make-up bag for me.    I had the time and energy for these things because I genuinely wanted them.
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JungianZoe

Quote from: Forever21Chic on August 18, 2011, 04:52:19 PM
I remember when i was a kid me & my sister had alot of stuffed animals like pound puppy's, care bears etc. Our mean step dad burnt them just to be a dick.  >:(

That's terrible!!! :(  I would have cried for years over that one, every time I thought of the love I put into those adorable bundles of fur and stuffing.  Even now, I get upset thinking about the stuffed animals at my dad's house that I'll never get to have back because they decided to stop talking to me after my stepsister outed me to them.

Thankfully my little bear was at my mom's house and so I have that one in my bedroom. :)  It's the bear mom held when she gave birth to me and I've had her my entire life.

Grandma holding her in 1978.  I was obviously thrilled:



And now! :)  Second picture is my bear with another bear I found when I was 16 and gave to her so she'd never be lonely.



So those two are in my bedroom along with Mickey Mouse, Chip, Dale, my moose Dudley, another little moose, Bert and Ernie (both crocheted by my grandmother), a crocodile, a little mouse, and a little cat.  Cheshire Cat and a Smurf (from the '80s) are in the living room:



Yes, I'm obsessed with stuffed animals. :laugh:
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madirocks

Quote from: Forever21Chic on August 18, 2011, 04:35:05 PM
 
    Replaced the boring white curtains with black curtains, replaced my old male-ish bed sheets,pillow etc with dark purple ones. I have a tons of really cute girly stickers on most of my stuff now (mirror, TV, computer, light switch etc) and i have a few hello kitty items laying around.  :D Also i have a picture hanging on my wall of a young boy and girl and the girl is leaning over to kiss the boy on the cheek, it's been in my family for years and i think it's so adoreable. I had to steal it from my grandmother.  :eusa_shhh:

Like this? http://www.allposters.com/-sp/The-First-Kiss-Posters_i391531_.htm

I used to have that picture on my bedroom wall until a guy friend came over and said it was very girly and gay that I had it.  ::) Since then I have attempted to make my living quarters more "boyish." But, more recently, since I haven't cared, I've adopted quite a few stuffed animals and added a number of fantastic paintings on the walls. :D My favourite is my 30by30 painting of Audrey Hepburn on my wall. I adore her. :)

And forever21chic, I had the same experience. I had so many dolls up until I was like 12, and once again the evil-step father swoops in and destroys all things good.
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Forever21Chic




   Zoe: I LUV your stuffed animal collection! I Especially luv that smurf & Cheshire cat.  :laugh:


   Madi: No mine is more of a framed sketching of a young girl kissing a boy, it's a really beautiful piece of art.  :)   
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Princess of Hearts

I have two rooms, a bedroom and a sitting room.  As I rarely spend any time conscious in my bedroom, perhaps that explains why I haven't really feminised it.   My sitting room is where I spend a lot of time.   I have two bookcases groaning with books and part of the floor is piled high with books.  Books on Shamanism, Zen, Taoism, Chinese medicine, Tai-chi, Zhan Zhong, Chi-kung, Yoga and books on the body's energy system, especially the Chakras.  I also have books on Native American history, Hawaiian Huna, nutrition, Italian dictionaries, Italian grammar and vocabulary books, alternative political, and social thought, anarchism, philosophy - I have most of Nietzsche's books, I also have Thoreau's classic book.   I have books on trecento and quattro century Italian art.   I have books on ghosts, and hauntings and para-psychology, Faeries, folk-beliefs and the unexplained.   In addition to these I have books on web and programming languages [Python, Java, HTML5, CSS3, Javascript, C , Linux] I have a couple of books on hacking as well.  I like Scottish early modern history - particularly the reign of Mary Queen of Scots, as I really identify with her!  This is just a small sample of my book collection.   I don't suppose any of these books are stereotypically feminine or womanly, but they do reflect my taste and interests.
When I am not reading in this room I am listening to my Pimsleur Italian,German and French language courses on my Sony Walkman(8GB), or I am listening to my opera, classical music, Baroque, and Iggy Pop CDs.

Wow, this post has wandered away from my original intentions.  I must try to stop these stream of consciousness posts.   What I am trying to say is that my sitting room isn't particularly feminine in decoration, but neither are my mother's or sister's bedrooms.    I haven't dropped any interest that I had prior to transition.  I don't care if some of the above likes and interests don't say woman.    I can do and be interested in anything and  it won't change the fact that I am female one little bit.     I am a girl who genuinely likes all of the above and it doesn't matter to me whether people think my rooms and likes/interests are more teen boy than girl.    Please always be honest and truthful with yourself.  Don't sign up to concepts and ideologies just because you think that you should to be accepted as male or female.  A deceiver is always found out sooner or later, and a self-deceiver is never at ease with themselves or others.  Remember the wise words of Polonius:

This above all: to thine own self be true,

And it must follow, as the night the day,

Thou canst not then be false to any man.

William Shakespeare.


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Steph

Sadly my bed room has lost the feminine touch since I got married now it's a mix of my nicknacks and his underwear and socks hanging from them.  But Rupert still has a place on the bed.
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Gravity Girl

I have makeup on my dressing table, high heels next to the mirror (along with all my other shoes) and dresses hanging up in my wardrobe. other than that it still has the same amount of comics, books, guitars, sewing machine and now skating stuff as it always did
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Tamaki

The bed has an amish style quilt on it that I made one winter. Oh wait, that was even before I had decided to transition.  ;D

I'm not sure that my bedrooms have ever been real masculine just eclectic. In grade school I wanted a lime green room and my parents begrudgingly painted it.

There was a time after a purge when I felt a need to prove my masculinity and everything I bought was blue. What a waste. I prefer to express my tastes and not my gender in my home.
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grrl1nside

I don't want to just feminise my room, we want to turf the whole house and build one that is nice and cozy. I figure it is more the feel of the house rather than just how it is decorated. The books littering the house will stay the same no matter where we live. Mind you the books have changed... Lets see fantasy novels now sit next to Fingersmith and Tipping the Velvet...
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Joelene9

  Old Hollywood twin bed frame I had since moving in here 27 years ago, just long enough for my 6'2" frame.  Computer desk, printer shelf, two dressers with no girlie things in them yet, more boy things in the closet with two 40B bras I will wear as soon as I can full them out.  No pictures on the walls anywhere in the house save for a needlepoint my sister gave me.  The house is generally clean, things are off of the floors.  Basement a nightmare though.  No fem things visible.  I'm just trying to live on a limited income.  Women's clothing are more expensive than men's.  The interiors need to be painted before I start sticking things up on the walls. 
  Joelene
 
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Janet_Girl

Unfortunately I live in an RV, which does not leave me much of a choice in decor.  If I had an apartment or house, I would love to have some frame pictures of nature and flowers and candles.
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