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is there any jealousy?

Started by jamie nicole, August 19, 2011, 05:14:42 PM

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Annah

Quote from: Kim 526 on August 20, 2011, 03:48:35 PM
Many very passable ts women do not care to associate in public with those who do not pass very well, for fear they themselves may be outed.

There is validity to that argument when one is in stealth.

However,

When it occurs on the internet trans websites or in a trans support group, there is no excuse for that behavior.
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ChloeDharma

Quote from: Valeriedances on August 20, 2011, 05:21:23 PM
If they fear that they really lack confidence in themselves and are not as passable as it might seem.

I agree. I have never understood this type of thinking.....it reminds me of straight people who wont be seen with openly gay people for fear others might think they are gay. Quite sad if you ask me. Anyway, i'd rather be read as trans than a bigot.
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BunnyBee

If somebody ever felt jealous of me because of how I look, my reaction won't ever be, "OMG don't hate me because I'm beautiful!" or "ohhh, grant me the strength to shoulder this terrible burden of being so unbelievably gorgeous!!"  Reacting that way would be silly, at best.

Regarding the question of the thread, yes I know it exists because if there is anything to be jealous of, you can bet people all over will be indulging that emotion to it's fullest extent.  It is a hard one to control.  I know first hand because I can be a total jealous bitch sometimes.

This is something I've wondered, is it harmful or helpful when people post pictures on these forums of themselves looking beautiful?  I think a lot of people in the early stages of transition find inspiration and HOPE from seeing happy and beautiful trans women on the other side of their transition.  On the other hand, people that feel frustrated with how their own transition has been progressing, something I'm often guilty of myself, might find the same picture discouraging.

It's interesting to think about, and I don't think there is a good answer.  The only thing I can think of is somebody that hasn't started transition is being assaulted by the full brunt of dysphoria, while somebody in the middle of transition at least has started mitigating some of it.  Those who've not yet started may be in the most dangerous place of all?
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Forever21Chic


    Can't we all just get along?  :(
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Annah

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jamie nicole

Quote from: Kim 526 on August 20, 2011, 03:48:35 PM
Many very passable ts women do not care to associate in public with those who do not pass very well, for fear they themselves may be outed.

For me, it's the content of their character and not their looks when it comes to who I socialize with.
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Jillieann Rose

As Lily said
QuoteJealousy yes, but never resentment, only admiration.
Actually I do wish I could have transitioned when I was in my twenties or even earlier and looked cute like allot of you girls on this site.
But I am also very happy for you all.
:)

I would love to associate in public and private with any other ts women if there were any in this little town.
But as far as I know I am alone.  :icon_frown:  :icon_frown: :icon_frown:
Darn.
Fear of anything is bondage. 
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BunnyBee

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Sunnynight

QuoteMany very passable ts women do not care to associate in public with those who do not pass very well, for fear they themselves may be outed.
When I first started going out and wasn't very passable I had a friend who would stay noticeably distant from me in public. It made me feel really bad so I make a point of never trying to put someone else through that now that I am a lot more passable and have friends who are just getting started on things.
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cindianna_jones

You know, it is funny. I just thought of an experience back in 2008 when the campaigning was hot against gay marriage here in California. I went to town and protested with a whole lot of people with families who were standing up for a lesbian couple who lives here. I was standing next to them when some jock in a pickup drove by and called us a bunch of f-ing ->-bleeped-<-gots. I turned to my new lesbian acquaintance and said "I can be a lesbian for a day." She had a good laugh and we've been pretty good friends since then.

So, why am I so paranoid about getting outed as this other thing? Because of my husband. I honestly think that if it were not for him, I really wouldn't care. He really doesn't want me to come out of the closet. You see? he's got the same problem!

Cindi
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Joeyboo~ :3

Quote from: Lily on August 20, 2011, 02:35:00 PM
Jealousy yes, but never resentment, only admiration.

Couldn't have said it better myself!
I only envy those who developed big boobies!
All the females in my fam aren't so blessed with big chests so boo genetics lol

But more power to the transgirls who got it (:
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