Hmm, I don't use a harness, just tight (higher spandex content than typical) boxer briefs and it stays put all day just fine. I think a harness would annoy me. As for the dripping, do you squeeze/press in and up on the balls when you're done peeing? That should get most of it out, then a couple shakes of the penis and you should be good to go. Sorry you're not liking it much, not every STP works well for everyone though.