Hi, I have a question. I've found out that many transmen after some time on T turn out to be gay (or at least find out that they are not so exclusively into women). If there are such people here, I wonder if it's real change or rather simply earlier they supressed these feelings. And also, are there many guys who haven't shifted even a little bit into men after starting T, only attracted to women sexually?

Quote from: Ami87 on August 25, 2011, 07:20:36 PMAnd also, are there many guys who haven't shifted even a little bit into men after starting T, only attracted to women sexually?

I haven't shifted even a little bit into women...

I went from being bi with a preference for women to bi with a significant preference for men. I'd say it's dysphoria related. When I had a very feminine appearance, I was uncomfortable with the idea of being with a man, because I'd feel very female comparatively. Whereas with a woman I could at least be comparatively masculine. Now I'm less dysphoric and self conscious about femininity versus masculinity.

Quote from: Ami87 on August 25, 2011, 07:20:36 PM
Hi, I have a question. I've found out that many transmen after some time on T turn out to be gay (or at least find out that they are not so exclusively into women). If there are such people here, I wonder if it's real change or rather simply earlier they supressed these feelings. And also, are there many guys who haven't shifted even a little bit into men after starting T, only attracted to women sexually?

I was watching this documentary about transgenders where they said that somewhere between 1/2 to 3/4 of transsexuals who go HRT will find their sexual orientation changes. It just said "changes", whether it's from straight to gay, gay to straight, gay to bi, gay to pan, or whatever.  It didn't say why, though.  I could guess a few reasons.

Honestly that's one thing I'm worried about. I know it's a dumb thing to get worried about, and I'm definitely not homophobic, I just really enjoy liking girls and I'd be sad if it went away.

Quote from: x1x1 on August 26, 2011, 12:37:44 AM
Honestly that's one thing I'm worried about. I know it's a dumb thing to get worried about, and I'm definitely not homophobic, I just really enjoy liking girls and I'd be sad if it went away.

Oh I can totally relate here.  Except I like guys. lol.  I tend to think girls are a little confusing and complicated, and just not for me. lol.  I don't want my sexual orientation to change, lol.

I have noticed that I'm more bi since starting on T. I never used to think of men in a sexual way but there is one guy I know who is bi that I wouldn't mind doing stuff with. I'm still hugely attracted to women though.

Troy

I've heard of this happening. I've also heard people say they didn't experience a change.
I'll be starting T in a couple months and I hope it doesn't happen to me. I'm straight and I like being straight.

I don't know that your sexual orientation changes. I think that when you finally understand who you are, your orientation is let out of the bottle.... you know, like a genie. Poof!

Cindi

" you know, like a genie. Poof"  Good one! 

I experienced a re-orientation once I started HRT, and agree that being able to be your true self has a lot to do with it.  There seems to be a fair bit of unconscious internal confusion between gender and sexuality  going on, which finally dissipates, leaving your true orientation exposed.   

Hormones are powerful and subtle, so I would be surprised if they didn't play some part in it.

I now find the thought of a relationship with a man totally incomprehensible.  I know I tried it, and liked the experience at the time, but just can't get the concept to take shape in my mind now.  Girls only for me now by the looks of things.

Karen.

Quote from: JohnAlex on August 26, 2011, 12:32:29 AM
I was watching this documentary about transgenders where they said that somewhere between 1/2 to 3/4 of transsexuals who go HRT will find their sexual orientation changes. It just said "changes", whether it's from straight to gay, gay to straight, gay to bi, gay to pan, or whatever.

Considering answers till now, it looks like transmen's orientations only shift into men...

My orientation hasn't shifted in the slightest, I'm still completely into men. 

I dated a girl for about 5ish years, off and on.  But I was always incredibly attracted to men, not really interested in women.  I think I liked girls because they were easier to be friends with (and still are).

Now, I can't imagine myself ever dating a female again.  I'm 20 months on T and have been (publicly) identifying as gay since I started living full-time.  I briefly dated my ex in my junior year (while FT) because I was lonely.  Broke it off with her as I realized we're much better friends than anything else.

T didn't change my orientation necessarily.  It just gave me the confidence to come out of the closet and accept myself.

Right now I'm like, wired on to women. I can't help it. I just got out of a relationship and am desperately trying to avoid being in another one because I need to have some time to myself, but I can't help but flirt and the temptation is so bloody strong.

But I somehow feel that when I start T, I might become more open to being with men... which terrifies me because now that it is socially acceptable to ogle women, I really, really enjoy doing so. While I can get off on gay porn, I think for me it's more an envy thing because picturing myself sucking a guy off or even making out with a guy just doesn't do it for me... But who knows. I'm pretty sure I'll have my first shot by the end of September so I'll update in a few months

From what I've heard, it's something that people just 'Admire' in another's body.
This is where I heard where it happened to a guy named Aidan.
He's not gay xD But it just kinda helped me

FTM Trans.Code: 4 Months of Powerpuffness

I've always been more attracted to women, and a little attracted to men. Since being on T, my attraction to women has increased, and my attraction to men has decreased, although I am still attracted to the latter, just not as intensely.

my affection has not changed except there's a lot more of it.
All for women.

Honestly, I don't think its suppressed feelings at all. I've ALWAYS been attracted to women my whole life and I'm 6 months on T now with a pretty signification attraction to men. I don't find women repulsiveness or anything but suddenly the idea of being with a guy sexually is a turn on. I can't really explain it but I've never been into guys, ever. You can't call it suppressed because you know who you are attracted to and you can't help what gets you turn on , right?

Anyway, I don't know if I could ever actually "date" a guy... but I'm starting to see that there is a REALLY big difference between getting your rocks off an your sexual "orientation" ...
Basically at this point I'm just super sexual... I wouldn't call myself "bi" because I'm into butt-sex with a dude, but I wouldn't call myself "straight" because I'm married to a cis-woman. I feel like when you put those labels on things it makes people WANT to be one thing or the other, instead of just being who you are. 
Just love who you love and screw who you wanna screw in my opinion, there are plenty of other stuff in this world to be scared of and worried about and this just doesn't seem like that big of a deal.
Just my two cents...

I have to say that mine did change. I am more into guys now. As far as women are concerned its female bodybuilders rather than 'regular women'....which was usually the case with me anyway.
My only concern has been the fact that a lot of guys want very crazy things sexually from FTM's which is not good!

I wouldn't necessarily say my orientation changed.  I dated women pre-t and now I prefer dating men.  However I feel that it's more attributed to feeling comfortable in my body and within society. I've always been interested more in men than women.  But I wasn't ok with dating men before because I didn't want to be treated like the woman in the relationship. Now, I don't mind being the less dominate one of the relationship since I don't feel like I have to overcompensate my gender identity.