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Anyway i wonder what you girls think about this, did that ever change your opinion on being female?

I have to be. I can't be what I'm not. I was born female no matter my physical state. I have no choice but to be myself, for myself.

Hi Marta

Tekla has a point, why didn't your BF say to her to move on.
I think they both disrespected you.
I can imagine why you were angry on that girl, it's not the way civilised people should behave but I think I walked out of the place leaving the BF with the slut and when he didn't come right after me, he could stay where he was.

Sorry if this sound hoarse but IMHO you don't have to tolerate such kind of behaviour, as a decent lady you deserve a better way of treatment.

Hugs
Annette

Boys see girls as pieces of meat, and most girls have low self esteem (boys know this!)
Fact is, Girls act 'slutty' so GUYS will notice them!
so maybe if guys would stop thinking with their cocks, girls would keep their legs closed

*edited* some 'moderaters' *cough*power hungry witches*cough* can't take a joke.

off-topic, you're totally cute!
Yeah, I'm kidding. ew.

ok about the whole boyfriend didnt move thing, my boyfriend was pretty drunk that night and he was kinda spaced out when this chick sat on his lap. I was with him the whole night and she was pretty much taking advantage of that. Also I know some people say that there are plenty of men that also act this way but i was referring to females alone. Some women use the excuse that men can do it but my point is why would you want to do what they are doing? i know this and im not saying men doing it is any better but this topic is not about them.  Also id like to restate that i said "some women are this way" if i said all women i would probably be lumping myself in there too with my mom and sisters we are all far from being this way. Im not bashing women as a whole im simply talking about a huge majority of girls who are extremely needy at least they need the attention and they try to get it in the wrong way- or that can be they attention that they want. @Ganetta- im not slut shaming, i think its perfectly normal for a person who is non religious (like me) to feel this way because its counter productive to women.  So as ive explained before im not lumping all women into this category, my boyfriend was drunk and i know all women are NOT the same. Simply it was a rant on women who are this way and trust me there is a lot.

You're right Marta, wherever you go, you will always meet lousy people, fortunately there are nice people too.
i don't know why some women act like that, maybe some competition, sort of "I'm more attractive than you, look I can take your BF, I have the power" It's very immature and insecure behaviour but there is always hope that this girls change their behaviour when they are grown ups.
Sorry, you had this experience.

hugs
Annette

Quote from: Marta on August 28, 2011, 02:58:57 PM
i think its perfectly normal for a person who is non religious (like me) to feel this way because its counter productive to women.

For the most part I agree with you, but I am wondering what religion has to do with it. I am a religious person but I also think it is counter-productive to women. I never really understood the whole needing attention thing.

The thing that always bothered me was that women think doing what a man does is liberating. So now we have all these women being cheap like SOME men who have too much T, excuse my statement. Or we have women into sports, rtc etc because men did it.

I wondered why womens lib didn't get men to do things like women and not the reverse. Womens liberation should have pushed men to be more like women than women becoming more like men. sheesh thats what sucks.. too me.. oh well maybe i am old school..

my boyfriend was pretty drunk that night and he was kinda spaced out when this chick sat on his lap

Well that's putting the blame where it belongs.  Oh wait.  You're serious!  Let me laugh harder then.  Most guys try to find a chick in a different area code if they are going to cheat, he didn't even bother to find one in a different room.

i don't know why some women act like that

Probably thinking that he could do better.  Along the same lines as guys who think: Is she really going out with him?  As the noted American philosopher Beyoncé said, Don't be mad once you see that he want it / If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it.

Well, speaking as a sexually-liberated person, and therefore quite possibly a "slut" in your book (since I still look like a girl)...

Let me say it for the record: there's nothing wrong with wanting or having consensual sex. And if a woman flirts, or wears sexy clothes, or puts out, it's not always because she's a degraded sex object or has internalized some oppressive male-dominated social propaganda. Sometimes she's just confident and likes sex. Deal with it. If her confidence bothers you, turn your chair around.

@Wolfsnake: THANK YOU.

@tekla, mmhmmm u can think whatever u like and @wolfsnake- how does being easy=confidence? I wasnt talking about confidence at all. I believe if a woman is a confident one there is no need for that type of attention. The way that you describe women seems more like a prostitute than someone who is just "liberated". Just because its culturally acceptable to act a certain way doesnt mean its right. If it was culturally acceptable for a 13 or 14 year old girl to act that way i think most people would say the things you say. And hey the way things are now soon it will be normal for little girls to emulate women like this- not that it doesnt happen now. There's plenty of ways for a woman to be or feel confident and by using sex and her body thats really stupid. All im saying is women can do a lot better than that. And i also believe that people should have enough respect for others to keep themselves covered up and act cheap in other places where everyone is ok with it. I shouldnt have to "deal with it" or turn around

I agree with Marta, a person shouldnt have to put up with a girl that is acting like a slut and walks around with everything hanging out because they need attention. If a girl doesnt want to be seen that way then maybe she should present herself differently? first impressions are important. "sexual liberation" mmmhmmm? sounds more like a term to use instead of promiscuous. If a person is sleeping around with everyone they meet that's promiscuity, if you have one partner then thats a different story but people will come up with different terms to make things seem more tame than they really are. Women who are "confident" enough to flaunt their whole body and sleep around with every guy they meet is a slut its not a question of confidence or liberation. That's why the term exists. And im not even gonna mention men here because men can be that way too but we are talking about women. The world shouldn't have to deal with women like that if they want to be that way fine but they can do it at home and not in front of the whole world

There's nothing wrong with promiscuity or polyamory, if you take care of yourself and your partners while you're about it.

Seriously, folks. It ain't the fifties anymore.

Seriously, folks. It ain't the fifties anymore.

I have a hard time around here figuring out what century people are living in, much less narrowing it down to a decade.

Quote from: Wolfsnake on August 29, 2011, 02:49:36 AM
There's nothing wrong with promiscuity or polyamory

Well there is a difference between those two. Polyamory is fine, but I would define promiscuous as sleeping with many people who aren't your committed partners. That I think is just... well it's primitive really. We ought to be better than just screw whatever looks good.

Quote from: Pinkfluff on August 29, 2011, 07:40:46 AM
Well there is a difference between those two. Polyamory is fine, but I would define promiscuous as sleeping with many people who aren't your committed partners. That I think is just... well it's primitive really. We ought to be better than just screw whatever looks good.

We need a like button .. oh yea we have a reputation button

We ought to be better than just screw whatever looks good

OK, you can have all the fat ugly people then.  So can I pencil you in around 9 tonight?

Quote from: Pinkfluff on August 29, 2011, 07:40:46 AM
Well there is a difference between those two. Polyamory is fine, but I would define promiscuous as sleeping with many people who aren't your committed partners. That I think is just... well it's primitive really. We ought to be better than just screw whatever looks good.

So I have to be totally committed to someone to have sex with them in your universe? What if neither of us like strings and just want to try new things?

I'm also curious what's wrong with primitive, and what makes "civilized" morally superior. And guess what, people do screw what looks good. It's called having a type. It's kinda normal.

Oh, and Annetta, you're welcome madam.

So many prudes in this thread. I'd just like to say that I am going to have absolutely no qualms about enjoying both my body and my sexuality once I've healed enough. Which by some of the definitions in this thread would make me a dirty little slutty ho bag...on a skateboard.

Quote from: Gravity's Child on August 29, 2011, 05:06:09 PM
So many prudes in this thread. I'd just like to say that I am going to have absolutely no qualms about enjoying both my body and my sexuality once I've healed enough. Which by some of the definitions in this thread would make me a dirty little slutty ho bag...on a skateboard.

You go girl! If you got it, have fun with it, yeah?