Love the saying "looks are only skin deep"  i am very shy, so much so, that i have never asked a girl for a date in my life. No suprise then i guess, that i met my now wife of 9 years via a telephone chat line and we were smitten with each other near enough from day one. We fell in love even before we met and within 6 months we had moved in together, arranged our wedding and she was pregnant with our first of two children.

Couldnt really say what kind of people i attract as have always had a very low oppinion of myself and have never been able to understand why anyone would fancy me, however, have been married twice and engaged about 4 times, have 6 children off 3 different woman, so i guess i might not be quite as unatractive as i feel i am.

My wife dislikes stereotypical men and dont mind the fact that i have this female side and as detest really girly girls who have 50 pairs of shoes and take all day worry about what their hair looks like. i feel these are some of the reasons why we still love each other as much now as we ever had.

Quote from: Zoë Natasha on September 07, 2011, 03:18:52 AM
That's pretty much my type right there!

As for who's attracted to me?  I don't know.  I haven't been asked out or flirted with or anything.  Guess nobody's really attracted to me.   Been single for 3.5 years now and I haven't had the slightest hint of interest from a single person.  No approaches, no flirting, no glances, nothing at all.

I should go sleep before I start crying too much.  Sorry, everyone.

I have a friend like you. She's shy and people don't really approach her. That may or may not be your problem, but don't assume you're not attractive, people might be attracted to you and not approach you because they are too shy or a number of other reasons. *HUGS*

Quote from: shelly on September 08, 2011, 08:52:01 AM

My wife dislikes stereotypical men and dont mind the fact that i have this female side and as detest really girly girls who have 50 pairs of shoes and take all day worry about what their hair looks like. i feel these are some of the reasons why we still love each other as much now as we ever had.

That's really encouraging to hear. I often wonder if it's possible for someone to be attracted to and love both sides of me.

Quote from: justmeinoz on September 07, 2011, 04:52:19 AM
I like tall, athletic women, with high intelligence, and mentally stable.
I seem to attract women and men who are short, and who vary from insecure to clinically neurotic.  Unfortunately these things seem to remain hidden until the relationship has progressed to the point where it can be damaged.

Crazy types are inherently like that. I friendzone potential lovers for a minimum of 2 years to really get to know them and see if there's any potential there and even with that the insanity has slipped under the radar.

Quote from: dustbunny on September 08, 2011, 12:15:58 PM
That's really encouraging to hear. I often wonder if it's possible for someone to be attracted to and love both sides of me.

I find it easier to explain myself by splitting my two sides in half, my wife on the other hand sees the two sides of me making the person i am. Told my wife even before we met that i wear womans clothes from time to time (wasnt till much later on that i came across the term Andro) and she took like water off a ducks back. Think im living proof that it is possible to find someone to, maybe not love the both sides of Andro's, but more to love that person for what they are and all the things that come with them. Not saying its easy mind, as my life has been a battlefield of broken relationships, mainly due to the fact that i am not your average male, but in the end i eventually found my real true soul mate.

My wife is bi, and pretty much treats me like I'm a guy sometimes, a girl other times, and neither/just me other times.  Sometimes not in sync with my own feeling, but more often than not.  She was originally attracted to me because she liked the way I think (we met online) and she knew I had a feminine streak, and likes it that way.  We met when I was 32 and had long since resigned myself to being single forever, so have hope

I like smart girls who have some girly girl traits but can also kick ass. I like big girls, gothy attributes, long hair, and light eyes.

I managed to attract a perfect mate for me. In the past I seem to attract people with sleeper crazy. They seem normal but once their crazy starts to show it comes fast and hits hard.

For personality I'm really attracted to people who have the right mix of intelligence and a geeky sense of humor.  I also prefer those who are neither ultra feminine nor masculine.  I like independent thinkers with confidence and a love of life.

Physically I like people more on the shorter side with dark hair.  I prefer women more curvy/almost chubby and men on the fitter side of things but not really muscular.  However, I find lots of people physically attractive who don't match up with any of this.

Since I've been presenting as male I seem to be attracting mostly butch lesbians and tomboys, but before that (while presenting as ultra feminine) it was more jock-ish guys.

In terms of attraction, I'm rarely attracted to anyone. I have to have some sort of familiarity or connection with a person, and then attraction might possibly develop. And I seem to be completely blind to most aspects of looks or personality; the only thing I can think of that all my crushes and significant others have had in common is an ability to make me laugh, and they all do/did that differently. I guess I don't really have a 'type.' My type is people I click with.

That being said, the most beautiful people are pale women with dark hair and freckles. I can't stop staring at women like that, but not because of lust. They just take my breath away.

In terms of whom I attract, hmm. I seem to attract men who like women. That's broad, but true. I attract a very wide array of straight men.

I like FTM's and MTF's equally and i like when the MTF's are no too femmy and the FTM's are not too masculine. I do like androgynous people but i hated my penis all my life and well i just can't deal with an uncastrated one. A castrated one to me is like a big clit. I wouldn't mind a post op FTM considering what they went through. I did the femme queen thing and well it got old. It caused too many cis men to desire me. I had to cut my hair and get rid of my implants to stop that. I also like those people to be simple people seeking a simple country life. I love the simple people here who never go to cities and if they do they feel out of place. Thats the amish here who are so simple. I am growing my hair longer here and wearing a cap but most here see me as some really butch woman which is great because i get a lot of respect whereas when i was femme i was seen as too sexy or just not right for my age. I can also do what i like now since i no longer have to keep a femme queen look. I love getting dirty in the garden

I'm attracted to those near the middle but I tend to attract very feminine women.   

Not really into men but went to lunch with a really sweet one today, beautiful hands and very shy. Been thinking about him and he was kind and lovely. Tempted...

Personally, I like guys who are short and cute, but confident, slightly manly, scawny but fit (not real muscly at all), and not very hairy, and any race but white. Pretty much the big summary is I think white guys are ugly for the most part, sums it up well. My personality type is pretty alternative, so I tend to like guys who aren't preppy, sportsy, or normal, but a bit more around the edge. Most of all, they plain out have to have the specific body parts that match with a few strange fetishes of mine (specific feet, hands, ect ect) or else I can't find interest in them.

I pretty much would like a strange mixture between Justin Bieber, Shia Labouf, and Taylor Lautner, just speaking of celebrity examples. I absolutely would not touch someone who looked like Robert Pattison, he looks like what would happen if Quentin Tarantino mated with a foot! (Which is a fetish of Tarantino's, believe it or not...)

Also, personality wise, I tend to need someone who's been through a lot, like abuse and medical problems, or else things get to a point where I want to express my experienced, serious side, and some spoiled brat can't stand it. However, it gets to be a problem there too, because I'm enough grumpy to go around, I want someone who's always happy around me, someone who doesn't get mad about everything. The first person I fell in love with happened to go through a fraction of what I've been through, and it was enough to make him a grumpy, picky prick. The second person I fell in love with had never been through anything horrid, but was a heck of a ton nicer and happier. Go figure.

for me it is all about the personality the only gender of people I have not found anyone I'm attracted to (romantically) is cis Male
it has very little to do with looks I find difference attractive sometimes I know what makes then different eg. deaf, blind or wheelchair bound people who have come though a lot is attractive to me sometimes I don't know why I'm attracted to them and later find out that they have mental health issues and or are Lesbians,  Sometimes I think I'm attracted to what I can't have.  I also find people who are visibly different to most people intriguing and would like to get to know them better (purple or pink hair, funky earrings interesting body art all make me think wow and I'd like to get to know them better
Who Is attracted to me?I wish I knew I've never been in a relationship that was anything more the good friends anyone I've asked to be more then friends has outright rejected me

Kinkly, your attractions are similar to my own. I have come to identify as a demi-sexual.

lately I am attracted to a Younger Trinidadian woman. She is very attractive, I love her lilting Caribbean accent, she is a bit taller than me, She has beautiful light brown skin, she is a paralegal, I met her on a professional level, we met for cocktails, she is a lot younger than me, married but separated. I thought she would be just a friend, but things developed, I gave her the info about my bigender /androgyne/ asexual identity and answered her questions and still we are seeing each other and developing a relationship. I have no idea where this will go but for the time being it is fun and an interesting cross cultural experience.
I attract, gay men, gay women and cis women. The attraction is usually intellectual but can lead to be physical sometimes.

i don't really know what i attract, other than the occasional old pig. but they don't count as they'd hit on anything female looking

what i'm attracted to is asian looks (actually mongoloid, but that word has somehow become politically incorrect to use), long hair, cool scars more than tattoos, a nice butt, well formed chest, a certain cute shyness, coolness, manliness, femininity.. very difficult to specify a certain type of person or gender for these features

still, i haven't yet gotten over this girl i fell in love with. her personality was such a perfect match for me, so good that i couldn't help being attracted even though she doesn't have most of the features which i wrote above. too bad i'm not the type she'd go for a sexual relationship with

Did you mean Mongolian?

Ativan

before it they started using it as a derogatory for people with down's syndrome, it was used about mongoloid/mongolic races, like east asians, native americans etc. "mongolian" can only be used about the nationality, and "asian" covers too much (i'm not into persian and indian looks) while also leaving some out

Quote from: Taka on September 15, 2011, 02:37:49 PM
before it they started using it as a derogatory for people with down's syndrome, it was used about mongoloid/mongolic races, like east asians, native americans etc. "mongolian" can only be used about the nationality, and "asian" covers too much (i'm not into persian and indian looks) while also leaving some out

I'm with you about the east and south east asian look. The eyes are so beautiful and that's what really gets me. Same with arabs, the eyes are amazing.