I shopped for whole bunch of female clothing and bought a nice male tie in mix. I asked lady at checkout if colors wear nice. She said oh blouse and pants are a nice match. I knew that. I was asking about tie! She knew I was shopping for me and I was asking about shopping for him.
Another time I went to try out female clothing in "men's" closet. Female said, "Do you know those are female clothes?" I said yes. She said O.K. and then helped me buy nice clothes that fit.
Occasional female is jerk but very few. Make a game out of it. My guess is that no female will give you a problem. I still have a problem and I am close to passing if I try. I feel like apologizing for how I feel.