i made a mistake by coming back here, thats ok.

Why do you say that?

because no one talks to me. Or maybe cuz im weird, who knows. Right now i am feeling emotionally wounded. I heard what i thought was a good friend talking to one of her friends about me. wow, its amazing how people talk about others. ALL this from a friend, or someone i thought was a friend...rather depressing really.

Don't feel bad no one talks to me either. Kinda clickish in here.

People just respond to threads that interest them... for whatever reason...

It is the way of the internet....

Quote from: Rachael on September 17, 2011, 11:52:25 AM
Don't feel bad no one talks to me either. Kinda clickish in here.

ill talk to you Rachael. How are you today? I am,,,,,,,,,sad. I just fed my bunnies and they are happy, so i feel better too. I have special bunnies but one kinda stands out from the rest, she likes to lick my face! What a real treat that is! I feel a little better just thinking of all the priceless buny kisses i have gotten from her. Her name is Penelope. Do you have any pets?

Quote from: Rabbit on September 17, 2011, 12:02:28 PM
People just respond to threads that interest them... for whatever reason...

It is the way of the internet....

It's true.

I'm usually down to talk.

That sucks with your "friend."  People can be really two-faced sometimes, and it makes it harder to trust those who deserve it.

I'm down to be your friend. I'm sorry you feel that way, I'm new here, I hope its not all clickish, but I do agree people only respond to threads that interests them.

No pets I wish i did though i reallly want a puppy really bad. I keep trying to talk my landlord into letting me pay extra deposit so I can get one. I have a friend who has a bunny too they are really cute.

its like 1pm, i guess I should prob ably get out of bed! lol

Yeah, I kinda don't mean to 'not chat' with people but the basic idea of a forums (thinking back to the BBS days) was for people to post ideas and have them responded to (sometimes it took a while to get a response depending on the activity of the BBS system).

When I come to a place like susans.org I don't expect to have real time conversations with people. I post on what I feel like posting on, and I create a thread if I feel I have something to talk about. One of the things I find myself doing from time to time is looking at the number of 'views' and 'replies' my threads get to see if what I posted was at least getting read by other people... and then when I see it's been read like 20 times in 48 hours with no replies it's like

Maybe from time to time I'll join in on the IRC channel if I feel like I want some kind of instant gratification on a conversation but most of the time I'm just happy to get responses from people I send a private message to.

I've been here almost 3 years and I have yet to go into Chat.   I don't like talking in real time.    I used to be what is called an 'Attention Whore' but I am over it now.   I take a Zen approach to forums.  I post what I like and I do what I like, if people don't care for my posts or me then that is fine.  When you start chasing after the 'popular' members and crying 'why does nobody want to speak to me?'   You have sold your soul, let the people who like you like you and the people who don't like you dislike you.

Quote from: Princess of Hearts on September 17, 2011, 04:41:03 PM
  When you start chasing after the 'popular' members and crying 'why does nobody want to speak to me?'   You have sold your soul, let the people who like you like you and the people who don't like you dislike you.

yeah i agree that when people are chasing the popular people (whoever they may be) and no one talks to them, well, life is what you make it. However, there are others reasons that people want to talk. I was lonely when i started this post. Thats all,,,

My advise is to be friendly to everyone and don't expect too much back. That way your feelings won't get hurt.
But it looks like you made a few friends today between this and the other topic you started. Right ? So thats a good start for you.

Another thing is a LOT of people are too shy to respond to any post. I have friends who say they read a lot of different forums but have never wrote anything. I've started several topics I thought would be of interest and zero response, it's just how it is, don't take it personally

I what to post a lot more than I do, but I never know what to say.  A lot of times people are either asking advice that I don't feel qualified to respond to or asking for general support that I want to respond to but don't know how to help.

I hope it's not clicky, although I have noticed my own posts don't get responded to that much.

Siobhan.

Quote from: SiobhanB on September 17, 2011, 08:16:25 PM
I what to post a lot more than I do, but I never know what to say.  A lot of times people are either asking advice that I don't feel qualified to respond to or asking for general support that I want to respond to but don't know how to help.

I hope it's not clicky, although I have noticed my own posts don't get responded to that much.

Siobhan.

I feel this way too. It's a lack of confidence on my part, I'm naturally shy and so I tend to only speak when I am sure of what I'm saying. There are a lot of threads where I feel a need to help but I just don't feel qualified to do so because I've never been through that particular situation.

Everyone here is nice though. And also I made an awesome friend here!!! (you knooooow who you are ^_^ )

Quote from: Nikki_Mercedes on September 17, 2011, 09:59:02 AM
because no one talks to me. Or maybe cuz im weird, who knows. Right now i am feeling emotionally wounded. I heard what i thought was a good friend talking to one of her friends about me. wow, its amazing how people talk about others. ALL this from a friend, or someone i thought was a friend...rather depressing really.

yes, amazing...  and really hurtful at the same time.
I woke up this morning to find a long facebook conversation about me that was almost exclusively really hurtful, bad and stupid jokes. 
I thought these acquaintances accepted and respected me as a woman, but I guess not. It has all been deleted by now and the guy who started it has apologized several times, still, I wish I had never read all that.
Kinda makes me wonder what all my work colleagues who are nice to my face really thing and say behind my back. 

Sometimes people just suck...

The thing about Susan's and what makes it so good is that, people listen. They may not say much but you can be pretty sure they read what you've written.

If you need proof, just look at the figure for Read in the menu.