On "Passing"

http://www.transadvocate.com/on-passing.htm
9/18/11
Dr. Cary Gabriel Costello

I hate the term "passing."

It's used as a euphemism for death: "All were saddened at his passing."

I'm told I should be happy about "passing." When used to refer to trans people, "passing" is defined as being accepted by others as a member of one's identified sex, on the basis of appearance, mannerism and voice. Ever since my voice changed and my facial hair came in, I've been congratulated by others (both cis and trans) for being able to "pass," despite my height and frame (I'm a mighty 5'2"). I'm told that I "pass pretty well" as a man. It always makes me very uncomfortable.

Loved this article. Thank you for posting it!

I personally feel it's important for me to be out. It's hard to hate someone you've met.

BTW, I almost said "passing it along," but stopped myself just in time.