Hello My name is Zoe And i am new to this forum.

I am 23 years old and all my life i have crossdressed and wanted to be feminine, i have never wanted to be manly and have always hung around with the girls.
I have always thought however that i was a transvestite and would only stay dressed for short periods.
I moved into my new house 1 month ago, and now live on my own. Since then i have started to embrace my feminine side and have been Zoe for longer periods of time and its now at the point that as soon as i finish work and come back home i want to become a woman and will spend the whole evening as Zoe.
Im so confused as i have always thought that i was a transvestite, however in the short amount of time i have been living on my own, i have started to become very reclusive and a bit depressed. I am starting to feel asthough i am in the wrong body and really do not know what to do.

Im just wondering wether any of you girls ever thought you were a transvestite, or did you always know that you were transexual?
Im really really really confused and am a bit scared. I really dont know who i am at the moment and would like some help and advice!!

Thankyou for reading
Love Zoe.

I never thought I was a transvestite. But I did think I was a homosexual at one point simply because I had never seen or heard the word transsexual. So, after finding out and doing some research I noticed I could relate to other transsexuals. It's just a matter of figuring yourself out.

No one here can tell you what you are. You should definitely go see a gender therapist who can help you sort out your feelings.

Hey Zoe! 

That sounds quite similar to me! When I was younger, I only dressed for short periods of time, but as I grew older, things changed (mainly feelings) and now I crave to let my feminine side out!

Don't worry hun, I too am near the beginning of my journey and get confused as well, I feel that it's normal. After all, questioning and challenging your gender isn't something to take lightly, it's a big part of your life.

Everyone here on the forums can offer you help and advice (including me). Embrace yourself, Zoe. Love yourself. Keep doing what feels right to you, and the answers will come. You'll get to a point, and achieve clarity (I think I may have achieved that tonight! *yay*). Give it time, it will come and you'll know it. Nobody can really tell you who you are but you. Ultimately, your heart and soul will guide you along your path. There are no rules and no expectations with what you're feeling and who you are. You are who you are, and that's why we love you!

Therapy can definitely help you (I am hoping to see a therapist soon!). They'll help you answer some of those questions that you have, and also give you plenty to think about.

Keep on keeping on, keep being the beautiful person you are. Soon, Zoe will blossom and show the whole world!

Good luck!

Love,
Karlee.x

Hi zoe,
I labelled myself as a lot of things throught my life trying to understand who I am. I was 28 years old when I came across the word transsexual. I had heard of only one person that got a sex change but did not know it was related. I was 15 when I heard of it. It has been a long road but it has gotten easyer over time.