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How long did you take to discard your 'PREVIOUS CLOTHES'? And were you sad?

Started by Sad Girl, September 22, 2011, 02:58:43 AM

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Sad Girl

After 2 years of transitioning I discarded mine just right now today to a male friend. Those clothes were very expensive and he was so happy to have it.

I know many who discard it immediately but in the past I was forced to detransition for a while and retransition again so I freaked off and kept it aside in case I needed to detransition again but in span of 2 years nothing happened, some changes are way too major to backtrack and revert now. Looking at my past clothes, I feel nostalgic like a bit sad remembering my past life and happy that I'm burying my past for good as well.

And you, how long did you take to discard? Were you sad or happy or both?

Thanks to sister Heather on Youtube who inspired me NOT to detransition EVER again.
What good is a great life if youre not living it !
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justmeinoz

As soon as I went full-time after my name change the lot went straight to the Salvo's Op Shop.
"Don't ask me, it was on fire when I lay down on it"
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kelly_aus

Apart from 4 days worth of 'business attire' I sent the whole lot out to shed about a month after I realised that I had to transition.. Fridays at work were casuals days and I had some fun with them..  >:-)

And since that job finished up on 2 September, the remainder has been sent to the shed as well.. Next step is to sort them all and throw out the crud and send the rest to the Salvo's. Which I'm putting off doing, because I frankly don't want to see them..
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Padma

Sitting with this right now - I was in my bedroom yesterday morning, realising that as of about a month ago, over 90% of the clothes I own I just don't want to wear any more because they're boy-shaped/shapeless and I associate them with "passing" as male.

I've started a new wardrobe, and it's very small so far, but the only reason I have so many clothes already is I'm terrible at letting go of them, so I have (for example) teeshirts more than 20 years old! A lot of it is just going to have to go, or become cleaning cloths, or whatever. I lack Helen's sewing skillz, so I can't turn it into funky girl outfits :).
Womandrogyne™
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JenJen2011

10 months after starting HRT, I moved out of my parents home and in with a TS friend. I bagged all my male clothes up and threw them in the dumpster. I think I had like 4 trash bags full of male clothes. I was so happy to get rid of them at the time but now that I think about it, I should have at least donated them to Salvation Army or something.
"You have one life to live so live it right"
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Annah

I went fulltime on my first day at Seminary last September.

That night, I gathered all my suits, dress shirts, ties, slacks, french cuff links, watches, jewelry, socks, and shoes and gave them all to my next door neighbor who lives next to me on campus.

I gave him over 9000 dollars in clothing. To see the smile on his face to get all these new clothing that is perfect for Seminary gave me a sense of completion. I also could not be happier giving them away. That night me, him and a girl friend of mine went out and I bought a whole new wardrobe...thank to Sally Mae Educational Loans Refund Program LOL
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Lee

All my clothes ended up in bags under my bed after about a half a year, and they went to Goodwill after about another 6 months when I moved out.  It was a huge relief, and I went from having way too many things that I never wanted to wear to about 6 outfits that I am very comfortable in.  It took me a bit to reconcile the fact that I really like girls' clothes with the crappy feeling I get when I'm the one wearing them.  I just need to find someone else to shop for.  :laugh:
Oh I'm a lucky man to count on both hands the ones I love

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Emily Ray

After a month of being full-time I knew I couldn't go back. I gave them to my roommate when I moved back to the US. It wasn't sad for me at all. It was a great day and I knew then that it was move forward or die.

Huggs

Emily
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~RoadToTrista~

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eli77

I ditched about 60% to Goodwill 2 weeks after going full time. The rest are button-ups, hoodies, boxers (for sleeping), loose tshirts (same), socks, shoes, and jackets that I wear and am keeping. It killed me a little to toss my $200 pair of Diesel jeans, but they just don't fit my body or style at all anymore.

Actually, I've just about given up finding button-ups that I like in the women's section, so my men's stuff may start increasing in number again.
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Vincent E.S.

Most of my clothing was already male clothing because (usually)when anyone bought me girl clothes, I wouldn't wear them. I had already cleaned my room and closet recently, so a lot of unused stuff had gone to charity.

A week or so after I came out, I started compiling all the remaining stuff. If it was stained, or gross in some other way, I threw it out. If it was nice, I put it in a box to give to charity. Unfortunately, the box is still sitting in my car along with some other things because we haven't gone over to the charity place yet.

I wasn't sad in general, because I hated most of the stuff, but the few things that were giving me some maudlin or nostalgic feelings I put in my fabric box. That way, I can reuse them in a sewing project so I'll still kind of keep them, just in a form I can use.
There were a few things I kept though. Mostly because they fit my style, actually fit my body, and didn't scream female.
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cynthialee

about a year and change
They had sat on a shelf gathering dust forever so I figured why feed the moths so I gave it all to good will.

I was not sad.
I was happy to see it go away. It was the moment of finality for me. Once those clothes were gone I knew it was over. He was sent to the goodwill along with those clothes.
Granted there was a wierd moment that it dawned on me how momentus I should be feeling but wasnt.
I threw that stuff away because it was obsolete to my life.
So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.
If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.
If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.
Sun Tsu 'The art of War'
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JenniL

Started out building my wardrobe slowly last September, then after 2 months on HRT I wasn't wearing male clothes anymore. So it was about 4 months. Donated everything except for a handful of t-shirts. I was not sad, it was more of a reassurance that I am moving in the right direction.

Jennifer


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Sarah B

I still remember to this day, when I dumped my old clothes in a bin and my long time friend was there when it happened.  I thought it was going to be a spectacular moment, but it was just another small nondescript moment in my life.

I left my family and friends with a small suitcase of my old clothes and of course a suitcase of normal clothes.  After officially changing my name and just after starting work full time.  This was about 3 months into my new life and during that 3 months, I think I hardly wore them anyway.

There comes a time when you need to to clean out the closet and move on. However, cleaning out the closet actually allows you to go and do some serious shopping. ;D

Warm regards
Sarah B
Be who you want to be.
Sarah's Story
Feb 1989 Living my life as Sarah.
Feb 1989 Legally changed my name.
Mar 1989 Started hormones.
May 1990 Three surgery letters.
Feb 1991 Surgery.
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Alex37

Last July, when I moved into a new apt where no one knew me as a girl, I donated most of my girl clothes to the salvation army.  There's still a trash bag in my mom's basement full of girl clothes that I'll be able to wear post T and/or post top surgery and still be read as male (mostly t-shirts,) and a few skirts and dresses that were too cute to part with.  Hopefully I'll get invited to a drag party one day.   ;D
If you're going through hell, keep going.   Winston Churchill
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Nygeel

Uh my previous clothes are the clothes I wear now. Some stuff I got too big to wear but overall I just wear the same clothes I used to wear.
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Gingertrap

I slowly got rid of the clothes I didn't wear as I built a female wardrobe. I gave a stack of them to a friend of mine who was questioning gender. I still have a handful of T-shirts that are either band shirts, or something that has some sentimental value. I have a few other pieces of clothing I kept just to have clothes for when I am doing my dirty work.

All in all getting rid of them wasn't a major thing for me, but it was a relief to start wearing girls clothes exclusively.
http://gingertrap.com/ ~ My transition blog.
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kyle_lawrence

I never really had a bunch of clothes to get rid of all at once.  I just stopped buying womens clothes, and would get rid of a few old things everytime I went shopping.   Even though I never had super girly stuff, I couldnt afford to replace all of it at once, so kept wearing my womens clothes for a while.  I moved 6 times in 3 years, and my girl wardrobe got smaller and smaller each time, till finally the last time I moved, I only brought male clothes with me.  I still have several garbage bags of really old girl clothes at my moms house, but she wont let me through it away.  I do find it amusing sometimes to look through and try to imagine wearing them again.
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KateConnors

I'm trying make my transition as organic as possible, so I basically ceased to buy any guy clothes about 6 months ago and I only buy women's clothes now as they need to be replaced.  This has helped negate mixed feeling about discarding clothes that I like, even though they are guy's clothes.

I did need to stop my mother from buying me a £1000 new kilt (I'm Scottish) as it would pointless, and I would feel so guilty and never wear it.  I wonder if she's ever buy me a £1000 dress?  :D
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nogoodnik

I slowly changed my wardrobe from women's clothes to men's clothes, but I'm only really getting rid of my old women's clothing now.

I'm a little sad to see some things go — I had some pretty cool things. But I don't wear them now, so there's no point keeping them. I am keeping a few things I can't bear parting with, not sure how long I'll keep those for as I doubt I'll wear them again either.

It's ridiculous how many clothes I own at the moment... since I've kept everything up until now — and since even aside from transition, I find it hard to get rid of clothes unless they're completely ruined — I basically have a fully stocked male wardrobe and a fully stocked female wardrobe fighting for space in a tiny bedroom. It looks like I live in a second hand shop...
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