So I made a profile just looking for friends, maybe something more, I thought why not. Did all the questions, bla bla bla, got some matches, one of which was a pretty awesome chick that I really did want to message. So I did. Couple hours later, went to check the site. Couldn't find my profile.

I emailed them a couple days later because they said my account might be under review in their FAQ. They contacted me back with this:

QuoteHello,

Thank you for taking the time to email POF.com.

After a recent review of your account and activity on Plentyoffish.com, we have decided to close your account.

We will not disclose specific details regarding your account's closure.

Most commonly, account closures are a direct result of a violation of our Terms and Conditions regarding misrepresentation of personal information.

We may also close an account due to complaints about your correspondence, profile content, or for any other reason as stated in our Terms and Conditions.

If you would like to review our Terms and Conditions, you may do so by clicking on the following link:

http://www.pof.com/terms.aspx

The closure of your account is permanent, and any future accounts will be automatically detected and deleted by the system.

Regards,

Sideah
POF Team
POF.com

The only thing I can think of, is that I applied as male. I put in the description of me that I was trans and explained my views on it etc etc. So I googled 'plentyoffish trans discrimination' and there are many results all the same as me of this kind of thing happening.

This needs to stop, this is so completely wrong. I am sickened by this! The site seemed so friendly and accessible, I did not lie or hide my identity. It would have been much more of a deception had I applied as female.

How do I go about righting this? It's a free site, and apparently, this isn't illegal behaviour. But come on! I am baffled by this!

Little bit more digging and, not related perhaps to the ideology of those who run the site but disgusting just the same : http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts2283299.aspx seriously??? Really?!?! The posts in this thread are utterly sickening to me.

I was reading it, and the more I read the more angry i got so had to stop!! 

I don't disclose on my profile.  I figure it's not going to net me any more replies that I want to hear.

I don't know what you could do about trying to right this....but man, that is some bull. I took a gander at the comments just to see what was being said - people are so ignorant.

yeah i hate people. there are a lot of people know who are like this. even one of me friends wouldnt consider dating this really hot trans guy even in theory because he doesnt hava a penis.

Try connectingsingles.com they have some trans there but as always there are prejudice people everywhere. Oh you have to list as male or female.

Sorry that happened to you.  I've had good experiences with online dating sites.  Have you tried OkCupid?  They're pretty trans-friendly (although your only two options for gender are male and female). 

As for the comments, I don't read that sort of stuff anymore.  The internet is filled with trolls and ignorant anons.  I just ignore it.

Quote from: anibioman on October 01, 2011, 06:06:58 PM
yeah i hate people. there are a lot of people know who are like this. even one of me friends wouldnt consider dating this really hot trans guy even in theory because he doesnt hava a penis.

We do have penises. Penises that stay hard as long as we want. Their loss.

OK Cupid seems trans friendly.  I have seen openly trans profiles on there (guys, that is, well hey, I'm gay!) and a thread in the forums that had a bunch of positive posts.

I was on POF but deleted my profiles because a) no responses or b) idiots responded  I was not out, though.

Jay

I joined out of curiosity because my mum had used it and there was an ad on TV. I just think it's... So wrong to do that. A lot of complaints I found were from MTF's who had been kicked off the site. It seems a bit morally crushing, they should at least advertise that they are going to make you feel like a piece of ->-bleeped-<- if you're not ''normal'' whilst they go to great lengths to seem so friendly to everyone else. Even though I don't really care about being on the site I don't just want to be like, 'oh well, whatever' because other people are going to get this kind of discrimination too. If my bad experience can prevent other's, then it was worth something.

I don't think emailing them will help so much... Perhaps a petition?

Hey Bud,
To be honest I wouldn't get so worked up about it.  I have a friend who (she) started using the site to "meet" guys, my gf and I checked out the site concerned that she started "internet dating" when she's barely 18. POF is a joke, it's a site to just meet people to hook-up/booty calls, not really to make friends or any decent relationship. Don't waste your efforts and energy over such a trash site.

As far as I know Plenty of Fish is still registered as a British Columbia company. So technically you could file a complaint with the BC Human Rights Tribunal, since transsexualism is protected from discrimination under "sex" in that province. Of course you'd have to prove that that was the reason your account was closed - which would be impossible using only that response. (In fact that is part of why they "will not disclose specific details regarding your account's closure.")  You'd also need a mailing address of some kind in BC.

Never been on POF (should that be an S not a F?) but OKCupid will not let one register without specifying either M or F...

i find what those lil brained fools things they say quite funny look a she is a he so i am gay but don't want him because he is now a guy lol i read to about page 7 then got bored of their sad attempts of fitting  in in all honesty don't even add a proper drop of emotion to what they say

I'll third the motion on OKCupid... very trans-friendly, and I've never been harassed for being trans (my profile says I am openly). As per mass dating sites, this is hardly the only discrimination going on. Match.com and eHarmony, only the most-advertised dating sites in the U.S., both send any gay or lesbian match-seekers packing. If you check "female seeking female," you're re-routed to a homosexuals-only site. And strange... here I was thinking gays were far more accepted in America than transfolk.

eHarmony was/is set up as a Christian site pretty much.  Very heavy religious overtones.

Quote from: tekla on October 02, 2011, 06:49:46 PM
eHarmony was/is set up as a Christian site pretty much.  Very heavy religious overtones.

I've heard they won't even let you search for a same sex partner. 

Everyone should use OkCupid, it's a great site for meeting people plus there are lots of interesting articles and graphs in the info section.

Someone should make a trans friendly site called plentyofclownfish.com. For those who don't know, clown fish are able to spontaneously change sex.

I met someone through POF after my marriage ended, so thought I'd give it a go a few weeks ago.

  Having given it a while I went back today, and had received no interest.  I decided to check the forums and all I found was a bunch of misfits who were not going to find anyone decent, and a pile of homophobic and transphobic garbage.  I terminated my account.

Karen.