You know, before realizing I was trans I was laid back about being female. Didn't think twice about being called a girl/she etc. That's just the way it was. When I started my social transition everything was ok too. Now, I can't stand being called a girl/she/female or anything. I get angry when I don't pass and while I'm a virgin, am already dysphoric THINKING about sex. I'm also seeing hormones as an urgent thing. No longer a want. Is anyone else similar? Why would this happen? I was ok before.....

I think we go thru cycles of emotions..  Before T I used to get so pissed off and angry when I wud be referred to as a she.. I pass now a days so I don't get those emotions so much unless it's someone who knew me pre T but even now that's getting fewer..

The whole ordeal of what we have to go thru just sucks..

About ur dysphoric thinking about sex, I'm not sure.. Never had issues when it came to sex.

But basically sounds like ur just dying to transitions and anything that has to do with being female just makes u sick cuz u just want that word and phrases that are directed to u to vanish? At least that was how I was right before I started T.. Now I'm just dying to get my surgery.. Nothing can come fast enough when it comes to fixing ur body.

You sound exactly like me xD
I can't say why this would happen, not really.
But I can say that I think I went through this similar cycle because I finally realized where I wanted to go with my life, and now that I now what kind of person I want to be - I want other people to know that.
And for me, the more that I researched T and saw what it did for other people, the more I wanted it - and yes, now I feel like I need it xDD

Exact same thing happened to me.  So, whatever the cause is, it's normal, lol.

I know what you mean. The same thing happened to me; as I understand it, for me, before I was out I NEVER would have expected to be seen to the outside world for who I was and was resigned to my fate. Now, I realise that I am the master of my own life and I want to be seen as ME. I never made an effort to look like a 'girl' but I didn't make an effort to look how I wanted to - like a dude; now that I do, it feels like an insult to my 'attempt' if people get it wrong.

So it's like, pre transition, why would you be angry at people calling you 'she' when you've made no effort to show them otherwise or there is no reason for them not to call you she... But then when making the step to appear more masculine, people then get it wrong, that's very frustrating.

i feel the same about the whole name pronoun thing it didnt bother me when it was constant it only started when people called me she less and less.

Quote from: DevinJV on October 11, 2011, 02:51:38 PM
I know what you mean. The same thing happened to me; as I understand it, for me, before I was out I NEVER would have expected to be seen to the outside world for who I was and was resigned to my fate. Now, I realise that I am the master of my own life and I want to be seen as ME. I never made an effort to look like a 'girl' but I didn't make an effort to look how I wanted to - like a dude; now that I do, it feels like an insult to my 'attempt' if people get it wrong.

So it's like, pre transition, why would you be angry at people calling you 'she' when you've made no effort to show them otherwise or there is no reason for them not to call you she... But then when making the step to appear more masculine, people then get it wrong, that's very frustrating.

This. Thank you.