OCTOBER 16, 2011 3:14PM
My big, gay marriage
Justin Cascio

http://open.salon.com/blog/justincascio/2011/10/16/my_big_gay_marriage

It took more than a change in state law for Kevin and I to be united in legally wedded bliss last summer.

Neither of us began life destined for manhood. Our birth certificates register the births of female babies, and we were raised as girls. By the time I was an adult, I was aware of those not born to womanhood claiming it for themselves, but it still hadn't occurred to me that I could do the same in my own life: that the man I saw in the mirror could be made visible to others. I learned it was possible to become a transsexual man when I finally saw others change their female-looking and sounding bodies and voices and names to match their male souls and minds. By the time Kevin and I met through a mutual girlfriend–we were all polyamorous queers–I was several years beyond the awkward phase. No one who met me could tell that I hadn't been born male.