About a year ago, I was talking on the phone to Fior. Fior is a well known youtuber. Her and I were discussing how men perceive us. How women see ts's differently than men do. Men analyze, they take notes and go from there. Women see us and rely more on instinct and emotion. Something hormones gives us and makes it easier to embrace,

When I look on this board, I turn off the emotional side of my head and go for the analytical side. I have to, I am going to give someone honest feedback and not lie to them about passing, makeup, whether they need ffs, etc...  I try to help out the girls the best they can, because I've seen how people react to them because I was once one of those people. I know this a place for support, but for those few seconds...I have my old mind in place. No matter the amount of hormones, I will have my blunt, slightly tactless honestly.

I've embraced my duality. My obsessive compulsive male trait has always been analysis...But besides my endless array of toilet on my fb... According to my Mom "female than most girls". She used to tell me that as a boy...

So how have you noticed your duality...what are traits that you've retained from your previous self?

Discuss.

You know..

I tend to just not think about it. I know many women who are analytical. I don't think it is possible to pin down anything as purely masculine or feminine, though a set of traits when put together, actually rather saying, when a person as a whole is put together, then we can perceive her as masculine or feminine.

So, it is not a factor really. I don't even see myself as having a previous self, since I think there is no self to start with and no no-self either.

While I know there have been quite a few changes for me as a person, I also can't say there was the old me and the new me. In some aspects sure, I am tons more outgoing, not anywhere near as afraid of simply talking, etc.. My wife is almost shocked over how I've grown and changed these past 2 years when you get right down to it. My formerly super-low self esteem did a lot more to suppress me voicing any opinions or even talking about myself for fear of possible offending someone. I guess now its hey, what's an opinion compared to being seen wearing a dress?

As far as analytical vs emotional, 90% of it for me is an occupational hazard, to the point of even being analytical over my emotions. (Yes I can "What-if" anything to death). I guess I am loosing some of that since embracing being trans is totally illogical. Logic says just beat back down again and hope it works for a few more decades, even if you live a joy-less life.

I've grown as a person since I accepted myself, but at the core I'm still essentially the same, so there's no duality for me..

Quote from: kelly_aus on October 20, 2011, 06:14:41 PM
I've grown as a person since I accepted myself, but at the core I'm still essentially the same, so there's no duality for me..

Too true.. I have noticed that my interests changed since coming out, but I'm now more.. me. There's no duality, just ..... purity

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on October 20, 2011, 04:02:08 PMI've embraced my duality.

I tend to view "trans" as a transcendental blending of the best of both worlds rather than a duality of "opposites". In an endless attempt to simply "be me" I try to celebrate male/female similarities rather than differences and which is why I always felt it is not really about how one dresses or behavior.

However, as far as acceptance, mainstream societal expectations are concerned sex preferences DO, for me at least, dictate somewhat the expressed gender toward which I otherwise naturally gravitate.