Had this happen again today my two closest friends whom are a couple, constantly keep refering to me as a crossdresser and i think their is a big difference.

Maybe i shouldnt let it bother me as much as it does. But i do not identify as a crossdress just a woman born with a deformity that is getting corrected.



I think i pass fairly well <--me in purple.          This was taken on friday the two in middle are my friends and both obvious queens(which they are)

HRT 8 months..........Fulltime 2 months.............SRS July 2nd 2012 w/Pichet

I would imagine I would def be pissed if someone called me a crossdresser. So you aren't alone in that.

I do not think less of a crossdresser, it is simply because I do not identify as one.

yes it bothers me.
At one time I thought I was a crossdresser, but as i talked to them and interacted with them, I found that I really had very little in common with them unfortunatly.

i have to agree i dont like it or the even worse version to me a drag queen both of these irk me when applied to me
jessi

yep, I labeled myself that for just two seconds and I knew that was not me.

Hi, This is my first post here, but we had a huge fight on another TS site that lasted for several days. On that site there are very few crossdressers, and a few of them tried to tell us there's no difference between us and them. I was livid, and so were scores of other girls. I don't even like the term 'transgendered' because it includes CD's. They want to be noticed as men in women's clothes. It hasn't happened to me yet, but I'll be very upset if someone calls me out as a 'man', a 'crossdresser' or a '->-bleeped-<-', because I'm none of them. I just want to fit in with the rest of female society. I've been living full time for the past two months and I love the freedom of finally living as I knew I was meant to since I was a small child. For all the TS girls out there I'm sure you know what I mean! I thought that this site and the one I frequent were just for us transsexuals, and crossdressers have their own sites too. I don't go on theirs and don't appreciate them going on ours. Call me a bigot, but we're decidedly and markedly very different. I wish them no ill will, but although we're apparently all part of the LGBT community, I don't go on gay or lesbian sites and I doubt if they'll find anything interesting here either. Hugs, Miranda

My goal is to stay away from the idea of a man in a dress.

I certainly don't like it but people often call you the way you look like in their eyes. So when being called a crossdresser I think: "Ok, apparently I look like a man wearing women's clothing. Plenty room for improvement it seems".

Quote from: finallyRandiGirl@57 on November 01, 2011, 12:22:03 AM
Hi, This is my first post here, but we had a huge fight on another TS site that lasted for several days. On that site there are very few crossdressers, and a few of them tried to tell us there's no difference between us and them. I was livid, and so were scores of other girls. I don't even like the term 'transgendered' because it includes CD's. They want to be noticed as men in women's clothes. It hasn't happened to me yet, but I'll be very upset if someone calls me out as a 'man', a 'crossdresser' or a '->-bleeped-<-', because I'm none of them. I just want to fit in with the rest of female society. I've been living full time for the past two months and I love the freedom of finally living as I knew I was meant to since I was a small child. For all the TS girls out there I'm sure you know what I mean! I thought that this site and the one I frequent were just for us transsexuals, and crossdressers have their own sites too. I don't go on theirs and don't appreciate them going on ours. Call me a bigot, but we're decidedly and markedly very different. I wish them no ill will, but although we're apparently all part of the LGBT community, I don't go on gay or lesbian sites and I doubt if they'll find anything interesting here either. Hugs, Miranda

you may have a hard time here then. We ideally embrace and welcome all spectrum of Transgender here.

We also have a large Crossdressing, bigender, and genderqueer community here as well.

That's why I enjoy this site. All are welcomed regardless gender identification.

Quote from: Annah on November 01, 2011, 01:09:08 AM
you may have a hard time here then. We (for the most part) embrace and welcome all spectrum of Transgender here.

We also have a large Crossdressing, bigender, and genderqueer community here as well.

That's why I enjoy this site. All are welcomed regardless gender identification.

Hi Annah. I'm not trying to anger anyone, but from the HOMEPAGE I read there are forums for "Transgender Talk", "Androgyne Talk", "Crossdresser Talk", "Intersex Talk", and "Transsexual Talk", all different forums for different people. The Transsexual Talk is further broken down to FTM, MTF, POST-OP, and NON-OP talk. It seems everyone has their own and I hoped MTF's had our own. I guess I was mistaken. Hhhmmmmmm......I guess I'd better stay where I was. If I swallow my, whatever, and come back, I need to ask a question. How do I post a photo of myself and the HRT and living full time icons? Thank you. Miranda

Quote from: Venus-Castina on November 01, 2011, 01:07:01 AM
I certainly don't like it but people often call you the way you look like in their eyes. So when being called a crossdresser I think: "Ok, apparently I look like a man wearing women's clothing. Plenty room for improvement it seems".

if we were in a chamber and this was spoken it would reverberate with gravity.  There is much wisdom in these words

We do have thread topics for FTM, MTF, Intersex, Androgynous, Crossdressers,etc., however that doesn't mean they stay in their own groups. Many of us will cross over to other threads and post things.

It isn't unusual to see CDs post in the trans section, trans post in the Androgynous section, MTF to post in the FTM section and FTM to post in the MTF section. It actually happens all the time. I do it if someone asks a question that I may help with. Plus I don't ever just click into a specific thread category. I go to "show unread posts since last visit" and look at the topics there.

About your pic. You have to get to 15 posts in order for your account to accept a profile pic, etc.

Doesn't each forum section have a "just for us" section where only people registered to that area (mtf, ftm, cd, etc) can see? Is that more what you are looking for?

Hi people,

As Annah stated Susan's is a site for all people and we do not discriminate on what nature of gender dysmorphia people suffer from. It is an inclusive site that caters to all. none of the sections are exclusive, woman can post in male forums and men can post in female.  Susan wishes people at this site to embrace the full spectra of gender diversity.

I will advise people to read the Terms of Service, or rules to live by.

Cindy

I get called a crossdresser all the time, not necessarily in a bad way, but it's the only way some people know me.  Sometimes I dress in men's clothes, sometimes in women's (relatively masculine women's clothes though), while still presenting as male.  I don't identify as a CD, but it's not like everyone around me knows the whole story.

I do my best not to get angry when people confuse cross dressers with transsexual people.  I just inwardly sigh and try to educate them.  Ignorance is not a failing, imo.  Willful ignorance, however, the "I don't wanna hear it" kind, is one of the worst character flaws a person can have.

What I hate is when I come out to people and they automatically think I'm some transvetite and/or pervert and have absolutely no idea what transsexuality actually is

Quote from: mandyh92 on October 31, 2011, 10:31:22 PMI think i pass fairly well

Even if you didn't pass at all, people shouldn't be calling you a crossdresser if you don't identify as such. So, when it happens you have to educate them. A lot of cis-gendered people consider MTF's to be "over-the-top gay men". It's up to us to educate ignorant people.

By the way, you said they "keep" calling you a crossdresser. Have you not told them that you're not and to stop? Because if you have and they keep doing it, are you sure they're really your friends?

I have begged and pleaded with them tried to explain everything about what transgendered truly is to them. Being gay men i thought they would have a better grasp. Even though i have been full time for over 2months they still only call me jason and never refer to me as Mandy. It seems in the gay community (at least in southern indiana) that i am only ever seen as a crossdresser. I am starting my legal name change process now and am preparing for SRS in July. These guys have been my friends forever and i thought the would be more understanding but gg seem to adapt alot more....

Quote from: mandyh92 on November 01, 2011, 09:35:47 AM
I have begged and pleaded with them tried to explain everything about what transgendered truly is to them. Being gay men i thought they would have a better grasp. Even though i have been full time for over 2months they still only call me jason and never refer to me as Mandy. It seems in the gay community (at least in southern indiana) that i am only ever seen as a crossdresser. I am starting my legal name change process now and am preparing for SRS in July. These guys have been my friends forever and i thought the would be more understanding but gg seem to adapt alot more....

I would have dumped them as friends a loooooong time ago. The way they are treating you is very inconsiderate and disrespectful.