Thanks all for the replies. To John1984, yep, even if one isn't settled on a name, I guess it's pretty important that one at least be referred to as the gender of one's choice...just to know that they really do feel right about it all. Still, their may be a few a androgenous names which also might fit - eg. kim, lesley, kerry, jo... How one feels inside about a name often changes ..doesn't it?