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I mean no disrespect, just curious

Started by Annah, November 11, 2011, 03:45:59 PM

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Annah

I've noticed a trend where new transgender girls enjoys wearing clothing that is geared (or designed) for younger girls in mind. I also see this with their bedrooms, their jewelry, and their other fascinations (Hello Kitty, Strawberry shortcake, tinkerbell, winnie the poo, etc etc).

I had a transgender friend invite me to her house today and she gave me a tour of her house and her bedroom looked like a bedroom an eleven year old girl would love.

Is this phenomena because they are trying to relive their childhood? Is it something else?
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Joeyboo~ :3

I noticed that too.

I love anything with Mickey or Minnie Mouse on it though, i don't care what it is, i'll buy it.
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Forever21Chic



  Lol that's a good question Annah. I have to admit i do this too but not to the extent that some ts do.

I have a few stuffed animals (hello kitty plush bears etc) and have a bunch of girly stickers on my mirror but that's about it. I remember when i was going through transition years ago in the beginning i did go way overboard on that kind of stuff but eventually matured.
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Mahsa Tezani

I dress more like that popular girl in all those high school movies.
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Anatta

Kia Ora Annah,

::)  I know that the onset of HRT for some can generate a second puberty - wanting what one did'nt have[over compensating]...Some grow out of it  quickly [when the euphoria wears off and reality hits home] for others it can linger for a long time...  just look at some 50+ years of age late transitioners, mini skirts/dresses, crop tops, fishnet stockings, 3-5inch heels, the works...Whatever turns one on-turns one on-who am I to pass judgement ...

However in society which for the most part is quite conservative when it comes to dress sense, dressing in such a manner attracts attention- no doubt some extroverted trans like the attention-so no problem, and for those that don't they[due to social pressure] will eventually conform to the norm when it comes to age appropriate dress...

In a nutshell.......I put it down to two things "HRT" and if not on HRT  the freedom that comes from true 'self' acceptance, finally being free from the constrains of birth-sex approved dress styles, but over compensating like a kid deprived of sweet things being let loose in a candy store...


Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Colleen Ireland

I've seen this, but not commonly. I have a friend who's about my age, and she dresses much younger than I would. I think maybe it's partly due to wanting to experience things she missed out on growing up. Maybe partly it's also just the joy and exuberance of finally getting to be her true self.

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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Zenda on November 11, 2011, 04:48:07 PM


just look at some 50+ years of age late transitioners, mini skirts/dresses, crop tops, fishnet stockings, 3-5inch heels, the works...Whatever turns one on-turns one on-who am I to pass judgement ...



I thought a lot of them dressed like that because they used to be crossdressers?
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Anatta

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on November 11, 2011, 04:52:40 PM
I thought a lot of them dressed like that because they used to be crossdressers?

Kia Ora Mahsa,

::) Sadly this is how many in society view them....I often wonder why they don't just check out cis-women of a similar age, size and complexion/skin tone and use them as a sounding board when it come to what type of clothing would suit them [they 'should' be wearing]  'if ' they 'really' want to fit in...It's not rocket science... ;)

::) But as I've mentioned before each to their own...whatever turns on one -turns one on-so be it ....


BTW I'm just off to buy a nice pair of 6 inch heels and a leather 'mini' mini skirt[some might call it a wide leather belt] I saw in a sale to match the fishnet stocking  and pink crop top[boob tube]I bought yesterday...[  :icon_yikes: It's a joke people-I'm quite the 'plain Jane' when it comes to dress sense]  ;)

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Zenda on November 11, 2011, 05:12:34 PM


::) Sadly this is how many in society view them....I often wonder why they don't just check out cis-women of a similar age, size and complexion/skin tone and use them as a sounding board when it come to what type of clothing would suit them [they 'should' be wearing]  'if ' they 'really' want to fit in...It's not rocket science... ;)


They wouldn't listen. Truth is, they were presenting as men for too long and don't know what ciswomen society expects. It borders on fantasy for them and LOLs for the rest of us. I mean they can't control their physical attributes, but they can at least calm it the hell down.
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spacial

This is an interesting thought.

By the way, looking good there Colleen.
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tekla

Your basic street fashion for people well on in years is pretty kid-based.  Baseball hats, shorts, converse tennis shoes, band t-shirts, hoodies seem to be standard for men, even when they are 50-60 years old, and that's exactly what they were wearing when they were 15.  (Same band even).  Jeans (designer or not), track outfits, fleece, Uggs and all sorts of bad fashion ideas for women too, who should be old enough to know better - so talking with the cis-chicks ain't going to help a lot.  (Not that I'm any better, Giants hat, Puma shoes, jeans, band shirt and hoodie is what I'm wearing today).  And, true to form I follow people home and here they are, doing well and all that, and the house/apartment looks pretty much exactly like it did when they were in college.  (I do better on that regard, my place looks like adults live there most of the time - but I never did any of that when I was young either, so I'm keeping to form).  So perhaps it's not so much a second childhood, as the first one never ended - may you stay, forever young and all that.   

So, in that they have changed, they might be getting the stuff they really wanted when they were young (No, I don't want a room done in G.I. Joe, I want My Little Pony - or vice-versa) but they are keeping with a general trend that seems to go far beyond trans persons.  I just never had very commercial tastes (yeah, I hate Disney, well everything after 1960 or so) and never went that route, preferring my own uniquely bad taste based largely on stuff I find.
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Colleen Ireland

THANK you, Spacial!

@Masha:  I "presented as male" for far too long myself(55 years), but I get lots of compliments on how I dress, even from cis-women.

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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Colleen Ireland on November 11, 2011, 05:34:44 PM
THANK you, Spacial!

@Masha:  I "presented as male" for far too long myself(55 years), but I get lots of compliments on how I dress, even from cis-women.

Yeah, you dress good.
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Forever21Chic



  I'm 25 and i do wear clothes that are geared more for girls in their early 20's but i don't have any trouble pulling that look off so no biggie.


  Most of my clothes are from Forever21 or Urban Outfitters.  :)
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Anatta

Kia Ora,

::) It would seem F2Ms don't have this kind of problem when it comes to dress sense...But I could be wrong....

Metta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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Alicia

I love all of those and more, especially Strawberry Shortcake. I don't dress that way at all, but I really enjoy those things at home. Besides not having grown up as a girl  :'( I love all the pink and cuteness. I have nearly all of the Strawberry Shortcake DVDs, I ripped the Strawberry Jams CD to put on my iPod, and I have most of the Nintendo and Playstation games. I also have Little Mermaid games for Nintendo and Playstation. I would love to be a Strawberryland girl  ;D
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Annah

Quote from: Alicia on November 11, 2011, 07:08:27 PM
I love all of those and more, especially Strawberry Shortcake. I don't dress that way at all, but I really enjoy those things at home. Besides not having grown up as a girl  :'( I love all the pink and cuteness. I have nearly all of the Strawberry Shortcake DVDs, I ripped the Strawberry Jams CD to put on my iPod, and I have most of the Nintendo and Playstation games. I also have Little Mermaid games for Nintendo and Playstation. I would love to be a Strawberryland girl  ;D

are u in your early 20s? Just curious.
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Alainaluvsu

Honestly I think the phenomenon is a mix of compensation for the way they wish they could've lived as a youth, and how they think it would be fun to behave as a female. I'm pretty girly (quite possibly the most feminine of all my classmates in a cosmetology school), but I'm not into pink everything, forever 21, hello kitty, etc. In fact, at 30, I don't see many, if any cis women that are walking around with hello kitty gear.

Plus, (to me) many gay men I have seen overdo the whole girly thing, and you can tell it's not 100% them.  I see it as an easy way to say "I'm gay". That's not to say there aren't genuinely effeminite gay men, or very girly trans women. I've met girly gay guys and transwomen that are 100% genuinely theirselves. However there is a certain aura people put off that makes you think they're not being theirselves.

It's as if people try too hard
To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.



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Mahsa Tezani

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on November 11, 2011, 08:35:30 PM

Plus, (to me) many gay men I have seen overdo the whole girly thing, and you can tell it's not 100% them.  I see it as an easy way to say "I'm gay". That's not to say there aren't genuinely effeminite gay men, or very girly trans women. I've met girly gay guys and transwomen that are 100% genuinely theirselves. However there is a certain aura people put off that makes you think they're not being theirselves.

It's as if people try too hard

Those guys freaked me out when I used to go to gay bars. Feminine was just what I was... I didn't go, 'OMG!!!! FABULOUS.... ETC". When I meet men, I play up more the idea that I am into UFC and football than fashion. They just assume it's there already.
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Alainaluvsu

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on November 11, 2011, 08:54:32 PM
Those guys freaked me out when I used to go to gay bars. Feminine was just what I was... I didn't go, 'OMG!!!! FABULOUS.... ETC". When I meet men, I play up more the idea that I am into UFC and football than fashion. They just assume it's there already.

Exactly! Geaux Saints! lol! I even wear a Saints jacket. I think the people in subject in this thread would approach anything even closely considered masculine with a crucifix. Maybe they're trying to bottle it up because they hated that they "had" to like that stuff? IDK. The OMG FABULOUS with a forced lisp is 1 played out, 2 annoying as hell.

Be yourself, and if you are being yourself and you go OMG FABULOUS with a lisp, then it'll seem more natural and tolerable because you wont be acting like somebody you are not!
To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.



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