For the time being, I was going to pick up a wig, but I was wondering what hairstyle softens the jawline?  I have heard big hair does, but I don't want to look like a drummer out of an 80's hair band   Any tips would be appreciated!

Charlotte

Hi Charlotte;

It will depend on the shape of your face.  Please see this link.  What I personally found helpful many moons ago was to go to an image consultant.  They will generally charge you a fee for their services, but their advice will stay with you for a very long time, so perhaps it may be something that you should consider.


tinkerbell

That is a fantastic idea!  Thank you 

Charlotte

Personally I don't think you have much of a jawline to soften in the first place.

Melissa

It depends on the angle   I am sure HRT will help with that a bit.  I am not all that worried I suppose.  Its just weird how different my self image is compared to pictures.  Now I suppose I just need to figure out which one is correct.  Is it the mirror or the camera? 

Charlotte

Hi Charlotte, and I don't mean this in any bad way, to anyone, but in your case, you are still young, I would advice against the wig. Im not sure what your hairline situation is, but I would plan your personal expression and dress with your physical and mental and emotional change.

And again, I am in no way meaning anything to anyone here, because we all choose our own way of transition, but I can just tell you the way I did it. I just stayed natural the whole way. While I was going through electrolysis, I just still dressed in "guy" mode, and just still basicily presented myself as a guy. I was on HRT, and just allowed it to do what it was going to do, and I started growing my own hair out, and just kept it sort of andorgynous haircuts. As I started changing more physically, and started to get more emotionaly secure in myelf and comfortable with the changes, I started wearing more androgynous clothing, but I always just kept my own hair and never wore any makup of anykind, I guess I never tried to "dress up any". It was one day, I was in a Restaruant and had to go so I went to the mens rooms, and this guy walked in, turned right around and brought the manager back in, and he was like "miss why are you in the mens room", thats when I new it was to just make the switch, so thats when I started changing my documents and stuff and went fulltime. But I kept it natuarl all the way up to that point.

But you have to decide what works best for you.

-pass- 

I agree with everything you have said.  I am not not planning on transitioning until the time comes and it is apparent.  My only real issue is that I do have a receding hairline that is pretty bad.  Its my biggest obstacle at the moment.  Hair transplant results I have seen are less than promising. I have a photo if you would like me to send you the link.   

Charlotte

Hi Charlotte, the sprionlactone once you are on that should stop any further recession of your hairline, you can also ask your Dr. about Avodart, which is a excellent DHT blocker, it does'nt block testerone that good by itself, which is why you will still need the spiro, but it does work good for the DHT, which is what causes the hair loss.

Once your on the HRT, I think you will be amzed what it can do for your hair, I have seen a lot of girls with receding hairlines still be able to get away with using their real hair. Just see how it is growing and see how its receding, you can usually hide this with bangs, or some sort of wispy cut that sort of allows the hair to part in one direction. If your bangs are thin when they grow out, you could do just a wispy cut, where it sort of looks like bangs are acidentily falling, I would definently go with some sort of short hair cut if your hair is thin. I have failry thick hair, but it is fine, you can see I have sort of a short cropped haircut, with varrying lengths, I can either let the bangs fall the way they are in the pic, or I can push them to one side, which works if you have thinning hair also, because it can give the allusion of having more hair, and sometimes can even appear as though you are purpusley showing more forehead. The most important thing is to try and make it look natuaral and avoid a "comb over look", becuase that can be just a dead give away.

I don't know if you ever saw that movie Kalifornia, with Brad Pitt, and David Duchovny? Well look at the girl that played DD's girlfriend, she had that short bob cut, but she had her bangs cut real high. You seem to have nice fairly surface eyes with nice brows, so you could get away with a cut like that if you can grow your bangs enough. 

afterwards further down the road, with HRT and later possible scalp advance and forhead contouring you could end up with a good hairline. You will actually be surprised at what just the forhead contouring will do. even with a high forhead, the more rounded contouring makes it undeniaably femminie.

but just start growing it out a little and see what you can do with the bangs and stuff.

if you are comfortable with it, you can send me that link at passiflora1980@yahoo.com

smiles,
-pass-

I have been growing mine out for a year and one half now, and the length is variable, falling a fer inches below the shoulder in the back, and about at the shoulder in the front.  my question is, what kind of hairstyle would be good that would look nice and femme when I want it to, but wont look too effeminate when I am in male clothing?

layers, lots of layers with the shortest layer just above the jawline so that the layers will flip around the jaw and neck.... trust me on this

You could also wander into a wig shop and be up front with them. They may be open to helping you in a private place of the salon.  I did this a few times many years ago when doing so could be very dangerious.  I was surprised at how willing they were to help me.

Cindi

Quote from: togetherwecan on March 19, 2007, 10:31:23 AM
layers, lots of layers with the shortest layer just above the jawline so that the layers will flip around the jaw and neck.... trust me on this

well mine is slightly thin, and i also dont want anyone to know for now

About having thinning natural hair, I am 55 and have mre than enough to pass withmy own hair. While I have been on hormones for 9 months, for 3 years before that I took a 1mg dose of finasteride (Propecia or Proscar) on a daily basis.

The finasteride, within 3 months stopped my further thinning and then all the hairs that I had lost in the previous two years came back. However, of anything gone over 2 years a few have returned but most have not.

This is not cheap, though I have figured out a way to greatly reduce the cost. But overall, it is still more costly than wigs.

My own hair is now several inches past my shoulders and I wear it in a pony tail when I go to work. Otherise, just combed out, it looks great. And I seem to pass better with my own hair, though I have to say I was never clocked either when I wore wigs. OK, once, when I wore a wig I bought on the internet that was too small for me.

Danielle