I'm straight but I have sex with guys. I don't get turned on when I have sex with them and I feel disgusted, bored, and I can't wait for it to be over. I've also had sex with girls and I've LOVED it so what's wrong with me. I feel so depressed right now because I had sex with a guy this morning who I barely even know. Also, would I be able to get pregnant from pre-ejaculation?

Quote from: Slytherin17 on November 15, 2011, 12:53:25 AM
I'm straight but I have sex with guys. I don't get turned on when I have sex with them and I feel disgusted, bored, and I can't wait for it to be over. I've also had sex with girls and I've LOVED it so what's wrong with me. I feel so depressed right now because I had sex with a guy this morning who I barely even know. Also, would I be able to get pregnant from pre-ejaculation?

Sounds to me like you just like women, not men. There's nothing wrong with you at all. Pre-ejaculate? I'm not very educated on the subject, lol. But, I'd say if you're organs are still capable of reproduction.....anything coming from a penis should be protected against by a condom. Its really the best thing to do anyway. Safe sex is always good- as pregnancy is only one thing to worry about in these manners. Cheer up, it takes some of us a great deal of time to figure ourselves out. At least at the end, we will know who we are, and what we really want.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Stop having Sex !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You want to know what's wrong with you? For starters, you don't respect yourself.

You should only be having sex if you really want to and if you can handle the consequences. Yes you can get pregnant  from pre cum. So not only are you having unwanted sex, and you are also having un protected sex?

Go get the morning after pill. I know from the last pregnancy scare you posted about that you are still in the window of opertuninty to take it.

Are you ever going to take anyone's advice?

Sharky: You're completely right, I don't respect myself. The boy told me I couldn't get pregnant by pre cum. At first he had a condom on, then he took it off for about 2 to 3 minutes and then he put another condom on.

Quote from: Slytherin17 on November 15, 2011, 01:19:08 AM
Sharky: You're completely right, I don't respect myself. The boy told me I couldn't get pregnant by pre cum. At first he had a condom on, then he took it off for about 2 to 3 minutes and then he put another condom on.

I've edited my post, please re read it.
He lied to you.

When did I post something else about pregnancy? I can't afford a morning after pill and besides my friend took it and she threw up all over the place.

I know at planned parent hood you can get financial aid for abortions. I would assume they would be able to help you get the morning after pill.

Your friends body isn't yours. She may not have even followed the directions right. Anyway it's a good idea.

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Yes, you can get pregnant from pre-ejaculate fluid.  And I understand if you can't afford the morning after pill, but isn't a touch of nausea better than pregnancy?  You're worth more than you think of yourself and please think about that before you let yourself be used again.

The thing is my mother would never allow me to get the morning after pill. I asked her and she said there was no way in hell I was going to destroy the beginning of a human life. She said if I'm pregnant then I'm going to have it. I told her I would starve myself to get rid of it and she said she would tie me to a chair and make me eat. I guess the only thing I can do is pray I'm not pregnant. I don't think the boy was using me because he keeps asking me out and got really upset when I said no.

Quote from: Sharky on November 15, 2011, 02:00:26 AM
I know at planned parent hood you can get financial aid for abortions. I would assume they would be able to help you get the morning after pill.

Your friends body isn't yours. She may not have even followed the directions right. Anyway it's a good idea.

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Ohhhhh, now I remember that one. I forgot I ever posted something like that on here or I would have gone back and looked at it.

Sex is supposed to be enjoyable. Fun, happy, loving, all sorts of wonderful things. You are doing it wrong. Please don't do this to yourself.

Also, pregnancy is totally not necessary. There are many birth control methods, there's RU486, there's abortion, and there are lots of ways to miscarry without taking medication.

Don't ever ever let somebody bully you into sex. Don't have sex just for the hell of it unless you know what you're doing. Use protection. Care about yourself. No one else is going to the way you can.

Oh for crying out loud!

Why the hell do you ask us for advice when you ignore everything everyone tries to tell you? Any and all sympathy I may have had for your plight has been blown right out of the window by your sheer lack of self-preservation. The fact that you keep doing this just makes me want to shake you!

Others may have patience, but I do not. Buck the hell up and take control of your life before it crashes down around you.

I'm going to have to agree with the others. You've been told about this all before. Don't want to get pregnant? Stop having sex with men unprotected. Especially if you don't even like it. Just because a guy asks you out repeatedly doesn't mean he won't lie to you. Some men will sell you the world just for a quick roll around the hay. Not all obviously, but there are those out there that prey on people who believe anything. I don't feel sorry for you because you enter these relationships willingly, knowing how you'll feel about them. Respect yourself because if you don't, why would anyone else?

Forgive me, I rarely say these kinds of things so bluntly.

I realize you're young, but this is just stupid.  Why the hell are you having sex with guys if you only like girls?  What's the point if you get nothing out of it?  If you don't want to get pregnant or use birth control (morning after pill), then stop having sex with boys.  Is it so these guys will like you?  You don't have to have sex with any guy that asks or gets upset when you don't.

And where the hell are your parents or anybody in all of this?  You had sex with someone you barely know?  Where did you meet this person and whose idea was it to have sex?  If you didn't want to, this almost sounds like rape to me.  Like you were coerced or pressured into it.

Please get yourself some help.  This is just ridiculous.

Oh God, you again?  Guess you weren't pregnant the last time.  That's good news.  You said you forgot that thread?  I don't think I ever will!  I have this emotion where I care about people and their outcomes.  Being in the same situation again you are completely discounting all of that.

Of all of the ways to get attention this is probably one of the worst.  It involves another potential human being.  To be honest I don't believe a word you say.  That's my opinion and other people are free to believe you but they will probably just end up hurt. 

I've just met to many people like you in my life who try to use the most shocking and condemning action to get attention from others both positive and negative.  I'm done with all of it.  You're a one trick pony honestly, with another pregnancy scare.  Wise up.   

I should have read the other thread. Urk.

Please, take the morning after pill. Ask Planned Parenthood or something. Your mum doesn't need to know. Don't use sex as a way to hurt yourself, you deserve better than being used by other people. Please, try to take control of your life, don't become a puppet for others to use as they wish. Don't have sex with people you don't want to have sex with. Take care of yourself, man.

Yes you can get pregnant from the precum.
There is sperm in the carrier fluid.

Just to add some info here - it was found that the pre-ejaculate only carries sperm if the guy had just ejaculated before.
apart from that.

Man, you're really too  inconsiderate and immature to have sex. Step back, learn the word "no" and don't let people you don't like and who don't respect you penetrate you. And for your own sake, use condoms.
When you care SO damn little about yourself, why bother to have sex in the first place.
Sorry, but it just seems like you do this because you WANT to feel miserable and humiliated.
Do you see a therapist?

I just wanted to say to everyone else here that you might be too hard on him.  What's so simple to you is not so simple to someone else!  Of course it's only logical to not do something that you don't like, so then obviously something else is going on.  I may be gullible to be believing this kid but I'd rather believe and offer advice, than not believe and cause him more trouble.

Now to address the OP, I don't want to pretend that I know exactly what you're going through, but I did have my own experience with such things.
When I was about 16, I started having sex with strangers, men.  I am not attracted to men.  but I did it.  and it totally grossed me out and I wanted to throw up the whole time I was doing it.  So why would I do that?  I still don't really know.  It was a time in my life when I was really suicidal, and I literally didn't care about my life, I didn't care if I got an STD or if I got pregnant.  I had sex almost because it was just something to do.  A part of it did make me feel good about my body.  I liked that somebody liked my body, I could pretend in that moment that they liked me.  Even though I knew I was just fooling myself.
I didn't even want to stop.  I really still don't fully understand how or why I kept doing it.
The only thing that got me to stop is when I moved about and was in a better environment and wasn't suicidal anymore.

Now, I don't want to assume anything about you.  But I do suspect that your home life is not the best environment with the way you talk about your parents.  So maybe, is there a way to get into a better place?  Do you have group trans or LGBT mettings in your area?  I only say trans or LGBT, not because this is related to you being trans, but because these are examples of environments with really supportive, loving people.  Maybe you could even talk to a school counselor about all your feelings and she could direct you to supportive environments in your area?