If you are having sex with a guy and you're not attracted to them, I could only imagine that it's because you feel like that's the only way you can physically stimulate yourself...if not, then I'm just confused. If you're going to continue to do this to yourself though, since I noticed how everyone keeps saying that you don't listen, PLEASE USE A CONDOM. I mean, seriously, disrespecting your body and your identity like this is bad enough, but unsafe sex with a bio-male that you don't even know has so many other issues that go with it. Even if you were cis-female, this is still bad. Seriously.

There are lots, and lots, and lots of ways to get people off sexually, only ONE of which results in pregnancy.  Time to learn some new tricks.

This is just another form of self-destructive behavior (probably brought on by actual self hate and attention seeking more than lack of confidence). If you want to end up pregnant, with a disease or dead, by all means continue right along the path you're walking down. You'll come to find out there's also lots of other things down that path like drug abuse, alcoholism, violence, and a general feeling of hope for the future completely evaporating from your brain.

You're obviously not even ready to be having sex judging by your behavior and the way you seem to think. Sex can be a wonderful thing between two consenting adults. It can also lead to the creation of another life or a deadly disease. I suggest you do a little growing up and getting to the root of your issues before you jump back in the sack with anyone else.

One last note - condoms don't equal 100% "safe" sex. They do have a failure rate (often exasperated by the wearer if they're not putting it on correctly or at the right time). They're simply safer sex than completely unprotected. And you can pick up diseases from bodily fluids doing any sexual contact not just actual intercourse.

Don't they teach sex ed anymore?

Quote from: insideontheoutside on November 15, 2011, 07:11:17 PM
This is just another form of self-destructive behavior (probably brought on by actual self hate and attention seeking more than lack of confidence). If you want to end up pregnant, with a disease or dead, by all means continue right along the path you're walking down. You'll come to find out there's also lots of other things down that path like drug abuse, alcoholism, violence, and a general feeling of hope for the future completely evaporating from your brain.

You're obviously not even ready to be having sex judging by your behavior and the way you seem to think. Sex can be a wonderful thing between two consenting adults. It can also lead to the creation of another life or a deadly disease. I suggest you do a little growing up and getting to the root of your issues before you jump back in the sack with anyone else.

One last note - condoms don't equal 100% "safe" sex. They do have a failure rate (often exasperated by the wearer if they're not putting it on correctly or at the right time). They're simply safer sex than completely unprotected. And you can pick up diseases from bodily fluids doing any sexual contact not just actual intercourse.

Don't they teach sex ed anymore?

I don't think so, but I didn't go to public school. All we got was have premarital sex and you get expelled and will go to hell. But once you are married make a ton of babies.

We have Sex Ed. I'm still shuddering from the slide show of STDs...

I got sex ed at school starting in 4th grade. That was in the 80's.

I got pregnant after a condom ripped. I think it ripped because I was just not into the sex I was having, and so there was too much dryness. Idk. But I've always always used condoms, and I can vouch for that's not 100 percent, and even intelligent sober people sometimes screw them up. No pun intended.

Quote from: Felix on November 15, 2011, 10:14:44 PM
I got sex ed at school starting in 4th grade. That was in the 80's.

I got pregnant after a condom ripped. I think it ripped because I was just not into the sex I was having, and so there was too much dryness. Idk. But I've always always used condoms, and I can vouch for that's not 100 percent, and even intelligent sober people sometimes screw them up. No pun intended.

True, but it's better than a free-for-all.

Also, perhaps they may be also made better than in the 80s too.
Legalized contraceptives are only around 46 years old, so it's highly possible.

Quote from: JasonRX on November 15, 2011, 10:44:11 PM
True, but it's better than a free-for-all.

Also, perhaps they may be also made better than in the 80s too.
Legalized contraceptives are only around 46 years old, so it's highly possible.

Oh yeah, I wasn't advocating avoiding condoms. Need condoms for std prevention. I was advocating being careful, maybe adding other birth control, but really just not making too many assumptions.

I still like my way more.  Find other ways to do it where its' no longer an issue.  Condoms used during penis/vaginal sex may not be 100% effective at preventing pregnancy - blow-jobs however are.  Beyond that there are all kinds of other wonderfully twisted and deliciously perverted sexual acts that have ZERO chance of pregnancy, and much lower rates of STD transmission too.

you think for someone who isn't into guys at all and is grossed out by sex, a ->-bleeped-<- is fun?
i mean....yeah....maybe......then on the other hand a d*ck in your mouth usually doesn't feel any less degrading?

My friend,
Protect yourself, u should search and get information online, then u don't have to listen to what those guys said, and youself could find out what's right n what's wrong for u.
Stop having sex with people u don't feel like u want.
Dont let ur self so easy like this.
U might have to pay for the consequence for the rest of life, that's no kidding thing. Be careful my friend.

Quote from: emil on November 16, 2011, 04:51:10 AM
you think for someone who isn't into guys at all and is grossed out by sex, a ->-bleeped-<- is fun?
i mean....yeah....maybe......then on the other hand a d*ck in your mouth usually doesn't feel any less degrading?

I have to agree here. I wasn't able to derive much pleasure from oral sex until I was very comfortable and confident sexually, which certainly wasn't at OP's age. Even now, if the guy treats me like a girl it can feel degrading and dysphoric.

But then I'll also agree that 'put the penis in the vagina' is a pretty simplistic way to look at sex, and overlooks a lot of the ways  two people can enjoy one another.

Okay. For one thing I HATE attention. I forgot I posted something like this before. I mean really? For another thing I have a problem saying no. I can't say no to anything. I don't want to do it but I do it anyway. And, I hate myself a lot as I think someone said I had self hatred, well I do. I'm not trying to get attention. My self confidence isn't that bad but I don't have a lot of it. Jesus, people are so mean!

Quote from: Slytherin17 on November 16, 2011, 08:37:15 PMOkay. For one thing I HATE attention. I forgot I posted something like this before. I mean really? For another thing I have a problem saying no. I can't say no to anything. I don't want to do it but I do it anyway. And, I hate myself a lot as I think someone said I had self hatred, well I do. I'm not trying to get attention. My self confidence isn't that bad but I don't have a lot of it. Jesus, people are so mean!

Yes, people are mean.  but in this case, I just want you to know that I think it's only because they do care about you a little (except the ones who didn't believe you).
This is a support forum and these people here, inside, do want to help you.  but I think it's because they can't imagine why you would be like this, they don't understand, is my guess.  So basically, I'm saying, try to not to hold it against them, and try to understand their intent behind what they are saying.

I also wanted to ask you to if you read and put any thought into my post?  (the last one on the first page).  If you lived anywhere near me, I would want to try to support you irl, but since I can't, I hope you can find some support in your area.

i have never had sex with a guy but at one point in my life i would have, and i came close. so i get it, even now every time someone is attracted to me i feel like i need to do them, because people being attracted to me is so rare. of corse i havent had the balls to seal the deal and actually have sex.

i would just try to keep yourself safe. counseling could help too.

I don't think that "mean" is as sufficient as "frustrated".  No one wants to be ignored, especially when you had a number of us offering advice that you never really acknowledged.  Yes this is a place to get support, but sometimes facing constructive criticism hurts.  How do you expect to change if you aren't willing to confront the unpleasant facts?  You agree you have problems, but do you actually want to change things about yourself that hold you back?  What most people are saying is that you came wanting our input then disregarded it and even argued against most of the advice.  Did you not actually WANT advice?  If so, next time specify you're just venting.  Otherwise people feel like they've wasted their breath.  You need to understand that people aren't going to sympathise with you when you A) won't learn from your mistakes and B) won't help yourself.

Well, I'll still sympathize with you when you don't learn from your mistakes and when you won't help yourself, because I've been there.

Quote from: JohnAlex on November 16, 2011, 10:17:52 PM
Well, I'll still sympathize with you when you don't learn from your mistakes and when you won't help yourself, because I've been there.

+1

Some on here have been pretty douchey.

Turns out he's an insensitive prick and I just don't want to be pregnant because he said he would deny it if I was and plus that's my worst nightmare. Thanks for replying to my post, everyone.

JohnAlex: Yes, I read your post and I did put some thought into it. I've been thinking about what everyone else said too.

he would deny it

Hence court-ordered paternity tests.  He could deny it all he wants, but when the DNA comes back he better get ready to start ponying up the checks every month for the next 20 years