Quote from: Kreuzfidel on November 16, 2011, 09:24:54 PM
I don't think that "mean" is as sufficient as "frustrated".  No one wants to be ignored, especially when you had a number of us offering advice that you never really acknowledged.  Yes this is a place to get support, but sometimes facing constructive criticism hurts.  How do you expect to change if you aren't willing to confront the unpleasant facts?  You agree you have problems, but do you actually want to change things about yourself that hold you back?  What most people are saying is that you came wanting our input then disregarded it and even argued against most of the advice.  Did you not actually WANT advice?  If so, next time specify you're just venting.  Otherwise people feel like they've wasted their breath.  You need to understand that people aren't going to sympathize with you when you A) won't learn from your mistakes and B) won't help yourself.

^This

You claim that you have self hatred and you do things you don't want because you can't say no - well, how are you going to change that? If you thought everyone here was just going to virtually pat you on the back and go, "aww poor dude that sucks, hope it gets better", that may sound cool but that is not advice and it's a little lackluster even as simple consolation. And if you're going to turn around and and then be all, "people are so mean!" then you're going to just keep doing the same thing over and over. Sounds to me like that's what you want to do ... just keep having sex with guys just because you can or that you want to destroy your life by putting yourself at risk for pregnancy or diseases ... and then post about it on a message board where everyone tried to help you. You claim you hate attention ... well why were you posting exactly? You had a couple questions - people answered those. You explained your situation and people offered advice. Some people pointed out that it seems you've been doing the same thing over and over and pointed that out. What is it you want?

Um, maybe because I'm confused and have no one to tell me what I should do. All I was really asking is if I could get pregnant from pre cum and I asked why would I want to have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to. Jesus Christ. A few people answered the first question and a couple answered my second question but the rest of you started talking about something I wasn't asking for.

Quote from: Slytherin17 on November 17, 2011, 12:40:18 AM
Um, maybe because I'm confused and have no one to tell me what I should do. All I was really asking is if I could get pregnant from pre cum and I asked why would I want to have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to. Jesus Christ. A few people answered the first question and a couple answered my second question but the rest of you started talking about something I wasn't asking for.

I recommend a therapist. And if you think the rest of us have all just been talking about something you weren't "asking for" then none of what any of us said actually sunk in. You can't just go on a message board and and say (after we've all recommended things you should do), "I have no one to tell me what I should do".

Quote from: Slytherin17 on November 17, 2011, 12:40:18 AM
Um, maybe because I'm confused and have no one to tell me what I should do. All I was really asking is if I could get pregnant from pre cum and I asked why would I want to have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to. Jesus Christ. A few people answered the first question and a couple answered my second question but the rest of you started talking about something I wasn't asking for.

Actually..you only asked one question (about the pre-ejaculate).  The other was a statement.  How is anyone else supposed to know why you're having sex with these guys?  I think most of us are just frustrated, like Kreuzfidel said.  You've made similar threads and posts before, asking for advice, but you seemingly never take it to heart.  So yeah, people are going to get upset.  You say you have no one to "tell" you what to do.  Here are a good number of guys (and girls) giving you suggestions, advice, and support.  Either take it or don't, but you really should learn to take responsibility for your actions.

I asked why would I want to have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to

Because if your doing it right good sex is it's own reward.  You don't have to have attachment to make it great.  You do have to have control however.