According to a dream dictionary I have lets pick out some specifics: [The Complete Book of Dreams & Dreaming by Pamela Ball] This isn't meant to tell you entirely what it means, just maybe some info that may help (or may not). I am not a dream expert myself. Not even a amateur lol. Its the book talking.
[I looked up information on nightmares]
Sometimes in dreams there is an intensity of emotion which can be extremely frightening. One of the features of nightmares is feeling stuck in impossible situations or of trying to escape. Often there appears to be no explanation for this until we explore past experiences and anxieties. Being able to disentangle such disturbing images, and treat them in isolation, breings greater understanding of our doubts and fears.
Nightmares arise from 6 main causes
1. Childhood memories of intense emotions.
2. Childhood fears including fear of being attacked, and anxiety of one's internal drives. This may be to do with the child's need for survival.
3. Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome
4. Fear of the Future will arise as fears connected with aggressin, sexuality, and fear of change and growth. It is the fear of the unknown.
5. Sense of foreboding. People are capable of picking up information on a subliminal level, without being able to understand that information.
6. Serious illness with all its fear surrounding death.
Recurring dreams can have an element of anxiety about them. They are triggered by anxiety.
[I tried to find some making out references]
Kissing When we dream of Kissing someone it can suggest an acceptance of a new relationship with that person. We are sealing a pact. Being kissed indicates that we are appreciated and loved for ourselves.
Intercourse (Petting) The wish or need to be able to communicate with someone on a very intimate level can translate into intercourse in a dream.
Intercourse Interupted The dreamer may have inhibitions of which he or she is not consciously aware.
[as for you and Jocelyn and or Josh, I tried to look up what the people might mean]
People The people in our dreams are the characters which we write our "play". Often they appear simply as themselves, particularly if they are people we know or have a relationship with in the here and now. We may introduce them in order to highlight a specific quality or characteristic. We may also permit them into our dream scenario as projections of our inner life or state of being. Finally, they may signify someone who is more important than the dreamer.
In order to disentangle the various types of 'information' which each character brings to the dreamer, it is often necessary to decide what or who each one makes us think of. That way we will reveal the deeper meanings and connections.
Man Any Man appearing in a dream shows an aspect of facet of the dreamer's character in a recognisable form. Each of Us has a repertoire or portfolio of behavior, some of which are acceptable and some of which are not. In dreams those behaviors and characteristics can be magnified so that they are easily identified, often as personalities. By working with the characteristic, more energy and power becomes available. Even when we are threatened by a negative character trait, we can still access room for improvement.
A man in a dream can Identify the Shadow for a man, and the Animus (masculine self) for a woman. The Shadow appears in a dream as the person whom the dreamer fails to recognise; a vague instinctual figure, somtimes standing behind the dreamer. Often the initially this figure appears to be the opposite sex of the dreamer and can therfore be confused with the animus or anima. It is only later that it is accepted as the same sex. It is the part of his/her potential that the dreamer never developed; this is the neglected side of the individual. It contains those aspects of his/her character that have already been thwarted and frustrated; but above all, parts which have never been recognized.
Old man = innate wisdom, large man= strength, certainties, and protection which our basic beliefs give us. A man in a woman's dream signifies the logical masculine side of her nature. She has, or can develop , all the aspects of the masculine which enable her to function with success in the external world. If the man is one she knows or loves, she may be trying to understand her relationship with him. An unknown man is generally that part of the dreamer's personality which is not recognized. In a woman's dream it is the masculine side of herself (animus and or shadow), and the man's dream it is the self.
Woman Any woman (friend or family member) often represents aspects of one's own personality, but often one not yet fully understood. In a man's dream such a figure denotes his relationship with his own feelings and with his intuitive self. It may also denote and show how hre relates to his female partner. Unknown woman It represents a anima (feminine self) in a male and the Shadow in a woman's.
Everyone has his or her individual Shadow, and it is nearly always the worst side of themselves. One way to consciously meet the shadow is to think of all the things we dislike most about people, add to it everything we find hard to deal with in people's treatment of fellow people, and imagine what sort of a person this would be. At first reaction , we are thankful we are not lie that, but if we ask our family and loved ones if they can perceive those qualities within us, the answer will probably be yes. When we can honestly sit down and pinpoint the behavior patterns within ourselves, we are moving towards wholeness. Often we will have the obsessive dislike of one particular set of characteristics, which if we are honest, frighten us because they are only just below the surface within ourselves. The Shadow may appear in our dreams as someone we heartily dislike, are afraid of, or envy, but whom we cannot ignore. We begin to grow when we realise that some change in circumstance has given us opportunity to bring it to the surface rather than ignore it in the hope that it will go away.
Villian Archetype The villian is completely selfishly involved, not caring who he tramples on in his search. He is often the aspect of masculinity women first meet in everyday relationships, so can remain in dream images as a threatening figure if she has not come to terms with his selfishness.
[Other part of dream you may consider, that I can look up if you want]
Also the environment (buildings, setting, rooms, location) would help explain the constructs (beliefs and attitude) one has for the situation.
[Hope the book helps or at least helps you think about it. Kendra/Ken]
