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Which community do you feel most comfortable hanging out with?

Started by MsDazzler, November 23, 2011, 12:13:22 AM

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MsDazzler

Interesting, interesting.... for me, personally, I feel very comfortable with straight natal females, gay natal males, and very selectively some trans women.

My reasons for each:

Straight natal females = the very epitome of who I am and want to be, good tutors in all female ways, fun to go out with to straight bars/clubs

Gay natal males = heck, I used to be gay so I still have tons of gay friends who I haven't lost when I transitioned :) fortunately for me, they are pretty well-educated about transgender people, I know many gay men are not

Very selectively "some trans women" = I am all for hanging out with my trans sisters, but I do not like the drama queens or bitchy ones... or the ones who stroll down and up on the street at all hours in cheap dresses that barely hug their asses and stilletos. lol. I like trans women who actually have an education, are cool, mature, and do not have a cocky attitude just because they have implants.

Other than that, I am a very private person, and like someone else mentioned above, don't become friends with someone right away easily. :)
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LordKAT

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MsDazzler

Quote from: LordKAT on November 24, 2011, 10:38:36 AM
I prefer to NOT hang out in any society.

Really? Then what do you do, hole up at home 24/7 with a laptop?  >:-)
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Pica Pica

I prefer to hang out with groups that have variety - so no all male/female straight/gay stuff for me. Indeed, I tend to leave events monopolised by one kind of viewpoint or background.

My current group that I go for drinks with has a gay gay, three straight ones, seven straight women (predominantly Scottish) and me. Between them they speak 5 languages (and Scottish) and the conversations flow around the topics nicely and naturally.
'For the circle may be squared with rising and swelling.' Kit Smart
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MsDazzler

I wanted to clarify - I do not seek out people solely based on their sexual orientations or gender!  :o It is just that I tend to happen to gravitate towards those communities that I feel most comfortable with.  8)

*** Edited the thread's original title to reflect my intention more accurately ***
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Sunnynight

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Princess of Hearts

I don't hang out with anybody, I am not a mixer or a 'scene' person at all.

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Lily

Quote from: Happy Girl! on November 24, 2011, 06:29:23 PM
I don't hang out with anybody, I am not a mixer or a 'scene' person at all.

I tend to be the same way. I hate parties and groups. Everything I do is in duos.
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Joeyboo~ :3

I don't get along with most girls.
Guys only, orientation doesn't matter.
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Meshi

Community?? lol what is that?  i think it is fictitious.
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Silas

I tend to hang out mostly with guys, I think, but I prefer the company of somewhat feminine/androgynous people as a whole, sex and gender aside. I don't have a ton of friends -- I'd count at least five -- two girls (one straight, one gay), three guys (two straight, one I don't know -- but if he's straight, then AAAWWWW  >:-) ) haaha.

I really like genderqueer and agender people, though I don't know any in person. -waves Forever Alone flag-
Oddly, I seem to get along best with gay/bi/pan/etc. girls and feminine black guys. It's fun.
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annette

I like to hang out with people I like, their gender or sexual attraction isn't important to me.
I also don't believe in some kind of community, we are people, we are all on this world and we have to live together in a proper way.
It doesn't matter or a friend of my is straight, gay or whatever, the only thing that matters for friendship is the person
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Rebekah with a K-A-H

Quote from: Whitney on November 23, 2011, 12:26:49 AM
Girls who wear flannel. I'm loose about how you define girl, but flannel, that's not budging.  :laugh:

Whitney, you seem pretty cool.  I'm making this judgment based solely on your approval of flannel.  I feel this is appropriate.

Seriously, though.  I don't choose to hang out with "people who are trans" or "people who are cis".  I do, however, hang out with lesbians.  Because, yo.  They're women who like women.  And as a woman who likes women, that's pretty rad.
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EmmaM

I hang out with nerd guys and (for some unknown reason) hispanic women. How this happens, I don't know.
Loved.
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Joeyboo~ :3

Quote from: EmmaM on November 25, 2011, 01:53:40 AM
(for some unknown reason) hispanic women. How this happens, I don't know.

So... whatcha doing Saturday night..?
creepycreepycreepy.
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EmmaM

Quote from: JoeyD on November 25, 2011, 01:54:53 AM
So... whatcha doing Saturday night..?
creepycreepycreepy.

Nothing, and I just got paid  ;)
creepyrightback
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MsDazzler

Quote from: Silas on November 25, 2011, 01:11:34 AM

I really like genderqueer and agender people, though I don't know any in person. -waves Forever Alone flag-
Oddly, I seem to get along best with gay/bi/pan/etc. girls and feminine black guys. It's fun.

It is interesting... I have gone to several queer and genderqueer bars and parties, but never felt like I fit in. Probably because I identify as being a heterosexual woman strongly so I tend to feel comfortable with others who have either male or female identities, rather than andro or queer.

Not that there is nothing wrong with that... I live with a roommate who identifies as "ze" and prefers to be andro/ambigious. We get along fine but we have very different circles of friends and preferences for bars/clubs.
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Vicky Thomas

I have only experienced straight and bisexuals where i live, dont know anyone transgendered at all ! My closest female friend knows a few trans people, but she dont even know about me so cant ask her to introduce us..... cant bare the thought of telling her, we have been closer then close if you know what i mean, i think it might ruin our friendship. But then again i think she might already have suspicions...... the other day i went to see her and she had just done her smokey eye makeup, so i complimented her on how hot she looked and she said " should let me do yours" ! HAHAHA !!! So is any trans on here from Worcestershire, England that would like to make a new friend ???
     Vicki x
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Naturally Blonde

I am most comfortable hanging out with everyday straight people! I don't hang out with any other genre.
Living in the real world, not a fantasy
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Jaime

Your average people critter types, I suppose. Although, typically the older ones and most often couples, even though I am single. I have a couple gay friends, but they're neighbors as well. Not too many transpeople where I live although some good friends have a trans daughter that I've only met once.
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