Kia Ora,

Do you take offence easy, or do you let it just roll off like water on a duck's back ? 

No matter what a member writes there will be other members who might find it somewhat offensive...

Now for the most part they are ONLY words, that ones eye or ear consciousness makes contact with, then a feeling  of like, dislike, or indifference arises...Then some tend to cling to the feelings that have arisen from this contact allowing these feelings to grow[and at times fester]...

Why is it that words written or spoken by one person   can cause such a reaction in another person ?   

After all they are ONLY words,[and for that matter 'cyber' words] it's not as if someone as physically punched the other person in the face,  but judging by the reactions of some, one would think this is the case....

I have my theory, but would like to get some feed back from both the 'easily offended'  and the 'water off a duck' s back' people... 

Metta Zenda
 

I am easily offended by some things, but I know I have my buttons and personal triggers so I try to stay levelheaded.

Quote from: Felix on November 24, 2011, 10:19:12 PM
I am easily offended by some things, but I know I have my buttons and personal triggers so I try to stay levelheaded.

Kia Ora Felix,

Now just out of interest if I was to ask you[or other members who are reading this] what is it that 'feels' offended, could you pin point who or what takes offence? What's generating the feelings ? Are they coming from an outside source? or from within ?

It's a interesting exercise to think about what it is that causes those feelings...Is it words ? but if this is the case, why is it the same words possibly in a different context are used on a daily bases and you don't react to them in the same way...

The more you explore, the less you will react to outside sources....

Metta Zenda

I guess you could say it's not difficult to offend me. Depending on the context, I don't always get angry with the other person for what happened or what was said. I tend to feel more embarrassment than anything else.

Just being asked that highly offends me!!! JK.. or am i?

Kia Ora ShortNsweet,

In the English language we say "I 'take' offence "...so it would seem it's a 'choice', and being a 'choice' one would 'think' one would 'not' take offence, because the feelings that arise if a person 'takes' offence are normally not that pleasant...

Metta Zenda

Quote from: _Mango_ on November 24, 2011, 10:49:11 PM
Just being asked that highly offends me!!! JK.. or am i?

Kia Ora Mango,

I have the power to make other people feel offended  I could have a lot of fun with this new found power     

Metta Zenda

I get offended when people make too many assumptions about broad sections of society.

I also feel hurt and edgy when people are mean to one another.

I'm starting to get offended when trans* people get mis-gendered.
It really pisses me off.
Even if it was a mistake, I feel bad for them.

Kia ora Zenda

I suppose it depends on the subject matter.   I don't like swearing so anything with swearing in it will offend me.  However, I actively enjoy controversial subjects that can and do offend people.

I get easily offended but I try not to show it.

You have got to be /seriously/ trying to ruffle me before I'll get irked. It takes a lot to bother me; I just don't 'stress'. But then, I'm Buddhist, so... Yeah, it takes a lot, haha

Kia Ora Zenda

Is good to see you are still around  . For a while I thought you were gone 

Back to the thread: I am easily offended, but I quickly forget and forgive 

I'm usually not easily offended because I see getting offended over someone else's words silly.  I can't think of anything right now that offends me other than someone saying I'm uneducated/ignorant/etc. or that I don't do my research.  As a history major where research is my bread and butter, that offends me greatly.   I research everything of a particular subject.

Not offended at all. I'm kind of a self-centered ass, so other people's opinions just don't matter that much to me.

I used to be easily offended when someone would call me by my male name or misgender me. This, in the very first few months of being full time. It felt hurtful, and that pain would clinge as if it was real, I could actually feel a wound. I tried really hard to not think about it, but it felt awful. As things progressed, I became more secure of who I am, and these days, I would not feel so hurt if it happened.

I wans't sure if I passed back then, I was still dealing with anxiety issues and was building the foundation for my gender identification. So being called the other gender while all this was going on, was maddening. These days these issues are solved, so, the offense would hurt much less.

All in all, I am fairly capable of letting other things pass by without feeling offended. They, the words, just brush bywithout much damage.