so i was planning on making a new baby book for my mother for christmas. she has tons of albums of old pictures of me. so i went through them one day without telling her and took out 50 of them so i could make copies without her knowing because her christmas present is suposed o be a surprise.

but she found the envelope of pictures in my room and took it. since i couldnt find it i asked her if she took  an envelope out of my room then she said she did and started yelling at me saying that i cant take her stuff without asking. i told her i just wanted to make copies but she keeps saying that i should have just asked.

so i need to get the envelope back to complete her gift but she wont give it bak and she is still made at me. the only way i can get it back is to tell her why i need it but by telling her i ruin the gift.

so i can try to convince her to give them to me, i can tell her, i can steal them back making her angrier, or i can just give up the whole gift idea. what do you think is the best thing to do?

Just tell her you need the pictures because you're using them to make her a christmas present. That way you don't have to tell her what the present is going to be so it will still be a surprise and just reassure her that she'll get the original pictures back.

I would give up the idea and give her something else. The photos of you are probably a touchy subject for her. I'm guessing she doesn't want you messing with her memories.

Personally, I'd scrap the idea.  But if you're really determined to do this, say that you're working on a project and will return all of the originals to her within x amount of time.  Consider this though...if she's this angry now, how do you think she'll react later?  Baby pictures can be extremely important to some parents and "re-writing" history may be difficult for her and may cause more trouble than it's worth.

Don't abandon the plan, put it on the back burner and wait until her birthday or next Christmas. And next time, don't get caught! Rookie whippersnapper. Hugs, Tracey

Not suggesting you do this but if I was you, I'd tell her what it was for just to make her feel bad and then not do it at all.

I agree with Tracy don't give up on doing it. I think its a sweet idea. Just wait it out and go for a different gift for now.

Quote from: Gifted on November 25, 2011, 04:16:29 PM
Not suggesting you do this but if I was you, I'd tell her what it was for just to make her feel bad and then not do it at all.

Lol that's really vindictive. Not criticizing, but glad you're not my kid. xD

There's really no need to be like that with your parents. Plenty of time to get back at them when you're selecting their nursing home! Hugs, Tracey

QuoteNot criticizing, but glad you're not my kid

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QuoteThere's really no need to be like that with your parents. Plenty of time to get back at them when you're selecting their nursing home

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Quote from: Gifted on November 25, 2011, 04:16:29 PMNot suggesting you do this but if I was you, I'd tell her what it was for just to make her feel bad and then not do it at all.

Are you guys kidding?  I would TOTALLY do this.  Yeah, it's vindictive, but that's who I am.  His mom's being the ass here, time to lay the guilt trip on her.  what, like parents don't do that to their kids too?

Now putting someone in a horrible nursing home when their old and decrepit to get back at them for things they did when I was a child, now THAT'S really vindictive.  I wouldn't do that. I wouldn't hold my anger for that long.

Quote from: skakid on November 24, 2011, 02:06:58 PM
Just tell her you need the pictures because you're using them to make her a christmas present. That way you don't have to tell her what the present is going to be so it will still be a surprise and just reassure her that she'll get the original pictures back.

I'd go with this, after all she'll figure out the Christmas present eventually (like when she gets it). You may make it less surprising but it'll still be a meaningful gift with a lot of work put into it, and she'll know how much work you put into it.

OK, if you say so. Think about this, though. After a lifetime of playing "It's OK to guilt trip people" your kids will be picking your nursing home. Enjoy your stay at the Bedpan Inn! Hugs, Tracey

Thus why I'm not having kids.
And I'll have make sure I have my last years planned out before hand.