Now I've mentioned before that I actually don't really feel any body dysphoria.  My body doesn't bother me so long as people can see me and treat me like a guy.  unfortunately, when they see I have boobs, they see me and treat me like a girl, so then I do feel a real need to change my body to be happy.

But it's these kinds of things that give me real dysphoria:




I was walking through the mall we have here, I was trying to find a gender neutral or handicap bathroom, or even just any kind of single room bathroom.  There were NONE whatsoever in the whole entire mall.  And just as I turned the corner to look in the last place the map said there were bathrooms, I see this, what I took a picture of.  Just taunting me.  Clearly separated gender lines.  "People who wear dresses in here."   " People who wear pants in here."  I just hate having to see something that so strictly separates the sexes.  It makes me feel angry, and then just depressed.  really depressed.  I guess this is my dysphoria.


and btw, I ended up just having to hold it until I took the bus home to use the bathroom. very uncomfortable.

How awesome would it be to see instead of the huge gray wall in the middle a genderless bathroom? Womens on left mens on right and for those who are inbetween the giant middle bathroom. One you can use and no one else in there says anything or cares. Why cause you just need to pee wash up and go. Does it really need to be full of stress NO. Sadly for so many of us it is and we hold it and kill our bladders for it.

Quote from: Wesley_33 on November 26, 2011, 08:13:49 PMHow awesome would it be to see instead of the huge gray wall in the middle a genderless bathroom? Womens on left mens on right and for those who are inbetween the giant middle bathroom. One you can use and no one else in there says anything or cares. Why cause you just need to pee wash up and go. Does it really need to be full of stress NO. Sadly for so many of us it is and we hold it and kill our bladders for it.

Oh, that's be perfect!   I'd love that.  and yeah, I really just want to pee and go.  I honestly don't care if I have to use the women's, it's just that I get kicked out of the women's, and I'm not confident enough to use the men's.  I just want to pee in peace!

I have more than once in the past walked confidently and unthinkingly toward the bathrooms and then just froze right about where that cone is. Like a deer in the headlights until somebody walks up and then I'd rush into one of the bathrooms and still feel bad whichever I chose.

*shudder*

The problem's not completely gone for me now, but it has gotten a lot easier. I usually pass well, and I pretend to be passing well even when I feel like I'm not.

Quote from: Felix on November 27, 2011, 01:30:04 AM
The problem's not completely gone for me now, but it has gotten a lot easier. I usually pass well, and I pretend to be passing well even when I feel like I'm not.

This 100%. It sucks for me because I've got like...the most ridiculously nervous/overactive bladder in the history of touchy bladders. I piss like 5-6 times before I leave the house, no clue why. Possibly because I constantly drink tea. Either way, it makes the bathroom anxiety all the worse...stupid bathrooms.