Ok well ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years  until one night he tried on a pair of my panties as a joke and he wouldnt stop talking about it so i asked him and he confesed to being a criossdresser. At first i wanted to run but i stayed open minded and we discussed it but now hes so into it he doesnt even think about how i feel aboutr it and i have no clue how to deal with it and i feel so alone! could someone please help me?!?

if it makes you unhappy now and you feel like running then run.  there are lots of other guys out there.  CDs make life difficult in lots of ways.

I love him too much and ive long gotten over the feeling of wanting to run. its just hes trying to hard to make it easy on me and hes almost forgeting im here for him

you're contradicting yourself.
good luck.

I think we need a lot more info. He likes to wear panties? He wants to dress up as a fetish thingy (don't get upset), he wants to be a French Maid, be spanked etc etc. He wants to be seen as woman? He is a woman? He wants to be seen as male? He is male?

Lots and lots of straight guys want to try on female clothing. We look so goddam sexy that men often just want to try it. Men are totally visual, they think you are orgasming wearing a nice dress. As for sexy lingerie they cannot think how you can even walk without having an orgasm.  Ah get real, we don't feel like that, we feel nice, I feel cute, I feel relaxed. I have enjoyed getting ready, I'm keen to hang out with my female friends, yes we will check each other out. And I feel great. But that's it.

This might sound really silly. Many men will fantasise about being a beautiful stripper and they will masturbate to it. Why? Because in their minds /fantasy she can have sex at any time and is constantly orgasmic. Reality isn't an option with Testoterone   Of course there are many who do not and will fantasise about being with the stripper. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. It doesn't mean that you are inadequate. It is just things that guys do.

Talk to him.

For Christmas give him a pair of sexy panties, a tube of  hand cream and a note saying I want to watch.

Talk openly, it is probably a fantasy, tell him yours and enjoy yourselves.

You might like being a bit dominant

Cindy

Hi Teddy    Welcome to Susan's

Quite a few crossdressers have girlfriends    I respect the fact that he had the balls and was honest enough to come out to you, this means he loves you

I would imagine that he probably does care about how you feel about it, but he also knows that he isn't able to change... As far as dealing with it, be playful, play dress up with him

If you find that it is to much for you and can't deal, maybe it's time to take a look at your options

Wishing you all the best 

Hugs

- Virginia

no tht wasnt her (i took her phone when she fell asleep) it seems like tht to her but she doesnt get im trying to help. it weirded her out so bad at first tht i couldnt stand to let her ever actually be a part of it.   

Virginia- this is teddys boyfriend. weve tried playing dress up once but she said i was going to fast but i couldnt control myself i was just so excited to finally let her see the real me and when she started crying i told her shed never see this part of me again. its just a jumbled mess

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