Hey everyone,

I've been looking for a Forum such as this for quiet some time. And I finally found it! And I'm glad it uses SMF ^^. I'm glad to see such a group of people like this come together to help everyone else out, it warms my heart ^^.

So here's my story...
I was born Male. I decided to have my 'girly-name' Alexa because of my name Alex. I've been doing things like a normal girl would. Except I'm in a Male body. Which is preventing me to be myself.

I've been making little changes in daily life recently that help me feel more like 'myself' but not fully, things like, handwriting, sitting posture, standing, and the list basically goes on.

I've already came out to my best friend to this. She is 100% supportive to me about this. I've read some stories about people trying to come out to friends and family and it not going too well, and I'm sort of afraid of that.

One of my biggest fear is 'Shopping' no doubt any girl would love it, but what I mean by that is Clothes shopping.. Mainly within the area of the 'Women Clothes'. I guess what I'm trying to say right now is that I want to know how to shop for Pants, shirts, girl stuff without getting the "What the hell are you doing in this area?" look, or someone come up to me and say "Can I help you there?".

I don't feel like a Male, I feel like a Female, and I'm confused... Bleh

-Alexa

Alexa,

Come on in!  Now don't be shy, you are among friends here.  Great job in posting an introdiction.  I hope there will be much more to come as you make friends and feel more comfortable.

But for now, enjoy your stay.  Glad you found Susan's!

Kristi

Welcome to Susan's Alexa! VERY nice to meet you and thank you for the lovely introduction. It is nice when someone new says  hello!
There are many forums in here that you can get great info from and lots of people who can offer plenty of advice.

WRT buying clothes...I am not TS so I imagine it has to be difficult and it's not like ya wanna just go in and buy things without trying them on either. This is a tough one for me to advise on. My gut says just do it. BUT that takes a lot of courage and you say you are shy.

You could always just buy a few things without trying them on and if they dont fit take them back. Say you bought them for a girlfriend but they didnt fit.

Welcome to susans.  Well, When I was just starting out, My girlfriend went with me to help select clothing the first time or too.  So much easier and no one does a double take.  Plus you'll get valued imput on what looks good on you too.  My fashion sense has really improved. 

Beni

i hope and i think you will be ok. everything's going to be alright.

Welcome and be welcome. Take your time and be careful.

all i can say right now from only gut instinct from me to you in this moment.

Lovingly always,


ChefAnnagirl

Quote from: togetherwecan on March 23, 2007, 09:52:40 PM
You could always just buy a few things without trying them on and if they dont fit take them back. Say you bought them for a girlfriend but they didnt fit.

That's good... I'll poke around in some other forums for a bit ^^.

-Alexa

Welcome Alexa!  No reason to be shy.  You're among friends.

As for clothes shopping it's like going swimming.  The best way to start is to just dive right in.  After a while you'll notice people really don't care.  One time I spent about an hour in the lingerie department trying to find the right bra (I was in drab back then).  When I went to the checkout, the lady at the register complimented me on putting so much thought in the lingerie I was buying for my wife.  That was all the encouragement I needed!

Julie

Yeah, nothing happens - or so I hear. I decided to wait until I passed - but that was just me.

Welcome!

Bri

When I was first starting out Id go with my ex fience... she had a great eye for sizes....  that was about it LoL,  no sence of style...  Anyways you could go that rout if you have a female friend you feel comfortable with...  Id just signal my ex with a yes or no nod when shed hold something up....  Gods... I nodded yes on too many things that turned out horrable but *shrugs*  atleast I know better now LoL

Anyways, Welcome to susans, your amongst friends here... and feel free to come join us in Chat if your ever up to it 

Quote from: Brianna on March 24, 2007, 03:26:28 PM
Yeah, nothing happens - or so I hear. I decided to wait until I passed - but that was just me.

Yep, there isn't really all that much to worry about.

Before I was comfortable and confident wearing feminine clothing in public, I used to be so paranoid about buying clothes. But I don't think I ever had one bad reaction. I even had a woman measure and fit me for a bra while dressed in "male" attire - no trying to pass that off as "I'm buying it for my girlfriend", I was so nervous I almost passed out  -   she didn't bat an eyelid, and spent about half an hour bringing me different bras that she thought I might like. When it comes down to it, in the majority of cases no-one is going to give a damn. Youre a paying customer - they aren't generally going to be doing anything to change that.

But anyway, nice to meet you Alexa, and I hope you enjoy your stay .

Megan

you'd be amazed at what you can find online

Just a quick Hi

Hope you make many friends and get loads a good advice.

I like to E-bay stuff.

and if you dont like it sell it again..

Nice to meet you Alexa. Welcome aboard!

I was terrified at shopping at first, but as most have said..once you start, there is no big deal around the issue most of the time. I find most of the sales people very friendly. It also helps that I've begun to develop the 'it's their problem' attitude when I'm out as myself.

Rhonda

Quote from: LynnER on March 24, 2007, 03:33:36 PM
Id just signal my ex with a yes or no nod when shed hold something up...

LOL, my wife does that too for me... only she holds them up *against* me, lol.

"Gee honey, BIT obvious, don't ya think?

"Get over it."

She SO loves that line.

Timely to read this, as I SO badly need to run into Kohl's and grab some spring/summer polo shirts tonight... but I've been terrified to go without her. Ironically, I think poking around looking at tops and jeans is more odd than looking at lingerie or something. I mean, lingerie you MIGHT just be buying a birthday present or something, but "men" don't browse through the women's levis and dockers so much, lol..

Kate