Now I am not just talking about becoming a woman and being at peace with yourself.
Do you want to find someone that you can be with for a long time, or play the field. My self I don't think I am ready to settle down in a cozy little house with one guy forever. I guess I don't want to think that if I was to find mister right, I better grab him and hold on. I just hate limiting myself.
Truly I can picture myself in one of those "Girls Gone Wild" videos. Even though I am to old for that stuff now, I still have some wild oats to sew. I want to experience as much as being a woman as I can. I do know alot of my frustrations come from being on the ranch alone and being dressed in jeans and boots for the most part. When I do get a chance to get out I tend to go a little crazy. You city girls get to mingle all the time. I do miss some of that.
Just my take

Deb

Well, I have a few after-SRS goals like taking dancing lessons, going hang gliding, perhaps do some travelling and a few other things like that.  Currently I have a girlfriend and the prospects look good, so I don't have any plans to be looking for anyone.  For me, I have already done so many things since going fulltime, that my list of things to experience is quite small.  It's mostly about finishing getting my body in line with how I feel.

Quote from: debisl on March 27, 2007, 10:18:39 AMI do know alot of my frustrations come from being on the ranch alone and being dressed in jeans and boots for the most part. When I do get a chance to get out I tend to go a little crazy. You city girls get to mingle all the time. I do miss some of that.

Yeah, it is nice to get out and I do enjoy living in the city and being around people.  I also like getting dressed up and am happy with my job in that it frequently gives me the opportunity to do so.  Hopefully you will eventually be able to get out more.

Melissa

Quote from: debisl on March 27, 2007, 10:18:39 AM
My self I don't think I am ready to settle down in a cozy little house with one guy forever...

IF my wife and I split, that's exactly what I want. Need.

More than I think I'm willing to admit.

And we adopt, or he brings a child from a prior relationship.

Picket fence. Garden. Soccer games. Colds. Bills. Pizza friday nights. Mad at him for being late. Mad at him for not getting that I need him to make me feel safe so I can just CRY sometimes - no reasons or explanations. Doing everything I can to make him feel adored and taken care of. Worry I'm getting old and fat and he no longer finds me pretty or cute...

But mostly just loving him and our child in every way, and never letting them forget it.

Kate

Going to college to work towards a PhD. Which may have to start before SRS in order that I might be able to afford it.

For relationships, though I feel like I "should" be doing something about those wild oats, in reality whenever I find a woman I like I just want to be exclusive with her. So I think monogamy is probably best for me.

It is hard to think about because it is so far away, being still at the beginning and all.  I do want to find someone (a female someone)to love and to love me, and live together somewhere nice and coastal.  I want to find a good career in a field that can promote my creativity, and one I can enjoy.  I would say the most important thing right now though is getting to SRS, after that i can find a way to branch out with my creative side......heck, being comfortable in my own body will probably make it easier to let my imagination go outward to do what i want.

I'm going to bike from California to the southern tip of South America, then take a boat to Antarctica and visit the lonely scientists to see what's up.  Then I'll come back home.

After that, I intend to change the world. 

Romantic relationships are never on the agenda.  I prefer to see them as "things that happen" along the course of my life, and however long they stay a part of my journey is a matter of chance.  I think the idea of one person selfishly hogging my intimacy for the rest of this life is absurd.  I don't know who came up with the concept, really.

~ Blair

I am some what of a romantic, I have sewed my oats, although it would be alot of fun to do a few things as a fully functioning female. My BF being in the conservative corporate world I am sure we would get married, lots of folks in his office ask so when are you going to ask her that sort of stuff. So for me I would be happy as the housewife

I need a roll in the hay...

edit: decided to make a proper post.


I've been thinking allot about GRS and recently i've had allot of contact with peeps of the opinion that I should just accept my body and be comforable with it, and logically I'm thinking "why can't I just accept how i am , plenty of potential partners would like me as is" then I try to think this through and I just can't be comfortable, there's a huge mental block there. The phallic nature of it, the look of it, how it feels to have it, urrg. it's just wrong on a very deep down level and no amount of therapy or reconciliation in the world could fix that bar GRS.

so, life after GRS, I think it'll be pretty similar to life before GRS just with one major stress taken out of my life, and every now and again I may roll around in some hay.

I did have my SRS 19 years ago.  I decided to pursue the things that I could do and let the personal relationships develop as they may.  I was very lucky to run into this fellow up in the mountains on a backpacking trip.  I was with a guy and so was he.  I thought he was gay but he was totally and undeniably straight. I asked him about his water filter and he showed me how it worked. He asked me for my number and I gave it to him thinking that he'd be a fun hiking partner. We ended up backpacking together on some monster trips.

He chased after me until I caught him.  With all the turbulance that TS issues can bring to a life, he has been very gentle and accepting. He is a jewel and I love him so much.

I've had many goals in my life and I've been able to succeed with most of them. I have some new ones.  Most have to do with retirement planning (we are going to retire oh so early!). We want to do some travelling.  I have some more writing projects in the works. I need to find some new techy gadget thingy to design, build, and sell.  I'm thinking of winding down my current business within the next couple of years.  I'm definitely interested in making more music and my local participation in that activity is signicantly up.

Yes, there have been some tough times.  There have been some dreadfully sad times. But my life has been so wonderful.  I hope that the second half is nearly as exciting!

Cindi

that sounds so wonderful Cindi

I had gender reassignment in 2005.  My desires are to married with my fiance and travel all over the world.

ambitious, i wish you luck with that

Dear Deb,

Actually it is good to be with number of people so that you know who you want for a partner.
............

If I would be lucky I would be happy to be with my wife.

Wendy

my grs is scheduled for august 29.  don't wanna think about it much because i'm terrified; im not fond of hospitals, lol.  dunno, to get a bit closer to my family and try to enjoy life as much as i can.

good luck with the big one katia

Quote from: Rachel on March 29, 2007, 12:58:56 AM
good luck with the big one katia

thank you rachel.

After GRS?!?

I want to wear one of those barely leagle bikinies just one time atleast  XD  yeah, Im evil...

Aside from that Id love to just have a fairly normal life, find a boyfriend, maby one day get married, addopt kids unless science finds a way for me to do it myself LoL <Ive never had the ability so it tears me appart> 
If I happen to end up a rockstar, have my pick of the crowd LoL, I dont know, Id probably go wild for a year or two.... but in the end a normal life sounds best...

A simple answer:  Live and let live

Probably not going to get into a relationship, but if the right girl or guy came along, I might. Not something I would actively pursue.

After MtF SRS(plus time to heal), I will probably become a transgender, atheist, communist, worker rights, pro choice, anti government, pro hacker, pro information activist.