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Tips for losing virginity?

Started by McCartney, January 08, 2012, 03:20:14 PM

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McCartney

Okay first, please don't tell me that I shouldn't be in a rush to lose it and stuff like that. I believe that I am of appropriate age and maturity and whatnot. Thanks a lot in advance :) I'd appreciate no negative responses lol thanks.

And also, will I still be a virgin if I wear a strap on?
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Zerro

Virginity is what you make of it, same goes for sex. Sex can be anything you want it to be, there is no "right" or "wrong" way to have sex because it all "counts".

If you really want to have sex using a packer/strap-on, put a condom on it. It may not be made of flesh and blood, but it can still pick up things from your partner's body or transfer things to the person being penetrated by it. Wash any toys used and sterilize them, too, even if you put a condom on. It's best to be clean and safe about sex, however you choose to have it.

I don't really know what else you're looking for. I'm assuming you're single/without a romantic or sexual partner and are just looking for a fling.

If you really, really want to experience sex, you could find a friend whom you are comfortable with and trust and develop a friends with benefits sort of deal, provided you are both consenting. If you work up trust and experience with a partner, sex will be much more enjoyable and comfortable for both of you.

I dunno what else to tell you other than to be safe and pay attention to how you and your partner(or partners, whatever works for you) are feeling.

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xander

Are you wanting tips on what kind of sexual activities to explore? Or how to get a partner?
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Kreuzfidel

Not sure what kind of tips you're looking for as your post is a bit vague, but Zerro has given you some excellent all-around advice that is applicable to any partner and situation.  As to your question, it depends on how you define virginity.
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JohnAlex

Well what are you looking for / expecting from experiencing sex?  I read in another post of yours that you're pre-T.  So if you do have sex, do you want it to be with someone who will see you as a guy?  Or just anyone who will help you get it over and done with?
Do you want it to be with a male or female?  how old are you?  just questions to help see your situation so we can give better advice.

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Annah

Tips:

1. Find a partner that you feel comfortable to have sex with.

2. The more you trust that person and the more they trust you, the easier sex will be in terms of communication.

3. Jumping into bed on a first date will not give you that sense of communication with your partner (especially regarding the nature of trans and what the partner knows or should know).

You may not want to hear about "waiting until you find someone you really like and trust but people usually say that because you get the best results.

I didn't sleep with my boyfriend until we knew each other greatly. I am glad I did that. I have also slept with a man without truly getting to know him, and I regret it to this day.
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insideontheoutside

Tip: don't get your hopes up/have any high expectations for a "first time".
"Let's conspire to ignite all the souls that would die just to feel alive."
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Natkat

the word "virgin" is strange ???.. I dont really consider myself a virgin and still once in a while, because theres things I havent tried yet.. ex I call myself girl-virgin because I never have been with a girl before and somethimes people had called me a virgin ex first time I had analsex, I got told I where a virgin because I only had tried phonesex and ->-bleeped-<-s before that...
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I guess the most simple way if your single.. is  to hook up with someone who only wants a one night stand, and who knows about you being trans.
make sure the person is into safe sex. uhm yeah and then find a place.. to do it.. ::)
also make sure its someone you just have alittle interest in, otherwise it wont really work out if you cant "get it up"
know what I mean.

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Sharky

Go to college. Seriously, you will be surrounded by ton of possible sex partners.
I wouldn't consider you a virgin if you used a strap on.
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Felix

Are you trying to figure out how to get laid? That's a little different than asking for pointers on some specific aspect of it. I'm not sure what to say.

One thing, though - if you have sex with a strap-on it's still sex.
everybody's house is haunted
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Guantanamera

From a biological male perspective, virginity means whatever you want to make out of it. Unlike some females, who break their hymen the first time they have penetrative sex, there are no categorical distinctions between pre- and post-virginity. (That is, you wouldn't be able to the difference between the two besides a smile and some sweat ;)

My advice, considering your male, you should just do whatever you want, have fun, and stop labeling yourself as a virgin.
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Felix

Lol, a smile and some sweat. That's so happy. :)
everybody's house is haunted
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Natkat

Quote from: Guantanamera on January 09, 2012, 12:10:32 AM
From a biological male perspective, virginity means whatever you want to make out of it. Unlike some females, who break their hymen the first time they have penetrative sex, there are no categorical distinctions between pre- and post-virginity. (That is, you wouldn't be able to the difference between the two besides a smile and some sweat ;)

My advice, considering your male, you should just do whatever you want, have fun, and stop labeling yourself as a virgin.

actually nothings who will "Break" the first time a female have sex.
it can bleed but its just because if shes not use to it, then she can get kinda tense and so on, and then its more easy to get small  scratch during sex.

so the myth of the "virgin line" are just another cis-gender belifs that the only right sex for girls are that way,
it can also bleed if you have anal sex and theres nothing there either who will "break" either.

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Leek

If what you want is to get laid as soon as possible:

If you're gay, go to a gay club, sit down in a seating area and try to look as boyish and defenseless as possible. You will be up to your neck in penis in no time. Granted, there is a 60 to 75% chance that it will be middle-aged penis, but hey, penis is penis.

If you're not gay, become gay and then follow the above instructions because girls don't give out sex like brochures the way guys do. (Usually.)

If you don't wish to go to a club, then post an ad on craigslist in the trans section saying: "Transman seeking NSA sex tonight with [insert what kind of partner you want here]." If it is a man you desire, expect responses to flood in, some of which will be confused ->-bleeped-<-s who misunderstood and thought you meant you were a transwoman, but most of which will be gay / bi men who like or are curious about men who have vaginas. (Most of them will want to top you--fair warning.) If it is women you want, expect fewer responses.

Either way, be sure to use connies, lest you catch something painful.

(And, about the other thing, I think whether you're a virgin or not is something you have to decide. Sex is sex, but what it means is up to you. Personally, I don't really believe in the whole virginity thing--I think it's a made-up concept that people came up with a long time ago to judge a female's virtue and nothing more. I don't think it was relevant then, and I don't think it's relevant now, especially in regards to a male.)
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Ryno

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PixieBoy

Get a partner and start snuggling one day on the couch and see if something leads to another with that person, maybe it will. Be very stern about your personal integrity and don't let anyone do stuff to you that you don't want them do (of course, treat others with the same respect as well). Find someone in your area on the internet, I don't know a lot about that stuff, sorry. Girls are generally harder to find that guys on such sites. Always practice safe sex, better safe than sorry in matters like these, yeah?

Good luck!
...that fey-looking freak kid with too many books and too much bodily fat
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anibioman

i think using a strap on is considered losing your virginity, thats how intend on misplacing it.

the most important thing is to do it with someone you trust completely that is the most important factor that will make or break your first time.

this is all the advice i can give since i havent done it yet.