Quote from: espo on January 05, 2012, 09:10:09 PM
Have you ever run across someone thats always positive and happy like life is just so eff'n wonderful and nothing ever goes wrong, everything is good and everything makes them happy and no one says anything mean to them, just really nice things because they are just so awesome and lucky.  Do you think people like that are full of it, just pretending in public but when they are by themselves they cry themselves to sleep like everyone else ?

Personally, I think it's very shallow to condemn someone for having a happy life. Just as I think it is shallow for someone to condemn another for being depressed.

Quote from: R&T-Place on January 07, 2012, 06:07:42 AM
an uncured growth disorder has caused a few extreme facial deformities that only around %0.5 of female population, and around %5 of the male population has. These few extreme features have caused severe bullying, discrimination, and self-hate in both my female and male "zones". I feel ugly as a male, I feel ugly as a female, and get told it regularly when I try to express either/or gender. I'm proud of most things about my slender body, and I know I'm lucky to have some managable traits like low weight (115lbs) and short stature, but I have a face that is beyond masculine and it really gets me down. It is indeed related to a health issue that should have been corrected, and has required surgery and still does. If I had gotten treatments in the beginning, my face wouldn't have grow to such proportions. To be happy, most people require health, which reflects in physical appearance. Most folks need social acceptance, which usually is based on appearance. Most people need to excel at their talents, which depending on the talent, can be hindered by physical appearance.

you really should post what is related to the thread than copying and posting the same thing over 350 times. Stay on topic

Quote from: Pica Pica on January 08, 2012, 05:46:53 PM
I used to be very unhappy, worrying about things going wrong but since then, with the exception of my health (touch wood) many of the things I feared would go wrong, many the humiliations and failures I hoped I wouldn't make, happened and oddly enough, it wasn't so bad.

Especially as my sense of my self, who I am and what I did became stronger as I went on, I realised all I needed was a little bit of warmth, nutrition, distraction and conversation to make me content, and a little more of those things to make me happy. Doesn't mean I don't get down on occasion, frustrated by late buses and irritated by people etc.. and there are always those days when the sky feels too heavy for you - but a little bit of good luck (a very little bit) or a cup of tea that tastes really good, or a joke from a friend - reminds that things aren't so bad. And they really aren't, you just need to know what the very least you need to be content and learn to recognise when life exceeds that.

Awesome post, thank you. And ya,  and there are always those days when the sky feels too heavy for you, thats beautiful.

I used to be of the fake happy type...I suppose it's more of a "everything's perfectly fine and happy" type when everything wasn't.  So the opposite of Pica, kind of?  I eventually realized that I didn't need to put on like that and I just relaxed in general.  Finding the balance and realizing that we're all about the same when you get down to it really helped me.  I've met people who were like me and I've met people who were so ridiculously negative that I am naturally distrustful of either; not distrustful of the people, but of those facades.  I think it's helped me see beyond people's outward performances, allowing me to see them as more...human, if that makes sense. 

people who arealways appear happy in my experience are either faking it because they can't handle the idea that others will see them as low as they feel other people have lived a life where they have come out of somesort of hell and see life without there old problem as so much better then before that they are truly happy now.  I hope to overcome a dew more issues so that my life will truely be happy have overcome a lot and I'm happier then I once was but not all the time