Its been half a week sence this happened and I still cant get it out of my head...  Ive never in my life been so humiliated as I was on sunday night.....

I went out with a coupple of friends for some drinks on sunday night,  pretty normal actualy, we had a fairly good time and everything was cool right?  Well the friends I got a ride with were too drunk to drive, again kinda normal...

My so called best friend was there,  we'll call him the smurf at this point in time,  I dont want to give out his real name but smurf fits heh <yeah, Im still mad>  He offered to take everyone home <I cant drive my other friends car cuz its standard> but refused to take me unless I went in Drab.  "Dude, I cant have you in my truck like that... if we get pulled over it could get me in big troubble"  Hes a customs officer and if he should get pulled over the full poliece report ends up on his CO's desk.  I tried to find another ride with little sucess, and I didnt have the money for a taxi across town 

He gave me a teeshirt, a beat up pair of shoes and told me to wash off all my makeup... He made a huge sceen about it... Insisted on calling me "dude" or by my brith name, or the alteration of my birthname that my "friends" used to call me...  I felt trapped, and I felt as I had no choice... *Sighs* So I do all that, and then he tells me to go back and take off my fake boobs. This is the only good part of the story... I reached into my purse and handed them to him and just walked out.....

This was the person I considered my best friend, someone who said they would stand by me and support me period...  This is the one guy who stood my whole suicide watch...  I feel betrayed, humiliated and just so throughly ticked at myself for not standing my ground... All I do know, is our friendship is over, and that in itsself is a crying shame.  *Sighs*

I seriously dont understand... is it sudenly a crime to be seen with a TS in your truck, is it sudenly a crime to be TS... I just dont (Enter explictives here) get it.

I hope you don't see this guy ever again.  He's not your friend.

Oh, what I want to do... AFTER I get my car back, is go where ever hes hanging out, with one of my trustworthy friends who has a camara... Sit in his lap and plant a big one on him, flash of the camara at the same time then forward the pics to his CO.  Just to prove nothing will come of it... cept he might get introubble for being a federal officer at a bar with a lady in his lap.

Though my other thought of walking in, slappig him hard across the face and then throwing a drink on him imdeiatly afterwards then storming off seems fun too heheheh.

Lynner I am so sorry the Smurf is such an idiot. Even people who say they are our real friends have their prejudices and fears. Obviously and unexcusedly the idea of being pulled over and his CO finding out about his best firend the TS was too much for his Smurf brain to deal with (at least that night). Your firendship has gone thru a lot of cycles thru this and maybe trying to have a talk - facing him and getting things off your chest before you leave town would be good and healthy for YOU and maybe even for him too.
*tight hugs* I think you are beautiful and I would never do such a thing to you or Brooke or anyone.

.....................

Let's catily gossip on the phone about this later.

Bri

PS- You know of my contempt for this person. Comeon, sweetie. These people are NOT your friends. They're fracking #$&^ heads.

Quote from: LynnER on March 28, 2007, 03:00:39 AM
Though my other thought of walking in, slappig him hard across the face and then throwing a drink on him imdeiatly afterwards then storming off seems fun too heheheh.

ROFL, oh I LOVE it!

But... maybe talk to him before dumping him? At least you'll know HE knows how deeply he hurt you

From the other things you've said, it does sound like he cares for you - though how he could hurt you like that if he DOES care is beyond me.

Kate

Kate, just trust me. This person is not human enough to feel that - but Lynner can speak for herself.

Bri

I like the photo idea, myself.  Even if something does come of it, you can just tell him that now he has a small inkling of how you and other TS people feel because of abusive spatula-humpers like him.

Ilsa

Quote from: LynnER on March 28, 2007, 03:00:39 AM
.....my other thought of walking in, slappig him hard across the face and then throwing a drink on him imdeiatly afterwards then storming off seems fun too heheheh.

LynnER...................first, let me say I'm sorry you learned tha hard way who one of your friends is NOT.  Secondly, please....do NOT do anything that could get you arrested.  Even only slapping is considered assault by law, in every state. 
I don't have an alternate 'get even' for you, but then, his worst fate is, you will continue to change and improve..........he will be the same (fill in the blank) forever.

Bev

I think I like my first idea better.

He called earlyer today wanting to go to the movies, even offered to pay, but Id have to go in Drab if I wanted to ride with him...   I let it go to voicemail, Im still too upset to see or talk to him at this point.

Quote from: Tink on March 28, 2007, 06:18:08 PM

Quote from: Yvonne on March 28, 2007, 02:57:03 AM
I hope you don't see this guy ever again.  He's not your friend.

I agree.  One time, my therapist said something very important to me.  "Tink, stay away from those who make you feel less than a person, even if those people are family members or best friends.  Build relationships that are constructive in nature and get rid of everything that isn't".

tink

Id have to agree here,  its just sad when everything has been "going well" for so long then all collapses under you...  I have 3 people left in El Paso I can count as actual friends... thats it... Total friends nation wide Id say 4 or 5 (In person met face to face and hang out with friends)    I used to have a great support structure, but now its barebones and Im really not sure what to think or do about it. 

Quote from: LynnER on March 28, 2007, 06:21:23 PM

Id have to agree here,  its just sad when everything has been "going well" for so long then all collapses under you...  I have 3 people left in El Paso I can count as actual friends... thats it... Total friends nation wide Id say 4 or 5 (In person met face to face and hang out with friends)    I used to have a great support structure, but now its barebones and Im really not sure what to think or do about it. 

Lynn, sometimes having one true friend in the entire universe is all you need.  What is the point of having five or ten "friends" if you can't share with them your most intimate feelings?  Just my thoughts.  Chin up! 

tink

Quote from: LynnER on March 28, 2007, 06:17:42 PM


He called earlyer today wanting to go to the movies, even offered to pay, but Id have to go in Drab if I wanted to ride with him...   I let it go to voicemail, Im still too upset to see or talk to him at this point.

How about telling this jerk that the Standards of Care for your medical condition prohibit your dressing in en drab while in the RLE. 

Robyn

He dosnt undestand that kind of logic....  called me allsorts of things when I pointed out my theory of the MtF and the bible LoL.  Its sad really... his closest friends are now spurning him for his actions that night...  Noone will hang out with him anymore... even if it means giveing up free drinks, movies, rides and so on....   Last night I went to a bar he and I used to frequent often pre FT, and I was beyond welcomed by the entie staff.... Other than asking what name I went by now they didnt do a single thing to blow my cover.  Was kinda funny, they asked where the smurf was sence it was allways he and I... and when we said off on his own, the bartender said,  "Good... he was such a smug A---- anyway"

Lynn, you know the old saying, "With friends like that, who needs enemies."  In this case, it sounds like it's true.  I don't know your history with Smurf, how long you've been supposed friends but it's sad when someone you thought a friend turns out to be just an acquaintance.  Tink, Bri and others are right.  You need to distance yourself from this person.

Beverly

LynnER,

I just want to add that when a door shuts... so opens a window.  I think it's time to pull back the curtains and open the shades....

Sometimes you have to "shake the dust from your boots" and walk away.

LGF

Too bad you don't have any solo pictures of your former friend doing something stupid. Otherwise I would suggest putting them on /b/, because there's nothing more awful than anonymous like the rest of us. >:3

-- Bridget

Im sorry your friend turned on you, it must feel horrible to think that one you thought so close to you could violate you in that way.  I hope that karma comes and bite him in the butt, like it does to everyone else.  Just remember that we here would always be here for you, because we understand and we love you to death. -big hug-

Dear LynnER,

Sorry so many people are insensitive.  It really hurts when you think they are your friends.

However finding real close friends that will stick with you in a tight spot is a nice treat.

Wendy

Lynn,

Let it go.  Get your car and get your face out of there. You've been on that picket fence too long.  I'm thinking that youve been piked into place!

Cindi