Hi Timelost Lady,
A big welcome to Susan's. The best family on the web. And sometimes in real life. You are a very brave person indeed. Not only surviving your military service, but more so revealing your true self to your family.
I commend you on such a monumental stride forward. In the wake of this momentous occasion, might I suggest you seek out a TG therapist who can offer guidance and support for you both over the coming months. You in particular are headed for major realignment, mentally, physically and emotionally. Your wife will also undergo substantial changes to her thinking, perception and emotions. A therapist or psychologist can provide critical support and advice in areas of relationship concerns.
There is a section here for Significant Others that may be able to provide additional support. You have a lot of old baggage to unload from your past. Don't worry, you are in the right place at the right time. There are many here who have walked the same path as you. You are among friends.
Look forward to hearing more from you both in the coming months. Keep in touch and let us know how you are coping. In the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine
